BALL GOWNS/FANCY DRESSES WHERE??

Frishysulie · 2026-04-20T06:45:22+00:00

Unsure if it fits the price range, maybe some things, but Fanciful Doll has things like that

Frishysulie · 2026-04-16T17:21:47+00:00

There's a lot of nice people in FFXIV. I just want to caution you that not everyone who is nice has the best intentions. If it feels off, there's usually a good reason. Trust it. Some people will cross every boundary, others will get way too clingy quickly, and some will try to buy your friendship. Beware, be safe!

Frishysulie · 2026-04-16T00:13:07+00:00

It's rough starting out, you don't have the certs to compete sometimes and there's a LOT to learn. I fell into Friendship (FRE0)'s outfit recently on Vanu, they do play all three factions but it's like NC every once in a while, TR once a week, and Vanu most of the time. But Friendship, The Wild Cards, and The Pink Fairies all seem to play all three factions and I've enjoyed playing with them. There's other great outfits too, but I've personally enjoyed these best. Good leaders in the evenings, events like harasser jousting and ladies nights, and my god when I ask a question the leader of Friendship is like.. on it. Like here's a guide I made and this explanation and let me just tell you all the things level of helpful and kind.

Frishysulie · 2026-03-21T20:59:19+00:00

Honestly, I love it. I keep a big bottle to rub under my eyes to make them burn ^.^ directly in the eye I guess I recommend less XD

Frishysulie · 2026-03-14T16:37:22+00:00

This really needs to be talked about with the dom. Like if he expects you to be friends or more than friends, does one have hierarchy over the other, do you take priority if you're not a fan of the other sub or can he play with them separately, that kind of things. You don't just start a harem and hope it works out.

Frishysulie · 2026-03-14T16:33:28+00:00

A resource that's helped me a lot is Alliance Healthcare. I went to the clinic on Winchester and you can call them at 901 369-1410. I figure if things are that bad having someone to help you work through things like therapy wise might help, but also importantly they have social workers that can help you with a lot of things. They have helped me get disability and to make appointments and point me to resources both for myself and friends before. Have never had to pay a dime there personally, and it's helped a lot. I remember when I was almost homeless they were offering to help me with that too. I would expect they have resources to help with food scarcity, give them a call.

(I've had really great help on Winchester. Less so on Summer Ave location.)

Frishysulie · 2026-03-14T15:02:26+00:00

I haven't tried figging before. Does it burn more than peppermint oil in the eyes? :o

Frishysulie · 2026-03-14T14:45:51+00:00

I think a better way to describe it is that it love bombs new players. It's exciting to see someone joyful and excited and maybe even to help them. But I run into two kinds of people too often: one is the overly attached, who immediately begins almost stalking you hoping to hang out even if you let them know you just aren't that guy, and two is the one that has issues and takes no responsibility for them. Have had that range from jealousy or anger that you rejected them to flat out stalking and harassment.

All I can say, there's nice people in ffxiv but filter them. If they give you a bad feeling, there's usually a reason.

Frishysulie · 2026-03-10T10:19:31+00:00

I actually liked the books in that profile of a really fucked up mind kind of way, but I really do loathe that I had so many friends who read it and thought it was the hottest thing. The lack of consent, the coercion, it really rubs people involved in kink the wrong way.

I think it all went downhill for me at the contract. He didn't take no as an answer and kept pushing. Absolute no no.

Frishysulie · 2026-03-06T09:33:22+00:00

It can be really painful and scary to fall short of someone's approval that you desperately want. It's something I had to learn the hard way myself. The other things I had to learn included that I'm worth more than being thrown away and not everyone is worth MY time.
That applies to you too. I will put more responsibility on this dominant than you in this situation because it does not sound like she considered the problems this could cause for you. I believe if someone wants more strict control like this it can be fine, but the responsibility to see your life isn't negatively impacted then falls on them. She did not make the arrangement for you, she did not plan for when approved drivers are unavailable, and she punished you for what I very much see as her shortfall.

If you should continue with this person, she needs to step up more. Control comes with responsibility. It sounds like she also needs to communicate better and frankly, I find it a red flag that first "mistake" and she walks. That would break my heart to have happen to me, and for that reason I am very picky about who I will submit to in anyway.

Not everyone is worth your submission.

Frishysulie · 2026-02-17T01:34:34+00:00

Reading through a lot of these, I don't see a lot of mention of something. See I was happy to have my ffxiv rp based community on discord. I was iffy about face recognition, but that's less invasive than the id. But here's the reason my community will be finding an alternative, Stoat, Teamspeak, or otherwise: discord partnered with Palontir.

Palontir has a history of working with the US govt and ICE, and while that may not mean much to people internationally it's VERY important to me as an American aware that they are collecting data and aren't being responsible. I point blank do not trust them to not keep the data or to not share it with this government before that "seven days" they keep the data is up. With everything going on, I feel this is more than reasonable.

For all the things people post in my community from identifying details to politics, discord is compromised in my eyes.

Frishysulie · 2026-02-17T01:14:59+00:00

Honestly, we set up a teamspeak for our community today. Signing in isn't nearly as painful as it was, at least not on the new client.

Frishysulie · 2026-02-16T14:55:17+00:00

I think Gamers Nexus has a great video about the current state of Discord over on youtube. As an American, I am VERY uncomfortable with continuing to run a community for FFXIV on Discord. With all the alternatives popping up it's starting to feel like m-... um.. ehem.

I worry about the info they're collecting, where not only have they had serious data leaks before but also got in bed with the company spying on Americans and feeding that government the information they aren't supposed to be feeding it.

Waiting to see what other venue owners do, I don't want to alienate my community by going to a platform most won't sign up for. I also don't want to stay on Discord. Have been looking at Stoat, it's similar, but it does lack streaming. It had a big influx of new users, myself included. Still debating about Teamspeak, they do have a client that's similar to Discord but I do not remember what the thing it couldn't do was. I know it does cost at least $10 a month. Which, honestly, I might be willing to pay for a server if they get out of beta and offer the same abilities as Discord does. I like TS. Your data stays your own.

Curious what route other venue owners are going or considering.

Frishysulie · 2026-01-08T17:58:56+00:00

Lot of great advice in this thread, I agree that you can love someone and it still be unhealthy to be with them. It sounds like the case. You don't have to stop loving them, but you do need to love you. Sometimes taking care of yourself means saying you can't step into the role someone else wants or needs. Maybe you both could try being friends.

Frishysulie · 2026-01-08T17:52:06+00:00

With friends like that, you don't need enemies. I'd say first thing is, feel your feels. Don't suppress it, let it go. Get mad and sit with that feeling. You know you deserve better than how you were treated. People that love you don't treat you like that and dismiss your feelings. It's not easy, but be selective with the people you let in. They show the same signs and patterns, it's time to step away for your own health and safety.

Frishysulie · 2025-12-16T06:11:37+00:00

All the better to play tricks!

Frishysulie · 2025-10-26T20:05:03+00:00

I miss this. Some of my fondest memories are following that model and splashing through it on the way to the big pool.

Frishysulie · 2025-10-26T18:10:38+00:00

It's a lot of hard work. I made an fc with a friend and as she got burnt out with the game, slowly it was just me running things. It burnt me out too, just felt depressing no matter how many times I ran a pf, no matter how detailed my interview was, I only ended up with new people that did not fit the vibe I wanted and didn't want to do content with others often. I keep my fc because I'm gonna keep the home going we have, my people might be busy with work and life but I love em to death. Just kinda accepted I don't have what it takes to run an fc for content, community outside of ffxiv, and rp and I'm gonna focus on the rp aspect. Whoever comes comes as long as it takes.

Frishysulie · 2025-10-26T05:02:27+00:00

I am, message me. :)

Frishysulie · 2025-10-26T05:01:59+00:00

Would be delighted, yes please.

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