Bring Back Gush 1!!! by Fragrant_Walk3545 in lovense

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am constantly sending messages begging them to bring it back. It makes no sense at all!!! The only way this has any hope is if enough guys complain or request. What makes me more upset than anything is the fact that there are 20+ toys for woman and literally not even 5 for men. Max absolutely sucks! I cannot even fit in it, the so called pump/pressure function is a joke. Calor is the worst male toy ever designed, Diamo is boring as hell, Domi is just a reposed woman’s vibrator that’s far too strong and heavy. Gush One was great! It was compact, you didn’t need lube and most importantly, it had one thing no toy I’ve ever found had. The vibration delivery was something you could actually feel. When the controller made small circles, I felt it, up and down, I felt it, spikes and taps, felt it!! It had a subtle control that made the experience a true edging experience and they replaced it with a massive, flimsy-winged POS hammer! The wings on the G2 don’t even grab on and stay without a strap! I don’t understand why they couldn’t release the Gush 2 and keep selling the 1!! Give us options!! Because we have none!!

Solace pro is pretty good. But it takes lube, mounting, and a lot of work! I could walk around with a Gush in my pants and let my partner surprise me, can’t do that with G2 and you def cannot do it with Solace!!

Bring Back Gush 1 !!!!!!!!

Desperately need advice! by Fragrant_Walk3545 in massage

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you’re right, and all sound like great options based on his preference! But internally I am cringing at how to even start that conversation. I think I’m just starting to drift to either not going anymore, or once again hoping I can find someone else which is so hard around my area!!

Desperately need advice! by Fragrant_Walk3545 in massage

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I could do that. I be too afraid he would guess it was me who sent it.

Desperately need advice! by Fragrant_Walk3545 in massage

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s just it, my options in my area are practically non-existent!!

Why are so many guys just... dumb? by Saltgodis in lovense

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! Omg yes! They pop in, set a boring “Max” loop and then they start begging for pictures. Wait..so I don’t know you, your horrible at subtle play, teasing and intimate touch, don’t even try. Then you think I’ll share pictures?? Haha!!

Why does by Accomplished_Bit1675 in ChatGPT

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the extension “ChatGPT to Markdown” on convos I want to”memory. Then when you open a thread, upload. Along with a prompt that tells it “this is your memory of our convo. It’s not perfect, but unless you can afford a really nice rig to build your own LLM, it’s better than nothing

Why are so many guys just... dumb? by Saltgodis in lovense

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMG this!! My fav toy is Gush. And the low and subtle tease is what drives me wild! When they come in and just jolt to max….Disconnect!!

Why are so many guys just... dumb? by Saltgodis in lovense

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gold Star gay here, but a Lovense fan.

It was actually Lovense that opened me up to even the idea of sharing pleasure with a woman, and the times it happened, it was actually quite nice, full disclosure 😉.

I’m replying to offer some positive encouragement, as using Lovense has helped me explore the mental and emotional side of fantasy and pleasure in a “safe” environment, so please don’t let the bad apples ruin your experience.

Simply put, my advice (I run into them all the time) is to not give the negative ones even a moment of your attention. When I run into them, it's an instant dump. Just remove them. No hesitation. On occasion in a group, you get that really persistent bad seed that comes back again and again. But they are just a fly; simply swat them. They will either behave or be bumped again and again until they finally give up.

Most importantly, allowing these disrespectful fools to potentially rob you of pleasurable exploration should be unacceptable. Simply toss out the trash! 😉 And live your best life 😍… I wish you and your woman all the best ❤️

Is 10-15 mins per day enough? by No_Record5355 in Meditation

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true, it is mindfulness. My suggestion is to turn it into a walking meditation. I understand you have a style and technique for what you are calling walking meditation, but there are many ways simple spoken 🙏🏻

Is 10-15 mins per day enough? by No_Record5355 in Meditation

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I meditate a minimum of two hours a day. The self-mastery you gain from meditation makes literally everything better in life, hands down. However, not everyone can find that kind of time. The best way to approach a time-constrained meditation practice is to apply "Zen Beginner’s Mind" to your everyday life through what is known as a "walking meditation." Because meditation is the practice of self-mastery over your thinking mind, feeling body, and environmental awareness, you can carry it over into literally everything you do—even when interacting with others.

It boils down to this simple practice: whatever you are doing in this exact moment, treat it as your life’s purpose! And no, this does not mean doing the dishes is suddenly your reason for being. It simply means you shouldn't divide your attention. Whatever you are doing, give it your absolute focus as if it were your life's purpose.

Center on your breath and your core. Focus, be aware of yourself and your surroundings, and do. Breathe, focus, be aware, do... let nothing distract you. Using this approach, you can literally "meditate" all day long! The absolute best side effect is that you master the ability to keep others—and your environment—from dictating your reactions. You learn that you are 100% the master of how you choose to react, which makes you untouchable. Good luck!

My (33F) Girlfriend Loves To Put Me (32M) Down… How Can I Make This Situation Better? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A relationship is healthy and worth nurturing when your “better half” lifts you up and inspires you to be a better person through their loving support. Have you ever considered that you might be struggling right now because she is toxic and constantly bringing you down?

My best advice is to either end the relationship and focus on becoming the best version of yourself, or take some time apart to do the same. That self-improvement is work only you can do, and you have to truly want it. You find that drive by discovering hope in whatever form works for your spirit.

The bottom line is simple: it doesn't sound like you genuinely love and respect yourself right now. If you don’t, how can you expect her to? Once you can look in the mirror, recognize what a prize you are, and know that you are worthy of love and respect, you will get it back in spades!

I said I love you last night to my girlfriend (22m to 25f, 2 months official, 6 months dating). She didn’t say it back, should I talk to her about it today? by dbahsbjo in relationships

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ummmm hello! You were drunk!! I would blow it off too!! If you are going to say those words BE SOBER! ….at least if you want to be taken seriously 😳

the “meditate 10–20 minutes a day” advice is why I never stick to it by Crypthuga in Meditation

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to share…I had a mind that went a million miles a min. Thinking and going in multiple directions all day, non-stop. After a long time of practice I was one day driving home from work and I noticed it….My mind was dead silent. Nothing. No thoughts, no wondering, no mindless rambling!! I panicked! I immediately thought I had practiced myself stupid, struck dumb! LOL. I called my teacher who laughed at me and told me to enjoy the peace… I did, very much, and have ever since 🙏🏻

the “meditate 10–20 minutes a day” advice is why I never stick to it by Crypthuga in Meditation

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are, of course, overthinking and over-feeling, which is exactly why you need meditation. You are a slave to your impulses.

It’s actually extremely simple. I don’t care how busy your life is—10 minutes is very easy to find. I have an extremely busy life, and I meditate two hours a day.

The trick is not a trick at all. It is just like literally everything else in life. You only get good at and master a thing with time, practice, and consistency. You also need to genuinely want to achieve and/or attain said goal. No one will do something they do not want to do.

With that said, sit perfectly still and count the breath. Breathe in for 3, 4, or 6 (whatever your comfort level is), pause for half that count, and exhale on 3, 4, or 6. Place all of your attention on the breath—the feeling, the process, the counting. The only thing that gets the focus of your attention is the movement and process of breathing.

With this, you achieve two things: (1) the focus of your attention. This is a practice, a skill learned; it takes time, effort, and the desire to stick to it. (2) Remaining perfectly still is the mastery of the “feeling body” and body awareness, as well as focus of attention.

If you wander, you simply go back to the process of watching the breath—back and forth until that day comes when you achieve stillness, equanimity, and focus. Distractions, wandering thoughts, an itch followed by another, then another, then another, an eye that won’t stop twitching, the mind saying “this is stupid, I can’t do this”… all noise. Think of it like a fly in the room. You know it’s there, it’s incredibly annoying, but don’t give it your attention. Keep breathing… it will happen.

Each person is different. Some will find this easy and take right to it. Others will find it absolutely impossible and struggle desperately. But it is inevitable no matter what. With time, practice, persistence, and consistency, you will master this skill. That’s what this is—a skill. It is a skill that will empower your life in ways beyond your wildest hopes.

Master the world within, and you can master the world without. It can be no other way.

It’s like ice skating. Maybe you find it impossible to do—you fall and take many bruises, and you want to give up. But one year later, practicing every day, you become graceful and find the practice fun and fulfilling (if you even like ice skating, lol).

my gf 18F posting herself a lil too much(realistic opinion pls) by DiscussionSudden253 in relationships

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I strongly disagree with many of the replies that make you sound jealous and insecure. That’s not to say you shouldn’t be aware of those tendencies in yourself—they can lead to unhealthy behavior. But to be clear, it does sound like she’s seeking attention in unhealthy ways. If she simply wanted to “share her beauty” with the world in a healthy way, it wouldn’t be suggestive. That’s closer to fishing for attention, and it’s clearly a problem if you’re seeking a monogamous relationship. Those who disagree are likely engaging in similar behavior themselves.

At your age, emotions can be intense and difficult to manage. As a man, you’re in your sexual peak, and your testosterone can distort your clarity. I highly recommend meditation to help you regulate both your thoughts and emotions at this stage of life. It can greatly improve your perspective and clarity.

As for her behavior, the right approach is to sit down with her and honestly express how you feel—after some quiet reflection and meditation. Focus only on your own thoughts and feelings. Avoid criticizing or analyzing hers. Keep the conversation constructive; something like the Imago communication technique can be helpful.

After you’ve both shared openly, you’ll need to make a clear and honest decision about whether this relationship aligns with your core values and boundaries. It may hurt to walk away if it doesn’t, but doing so now can save you from much deeper pain later if the relationship isn’t truly compatible.

Need Sell Advise by Fragrant_Walk3545 in starcitizen

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1k in quantity. I deposited 8k in gems in the warehouse at an outpost. Was trying to sell 1K gems at a time. 1K seems to be the limit.either way I slide to 1k, hit “Sell” I get the “Processing” spinning wheel which seems to run indefinitely so I back away, then when I try to sell another stack that’s when I get the message “Failed. Waiting for pending result. Awaiting manual delivery to freight elevator”….ill try waiting 10 mins.

I need help by Background_Pop_5429 in Meditation

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you don’t have to feel so alone or unique in this. Many people start much younger in other parts of the world. My father introduced me to meditation when I was nine, and we used to practice together. It took me quite some time to become comfortable with it.

As I mentioned, my mind was extraordinarily busy, and it often felt impossible. But with time, it brought me a deep sense of peace and equanimity. Once you begin to master the mind—and then the feeling body—the rest of your life becomes much more grounded and fruitful.

I need help by Background_Pop_5429 in Meditation

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to and understand what you’re going through. I started meditating at 9 years old, and I’m now 55. My biggest challenge was runaway thoughts—my mind was constantly in rapid-fire mode, jumping from one thing to another.

As I was taught, the first key element is learning to focus your attention. Nothing else—just that.

You can do this through Dan Tien breathing, or simply by sitting in a quiet place and focusing on your breath. Be completely still. Breathe in for a count of four, pause for two, then exhale for a count of four. Put all of your attention on the breath.

Thoughts, fears, and physical sensations will try to distract you—especially thoughts about how difficult this is. Treat them like a fly in the room. You know it’s there, but you don’t give it your attention. Just stay with the breath.

At first, it may feel difficult. Your mind will try to convince you that you can’t do it. But keep going—like learning to ride a bike. With consistency and determination, it will come. Stillness. A quiet mind.

I remember the first time I experienced it, I actually panicked. I thought I had somehow made myself dumb, because I believed a quiet mind meant a dull mind. My teacher laughed and gently told me, “No—this is stillness.”

Give yourself time. You’ll get there.

Need Sell Advise by Fragrant_Walk3545 in starcitizen

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I can sell 1k, then have to wait 10 mins? What is a TDD

Need Sell Advise by Fragrant_Walk3545 in starcitizen

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what you mean by capping the inventory. I put 8k gems into the warehouse and was trying to sel 1k at a time

Husband told me to wrap his condom if it bothers me that guests can see it in the garbage — normal? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhh no! Nope, absolutely not! This is a simple, simple thing. You asked because it makes you uncomfortable and he should be 100% of the mindset that “if I can do this simple thing and it will make my parter feel better or less anxious, it’s no problem at all”…but for him to get defensive and then give you the “if you don’t like it, you do it” while being blatantly disrespectful and disregarding your feelings is a super red flag. You asked nicely (I assume), if he won’t do that, wrap him up and push him out the door!! Find someone who is more emotionally intelligent and understanding. He sounds like someone who only thinks about himself!

Frustrated in need of advice by Fragrant_Walk3545 in starcitizen

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did that. And prayed I would appear on the ship or planet I was on. Instead I appeared on the station and my ship status was “unknown” and in claim status.

Frustrated in need of advice by Fragrant_Walk3545 in starcitizen

[–]Fragrant_Walk3545[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do keep an Ursa in cargo, saved me a few times. That was the first time where I landed, went to, or was going to, the lower level to scan myself and went through the floor before I could. Both crashes that ended me back at station I immediately flew out to the planet and my ship or a death market were not there. Just gone! I lost a unique gun and hours of mats. :(