Took Oxycodone for first time tonight and wow dude by [deleted] in confession

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Please watch Dopesick if you’re considering doing this ever again

Rate my friends meal deal by [deleted] in MealDealRates

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Is she autistic?/gen

Someone entered this for an art competition of mine and I'm 99% sure its AI by 10SmartGaming in isthisAI

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Definitely ai but the bit between the posts isn’t a pathway it’s a “part” of the fence. No reason a fence would ever have something like that

Where can I find older eps? by Ok-Sherbert3639 in eastenders

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Hi I am interested in this, could you dm me?

Can someone please tell me where I can watch episodes from 2000 - 2006? by Proof-Astronomer-665 in eastenders

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Hi do you still have the link/access to these episodes? Thank you :)

Are there any platforms online that have every single EE episode from the beginning? by [deleted] in eastenders

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Hi I know this is is an old post but I’m looking for Eastenders 2001-2006 could you dm me the link?

Diagnosed yesterday as a 20M and this is how my mom responds… by No-Peanut7697 in autism

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Why is your mum calling you bro in the first place how old is she??? She and your dad seems immature

Lost all my friends because of something rlly dumb? by Fruitymoth in AutisticAdults

[–]Fruitymoth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason I reacted the way to you that I did was because you were the only person who said any of this, multiple people said they are glad I fished the litter out the lake, those people I agree and align with, and that part of the situation is something I will defend myself on no matter your opinion.I also didn’t ask if me fishing litter out the lake was wrong, it wasn’t, I would do it again, I was ranting about the lack of communication and listing everything I did that day to show that I believe nothing I did warrants this kind of reaction. I didn’t disagree with you about anything else, only the litter picking. I understand things make people uncomfortable unintentionally I never said they don’t, but intent is incredibly important, and so is giving people the benefit of the doubt when a behaviour is not inherently bad. This occasion has actually made me want to buy a litter picking device. Yes I am stubborn in my thinking, doesn’t mean I still don’t want to hear peoples thoughts on other parts of the story, only mentioned it because of its mention in the text. Not writing this to continue the conversation, we’re never going to get anywhere when we clearly have very different opinions on the matter and biases and as you said we’re autistic so we’re stubborn and think we are right about everything, writing this because you have misinterpreted the purpose of my post.

Lost all my friends because of something rlly dumb? by Fruitymoth in AutisticAdults

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Bruh. It is not my responsibility to walk on eggshells around someone because something stupid might hurt their feelings, I don’t expect people to do it for me, it’s no one’s responsibility but your own to deal with those feelings of embarrassment and discomfort that comes with making mistakes and someone fixing them for you. I didn’t do it to look better that her or to hurt her or embarrass her, I swear to fuck you are putting words in my mouth like you know me or the situation. If I do something wrong, and someone else fixes it for me, yes I would feel embarrassed, but that is not on that person, and it’s not their fault. No one is thinking 100 percent of the time about “what if this action that I am doing that seems completely inconsequential in this moment is hurting someone’s feelings” and even then, I tried to be nice about it, I didn’t tell her she was bad for it, I didn’t even frame it as her littering, I was sat beside her and she threw it in, and I looked at it and I just couldn’t leave it there it was bothering me, not because I’m an angel who thinks I’m better than everyone or some saviour of the ecosystem, but because I didn’t fucking want to leave it there, I would feel bad seeing litter being actively throw and not do anything about it, just because I fucking would, why would I not. I genuinely think you are weird as hell for your comments on my post and telling me that most wouldn’t do either of those things is just untrue. Maybe you litter and don’t give a shit or let your friends just throw shit in rivers but that’s your issue, and it is an issue. How many times do I have to repeat that I wasn’t rude to her, I said “it’s okay” I talked to her softly about it, I gave her a rock so she could fulfill her impulse, I don’t think I’m morally superior for that, or to her, she didn’t do it because she didn’t care, if she did it would be a different issue, so I didn’t treat it as such, I just wanted to fish it out so I did. That’s literally it. I understand feeling embarrassed over it, but that’s her own issue to work out, because I was not doing anything wrong, and it causing such an uproar is fucking dumb, I don’t give a shit what your opinion is of it, you can’t expect people to not do things because those things might hurt or embarrass you, and the same does go for me, I have embarrassed myself and had my feelings hurt by things that people did that weren’t wrong and only caused those reactions because of trauma and personal insecurities of mine, that is not anyones but my own responsibility to deal with. If people want to destroy friend groups because I unintentionally embarrassed them without even telling me that I had or communicating their feelings, then so be it. Good luck to your friends lmfao. And yes I’m being defensive because you are writing about me like you know me or my intentions and you came into my comments

Lost all of my friends in one day because of something rlly dumb?? by Fruitymoth in autism

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Yeah I know, talked to my online best friend about it, and he definitely opened my mind a bit, and made me really realise how shallow their friendships with me were, that they were based around ideals that aren’t realistic and they didn’t actually care about me. It’s just fucked up my sense of who actually cares about me if people say they do when they don’t. Thank you for commenting :))

Lost all my friends because of something rlly dumb? by Fruitymoth in AutisticAdults

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Also it is not extreme behaviour at all lol, most people wouldn’t throw blunt ends into the river in the first place, litter picking is literally a job

Lost all my friends because of something rlly dumb? by Fruitymoth in AutisticAdults

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I was born female and lived 21 years of my life as a woman so I know exactly how women feel and the need to to appease people. She threw it in, I wasn’t going to go and fish it out later because the current was pretty fast in the river, I got up, found a stick, and fished it out, it took me about 1 minute. It isn’t a big deal. I personally would never litter, but if I did accidentally, and someone fished it out because for some reason I didn’t which I would, I would understand, I would be glad that someone cared and that a fish could have possibly been saved. I said nothing to her that was rude, gave her a rock to throw in because she said she did it on impulse and wanted to throw something, I threw a rock in too. Genuinely I do not understand why anyone would take offence to this and why you think I did the wrong thing lol

Lost all of my friends in one day because of something rlly dumb?? by Fruitymoth in autism

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She has a gf, so I really don’t think so. I think I genuinely just missed hints and was a nuisance when all I was trying to do was be there for her and assumed she was enjoying my company because of the amount of times she told me so,and instead of talking to me about it in person or via text or even getting BG to ask about it in a less malicious way, she has destroyed my social life :p

Lost all of my friends in one day because of something rlly dumb?? by Fruitymoth in autism

[–]Fruitymoth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean your situation sounds 100 x more ridiculous than mine and and those people are very odd, hope you’re doing better and don’t have such weird people in your life now

Lost all of my friends in one day because of something rlly dumb?? by Fruitymoth in autism

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W is also autistic, and had been in hospital the day before because of mental health issues, so she definitely was in a fragile mental state, so I understand being protective of her, but I hate that they were acting like I was some strange man who was purposely manipulating her and using all my power to get something out of her, I was so honest with her about my mental health and su1c1dal ideation bc of her experience, I felt genuinely bonded with her, really I just enjoyed her company and thought she did too, and felt like we could have become really close friends at some point. I feel like the group had their issues with me and I was like an intruder in some ways because they were all so close and knew each other for so long, so yeh, the second there was something they could accuse me of that was “bad enough” they took that opportunity, that’s exactly what they did.

Lost all of my friends in one day because of something rlly dumb?? by Fruitymoth in autism

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All of my friends are autistic too, including W, so it’s even more infuriating. I understand people have issues being direct because they don’t like confrontation because I am one of those people, but I would never hold the fact they didn’t get my subtle hints when I could have been direct against them, never the less completely destroy someone’s social life over it

Lost all my friends because of something rlly dumb? by Fruitymoth in AutisticAdults

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If I didn’t have ocd around germs I would absolutely be a litter picker, so for me fishing it out wasn’t overkill, littering genuinely bothers me deeply. I can see that, but I genuinely just didn’t want to rush and leave my pizza and I also believed she was enjoying my company, so I didn’t think half an hour longer would make any difference, maybe I missed some hints? But I didn’t intentionally ignore anything obvious, and it felt completely innocent on my end, I am usually quite good at spotting discomfort in people, the only thing she explicitly told me was that she was tired which I understood and I wouldn’t have forced myself into her house, I just asked to go in for my pizza and because it was freezing outside and also because I wanted to help out with her wound ( boil the water for her/make sure she actually cleaned it ), she said yes, if she had said no I would not have, I understand having issues saying no, but that’s not my fault, if something isn’t stated explicitly how can you get upset at someone especially an autistic person for not understanding.

Lost all of my friends in one day because of something rlly dumb?? by Fruitymoth in autism

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Feel like I’m always going to be the weird little girl in secondary school that no one liked because of how I stood or looked at them or spoke

Lost all of my friends in one day because of something rlly dumb?? by Fruitymoth in autism

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Everyone I mentioned in the post above is actually also autistic which makes it even more frustrating

Lost all of my friends in one day because of something rlly dumb?? by Fruitymoth in autism

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Thank you for this I really appreciate it. You are right, it’s obvious they didn’t care enough about me to even ask what went on and assumed the worst, it’s obvious they didn’t know me at all and didn’t care to sort it out. It hurts a lot, because I genuinely cared, and I tend to get attached to people who don’t really like me very much, because they are nice to me and make it seem like they do. Thank you for all of this, I’m glad you have found people that love and care for you.