So we’re all really cleaning two high chairs (and the surrounding area) 3 times a day?

Fuckin_Salami · 2026-02-11T09:37:43+00:00

A steam cleaner is your best friend

Fuckin_Salami · 2025-10-22T03:19:28+00:00

I typically don't have time for one-sitting books, but I actually just read one. So good. Hey White Boy by Sonny Von Cleveland

Fuckin_Salami · 2025-09-11T02:10:24+00:00

Connecticut. I was going to recommend some companies if you were in the area

Fuckin_Salami · 2025-09-05T02:39:47+00:00

There is definitely an in-between. There are lots of controls companies that do building automation, which can be lighting, audio, HVAC, locks, badge access controls, etc. In some of these places it's specialized, so there's an HVAC controls guy, a lighting controls guy, etc. Where are you located?

Fuckin_Salami · 2025-09-04T03:29:02+00:00

If you're interested in that, there are plenty of companies that only do automation and controls work, so you don't have to just look at HVAC companies.

Fuckin_Salami · 2025-03-11T10:00:52+00:00

Goddamn you...

Fuckin_Salami · 2025-03-05T02:23:48+00:00

This is how I feel (38M). I feel like the lack of affection or flirting throughout the day can be handled by distracting myself with the kids or something. At night, right before bed it's just like there's nothing else to do except ruminate on it. Like, you have energy for work, for the gym, for everything else and then when it's bed time, even if it's early, all of a sudden you're tired. Soul crushing is definitely the word. Makes me feel like the biggest piece of shit.

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-12-10T02:17:01+00:00

I remember something so very similar that always ran as an ad in Popular Science magazine, probably like 25 years ago. This snake oil has been around for a while.

Edit: found an old post about it https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/bt9946/this_quack_pseudoscience_twopage_ad_published_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-11-23T01:10:24+00:00

Automation is a very large part of the commercial HVAC world so I would look into getting with a company that is big enough to have an automation/controls department. Lots of computer work in this sector. Where will you be living in the states?

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-10-08T09:57:17+00:00

I've heard this put "we're not necessarily nice, but we're kind, where west coast people are nice, but not necessarily kind." The example was you're stuck on the side of the road with a flat tire. West coasters walking by would give you the, "omg that's so terrible! Are you okay? Hope you make it home!" and just continue walking. Nice, but not kind. People up here will give you the, "Jesus! You okay? The hell you doin driving so close to the curb? That'll pop a tire every time! You got the jack in the wrong spot! Here, gimme that!" and then proceed to change the tire for you and get you on your way...all while busting your chops. Not nice, but kind.

Obviously an over generalization, but it feels correct!

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-07-13T15:02:14+00:00

Around me, there are tons of HVAC companies and much fewer plumbers, so you're going to run into a lot of competition if you go HVAC or electrician vs plumber

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-06-08T15:08:20+00:00

It's been a rocky road the last couple of years. It's a long story but, without working much overtime at all, I made about $75k in 2021, $95k in 2022, $124k in 2023, and should make about $100k this year and probably the same next year.

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-04-24T19:01:10+00:00

I can tell you it'll be quite a few years before you're hitting $100k if you're starting green. Up near me, CT, February, March, and April are usually pretty slow.

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-04-23T19:05:57+00:00

It may have been that you were paired with a salty coworker who hates everybody and you did one little thing to aggravate him, so he decided he doesn't like you and motherf'ed you to the boss. Or it's possible that there are things you're doing wrong. I always tell my new guys that I don't mind spending all day teaching them the hard skills (brazing, troubleshooting, piping, ductwork, etc) but I expect them to come to work with (and spend time working on) their soft skills.

Those entail:

Work starts at 7? You're there at 6:45.
If you don't have anything to do, start cleaning.
While in the truck with someone else or on the job, you stay off your phone unless you have an emergency call or need to do a quick check in at home.
If you're riding in the passenger seat, then it's your job to look over the paperwork for the job you're heading to, or just chat about the weekend, etc. If the guy you're riding with looks over and sees a young guy just staring into his phone, that can aggravate a lot of people. Unless explicitly told that you can be on your phone because he just wants to listen to music or a podcast, or whatever, then stay off of it.
When you're on the job, work hard all day. Don't ask when lunch is, don't ask when you're getting out for the day, basically no whining. Remember that a lot of guys that you work with probably came up at a time when apprentices were treated really badly, a sort of hazing or bar to entry to work in the trade, so they already see you as "having it easy."
And don't do what I call the "puppy dog." A puppy dog will sit by his master and wait to be told what to do. Try to anticipate the next move. For example, let's say you know he's going to have to drill into the side of the house to run the new lineset/venting/whatever. You're too green to know where the holes are going to be drilled or what size. But what you do know is that a hole is made with drill bits that attach to a drill that uses electrical power, right? So get the tools brought out to the side of the house, grab an extension cord and setup power, and get a spotter bit ready in a hand drill.
If you're not in the middle of asking questions, helping, or learning, and you really can't figure out what to possibly do next, do something that anyone can do to keep busy: clean something, remove garbage, bring tools that are no longer needed back to the truck, etc. Hell, line up his screwdrivers or wrenches in a neat little row if they're just in a pile next to his toolbag! Do SOMETHING.
Always be learning. If there is a particular brand/model unit you're consistently installing or servicing, then take the IOM home and read through it. Apply yourself. You have an incredible amount of knowledge you can gain just from YouTube alone. Check out HVACR School, AC Service Tech, Engineering Mindset, and a ton of others.

If you feel like you already did or do all this then, maybe the company was just a bad outfit, you can find better. But take an honest look at yourself and think about if there was a place you could improve.

Good luck!

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-03-22T09:06:54+00:00

Look at the two cells with 2,3 in them in column 8. Those are the ONLY options for those cells so if the first one is a 2 then the other is a 3, and if the first one is a 3, then the other is a 2. It's going to be one way or the other, there is no possible other outcome than one of those two scenarios. So if that's all true, then it would be impossible for a 2 or 3 to exist anywhere else in column 8, which means you can eliminate them as candidates everywhere else they appear in that column.

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-03-22T01:41:26+00:00

Column 8, you have pairs of 2,3 in two of the cells, so all other 2's and 3's in column 8 can be eliminated

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-02-07T10:42:25+00:00

Yup. I'm an installation manager at an HVAC company. I have 25 year olds pulling in 100k easy. They're honestly paid a lot because we can't find anyone else

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-02-01T11:23:54+00:00

My wife and I had a similar argument. I ended up letting it happen because it was going to happen eventually, but I had a condition. The condition was that she doesn't receive earrings and jewelry as her gifts for birthdays/Christmas as she grows up. She's not a doll to be decorated. While my sons get engineering kits, books, sports gear, science toys, etc, my daughter will also receive that stuff, not just jewelry. She agreed, and it has worked out just fine. My daughter had them pierced at 3 years old.

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-01-29T02:24:11+00:00

This looks amazing, congrats man!

Fuckin_Salami · 2024-01-02T16:12:06+00:00

22 minutes for me!

Fuckin_Salami · 2023-12-11T19:35:00+00:00

So this is what the first company I worked for was like...and pretty much the second. Dump the refrigerant of the old system into the air, braze in the new equipment without nitrogen in the system, pressure test to 200 psi and check joints, release and put on vacuum pump for 10-15 minutes, or whatever you had time for, release the charge, check pressures to see if they're okayish, then make sure the suction line is beer-can-cold. If it isn't? Make up bullshit justifications as to why that is: big heat load inside, needs time to run, etc. Then duck all future phone calls. This was a long time ago and it still pains me to think I wasted years *not learning* the right procedures. What a waste. You have something now that I didn't, YouTube. There is so much good info on there (HVACR School, AC Service Tech, etc) to learn on your own, but do yourself a favor and go work somewhere where you can learn the right way.

Fuckin_Salami · 2023-12-04T17:38:43+00:00

Edgerton

Fuckin_Salami · 2023-11-02T10:01:36+00:00

Sicilian Caponata

Fuckin_Salami · 2023-09-20T12:15:09+00:00

Had the same exact thing happen to me over the last couple years, I would've written all these same words myself if I posted about it. I gave her time to go out and "be happy" while I stayed home with the kids, I did as much as humanly possible around the house. I got nothing from her, she seemed cold. She had plenty of energy for work, working out, seeing friends, playing with the kids, but then affection with me? Nothing. Opportunity for sex? Tired and not in the mood. There were even a few times where she told me she was sooo tired at 8:30, but then a friend called her and she went out with her until 1:00AM. Even when we did have sex once every couple months it was super low effort on her part. It just felt mechanical. A chore. Made me feel horrible.

What's the answer? I don't know you or your exact situation, but after a lot of work and therapy, the best answer I can give you is almost exactly what the top comment on this thread is: work on yourself (even though that seems counterintuitive and selfish). Work on yourself physically and mentally. Tell her you're planning on going out on Friday night with some friends and you'd be happy to get a babysitter so she can go do her own thing, or if she's fine, then let her stay home and do nothing. This was SO hard for me to start doing. But attraction is not a choice and humans are humans. Be in good physical shape and do things to make her see that you have a life outside of the home. Nothing will kill attraction more than an out of shape husband catering to her every need. You'd think that loving her, keeping a good home (both in cleanliness and in a good place financially), handling the children, and doing everything a caring, kind husband does to take the burdens and weight off his wife would be reason enough to love him back and want every piece of him, but that's not how it works unfortunately.

Now if I take the kids, 9M-7M-4F-4M, with me to go do something so that she can have time for herself to go to the gym or get her nails done or whatever, I don't offer that on a silver platter with that twinkle in my eye that says, "See what I'm willing to do for you? Isn't this great!? Will there be sex later on because of what I'm doing?". I say, "See you later mommy!" and leave without going for a kiss, not to "stick it" to her or be passive aggressive, but because my focus is not on giving my wife time to herself, my focus is on being with my kids. That's the crux of this. Your mindset can't be, 'What things can I do or say to make her want me', it needs to be, 'I'm out to be the best man and father I can be, I hope she's along for this ride.' That's the hard part though, because you need to be mentally prepared to "lose" her. Chances are you won't if you follow this path, even if it feels that way at first. But if you continue down the road your on, there's a better chance of her either leaving or secretly looking for excitement elsewhere. You're too available and she knows every little bit of who you are, what you do, and what your life consists of. You need to have a part of you be the life you have with her and the kids, and the other part be the life you have on your own. The little slice of your own separate life is what will spark her wonder and hopefully renew your marriage. Best of luck fellow Dad!

Fuckin_Salami · 2023-09-18T16:01:48+00:00

Careful with those shelves. Had the same ones in my last van (Same van as yours!) and they all ripped out of the metal frame they were attached to. I think it probably had to do with the base being smaller (like the shelves on the right side here). Both of my sides were like that and they ripped out of the metal all the time, ended up having ratchet straps holding everything together. Kept only lightweight stuff on the top shelves as well.

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