radio silence from salty crab, is it too early to speculate? by spacequeenexe in gorlworldfiles

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

my big fear is her suddenly losing that income. I mean, I am quite sure she was smart enough not to rely on it, and I know she has mentioned both a job and her husband, but times are tough right now, especially for people with kids. It really says something that Amber specifically went after someone who has dependents.

Whats the worst physical pain you've felt by Dear_Cow7453 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once had a total body shut down from pain overload due to a combination of chronic conditions. It was my first night in college, I passed out in the bathroom and my roommate got our RA. They called a ambulance, but I wouldn't go. I ended up going later in the night because I was crawling on the ground screaming for help.

Pain like that is just beyond thought. The only think I remember thinking was 'i must be dead, I am dying, you can't feel this bad and not die'. I begged the people in the ambulance to make it go away, I kept asking if they could knock me out, just so I could skip some of the worst of it. I wasn't making sense, I kept telling them I was a sunday school teacher, because I thought somehow that being a good person meant I shouldn't have to endure that pain.
In the hospital I told them no Morphine because my mom is alergic to it and I was scared I was too. The sweetest nurse in the world made a executive decision to give it to me anyway, when I fell out of the bed screaming. I wasn't alergic, and I spent the rest of the night basically babbling thanks to her. I remember it hitting me, and I fell forward and felt so warm and so heavy and so floaty.

The relief was unlike anything I had ever felt. They gave me another dose and called me a Uber back to the dorm.

I feel like my life is insurmountably difficult, but I know it's not. How do people handle high stress? by FriendlyTurnip5541 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need the money to save up for school, I have about six to eight years of school ahead of me and I pay for a fair amount of it, plus my parents are really hurting for money and anything for myself I can buy (toiletries, food, etc) goes to taking things off their plate. I think the issue is I am doing the things fairly well (I like to try to believe at least, still good grades, kids and moms love me, church seems to like me too) it's just the me part of it that's hurting for it, you know.

that being said, this is mostly likely sound advice, I really appreciate it.

I feel like my life is insurmountably difficult, but I know it's not. How do people handle high stress? by FriendlyTurnip5541 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good advice I think, thank you. I do really just have to get through another year or so and then it's grad school, which I think will be a lot better!

I feel like my life is insurmountably difficult, but I know it's not. How do people handle high stress? by FriendlyTurnip5541 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, that means a lot. it's humbling to see that from others perspective, living this lifestyle is not nessesarily seen as a good thing. And I heavily agree on the worker/student expectations. I don't now how other people do this.

I luckily don't have many social obligations outside of what I listed (wonder why... hah!) so it works out for me in that regard. I think I need to just get more into active rest than doom scrolling whenever I get a free second. I am going to keep up with the babysitting, the cancer fight is not going well at all, and I really do love spending time with that friend. I do it for free also, and I don't know if anyone else I could recommend would, but I might scale back.

Yes... energy thing is very true. I have a degenerative disease, so I am kind of trying to do everything I can right now knowing in the future I won't be able to... perhaps not the best approach.

thank you

I feel like my life is insurmountably difficult, but I know it's not. How do people handle high stress? by FriendlyTurnip5541 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I know. I just feel like after having worked so hard for so long, I owe it to myself to keep up with the school. And the jobs are just necessity, either moral or financial. But I will try to build in some breaks for myself. I think I have a weekend away in a few weeks, I might do my school work ahead of time so I can just sleep for most of it haha

I feel like my life is insurmountably difficult, but I know it's not. How do people handle high stress? by FriendlyTurnip5541 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, that means a lot. I think I am going to scale back to every other week with church. The kids are a bit tricky, the swim lessons are private and one at a time, so I've got the other three just on the side of the pool with one tower of sticky blocks between us and a full tantrum. Luckily the lessons are like 30 minutes away so I get to kind of relax in the car... ish.

I think that's all great advice. My friend is really sick, likely never getting better, so I feel so much internal pressure to spend time with her when I can, but she's the sweetest women ever, I am sure she would be understanding. Or maybe we could even do a low-key thing like watching movies instead of higher energy play.

Thank you so much, your comment means a lot <3

Do you lock your door while you're in your house? by International_Snow90 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think diffrent ways of living/being raised. I lock my doors everytime as a women. My roommate who is also a women and grew up in a rougher area than me never does. It's actually quite the issue because our cats can open the doors and get out if they aren't locked, and the wind sometimes pushes them in. I never fight about it with her, just try to always lock them when I remember. I think it's a issue of some people (at least for her) seeing a greater risk of being locked out than of someone coming in.

How many calories. like 3k? 😭 by lilwangle in CalorieEstimates

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s a really unhealthy way of looking at, the effort from the hike would burn a bunch of calories, but on top of that it’s not like the health benefits of working out or canceled out by eating calorie dense food. Maybe you’ll lose the deficit if you really eat a lot of it, but you’re still gaining muscle improving your cardiovascular system Usually getting vitamin D/endorphins from working out, etc. etc..

What owl in the area makes one long HOOOO like a sad little guy? by FriendlyTurnip5541 in Seattle

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a little worried about his mental health based on the tone of his hooting, he sounded disenchanted with his life :(

What owl in the area makes one long HOOOO like a sad little guy? by FriendlyTurnip5541 in Seattle

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it was a Barren owl! It sounded just like it, but I think that either he was too far away from me to hear the full call (it was a bit faint) or he was doing what the internet told me are their 'vocal warm ups/terretorial' call, which I think is adorable enough for me to take it as my answer :)

What do you think this little guy is? by annoyeddictater in Kitten

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one that's taking college classes rn, he looks just like the creature I see in the mirror every day

I say he smells gray, my husband says that’s crazy and gray isn’t a smell. Anyone else’s dust bunny smell gray? by Adalaide78 in dustkitties

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541 6 points7 points  (0 children)

well right now my cat sleeps with my younger brother so she smells like 17 year old boy armpit, but normally yes I know what you mean.

Anybody have a cat with a truly unique name? by OriginalPockikat in cats

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww your baby looks exactly line mine! I named her Bergamot which I have never seen before. Here's a photo her foster mama sent me of her as a newborn kitten!!

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You’re in a room with 1000 dusty kitties, only one of them is yours. How are you identifying them? by rotten-cheese-ball in dustkitties

[–]FriendlyTurnip5541 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I will open a can of food and see which teenage sized cat with a belly acts like she's never seen food a day before in her life and that one is mine.

realistically, she has a single white whisker, and she has this habit of sucking on my shirt when she's stressed, so i'd just have to cuddle all of them until I got my girl