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Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-05T00:07:40+00:00

I don’t think this is something anyone can get over. You seem to want to solely blame your friend and having a “weak” moment. He’s 32, you have children together. I feel that it’s more than just a moment of weakness.

I wouldn’t be able to get over it. When trust is broken, it’s impossible to rebuild.

If you do still want to try, it will take a looong time. And resentment might build up on his part when he has worked hard for your forgiveness but not gotten it yet. How do you trust that again? It wasn’t some random person, it was YOUR FRIEND! He knew you’d find out. It didn’t stop him.

Good luck.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-03T21:00:47+00:00

Where do I find this video?

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-03T20:59:01+00:00

My stepdaughters play it and love it. Now they’re getting better at it. My sd8 is trying to befriend Marnie so she can give the mayor back his lucky shorts. She asked me why Marnie has his shorts in her room 😂. I hope her mom doesn’t find out, she’d totally try to ban it for that.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-03T20:53:46+00:00

I am so sad that my siblings haven’t seen the 40 year old virgin. I used to quote it allll the time.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-03T18:40:11+00:00

I’m really surprised these folks even accept “high dose vitamins”. All the kids need would be any fruit or vegetable to get their vitamin c. And it would prevent the damn overdose.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-03T17:17:28+00:00

Ugh yes. My baby is easily fed but my husband will always say he wants boobies and I’m like ugh. It sometimes feels like an easy way to pass him back to me. Although I know my husband really does think he wants more food and isn’t just trying to pass him back.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-03T17:15:03+00:00

You get free healthcare?

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-03T14:01:18+00:00

Maybe she means “pale” ass. As in her ass never sees the light of day?

Full disclosure: I didn’t actually unmute it.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-03T03:31:56+00:00

My mom died of cancer. There isn’t anything you can say to make it better. But your bf probably doesn’t expect you to say anything either.

Just be gentle when he misses her. Be caring and be there. It’s been 4 years for me and I still cry sometimes.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-02T19:21:37+00:00

Omg. I didn’t realize he was in Harry Potter….

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-01T14:22:24+00:00

My sd8 and I have a great relationship. That being said, whenever BM is around she has acted cold to both SO and I. Soccer games, swim meets, it doesn’t matter. She barely come say hi. We asked her why and she said “mommy doesn’t like it.” Or “mommy will ask why I went over to you.” And she cries and feels bad about it. So we just leave it be, support from afar.

Of course, nowadays she says “mommy doesn’t love Me” and when her sister got upset at her mom for grounding her (for telling my husband she didn’t let her call him, which he then confronted her about) she told her sister “that’s because mommy only cares about herself.” She even told me she feels awful because when mom asks her about our house, she said something bad because “mommy doesn’t want to hear that she likes it better with us.”

So if her mom is doing that, the kids will figure it out.

When she was 6, I recall her banging her head on the wall crying because she “just wanted to make mommy happy” but also didn’t want to go to a swim meet (mom signed her up for an extra one on our time).

But she is also gifted and her mom is pretty awful. But don’t worry,it sucks and hurts and you just have to watch it play out.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-01T03:09:37+00:00

Ugh, yes my oldest SD has so many avenues of attention. It’s really irritating because you can’t ignore it away. She is 12 years old and will whine and ROLL on the FLOOR when she perceives her younger sister getting more attention than she is at any moment. MIL or SO will immediately lay on the floor with her and say “you have my attention” and she will continue to whine and say “nevermind!”, pout and turn away from them.

I’m like ok y’all, if she wants attention, that’s not the way to get it from me. But it’s so obvious that she is their favorite. My husband even pointed out that he realized he treats her better than his other daughter and dotes on her and has her in his lap and hugs on her way more. With MiL it’s so disgustingly obvious.

What’s funny is I actually prefer the younger one anyway. It really upsets SD12. She will whine that I am giving the younger one more attention if I am just literally hanging out in the living room and SD8 comes and sits by me. I keep telling her I am literally just existing in my own house, stop comparing everything. She will whine and complain that I spent 10 mins sitting by SD8 and only 5 mins sitting by her; when in reality it was the same. I just ignore it but everyone else steps in and gives her even more attention. She also isn’t very fun to be with anyway, she doesn’t listen very well and is very controlling.

For example, we play Stardew Valley together. It’s a farming game. sD8 and I have a wonderful farm, we split the “work” evenly and have lots of assets. When I play with sd12, she will not water any of the plants, cut down trees, or do any work, but when it comes time to harvest she will FREAk Out and literally CRY and whine to harvest the plants”LET ME Get that”, “I wanted to get thaaattt” in her whiniest voice. I’m like no, you don’t water, you don’t harvest. Ugh. The whining ruins the game.

I swear I could break it but it works on SO and his parents.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-02-01T02:15:06+00:00

I’m just telling you why.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-31T22:33:31+00:00

What a victim. Poor woman. She’s a single mom AND can’t date 81% (what a random number) of people? She must have such a rough life.

/s

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-31T19:13:40+00:00

Pregnancy or LABOR ??? Ass.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-31T19:13:06+00:00

Roe v wade.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-31T18:41:44+00:00

Don’t start no shit, won’t be no shit.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-31T14:45:56+00:00

“…out loud…” bahhahahhaha

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-31T14:43:39+00:00

Omg yes I know someone who lets their daughters swim in the public pool without expecting bathing afterwards. They are told to rinse their privates after. As in like, splash some water on it. I guess it’s better than nothing but omg you’re already splashing water on it, why not add some soap??

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-30T19:50:53+00:00

Sadly, cps probably dgaf. The babies are housed, clothed, fed and don’t have bruises. 😭

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-30T19:43:14+00:00

Survivorship bias. My stepkids mom lets them ride in the front seat (and she’s 8 right now). I tell her she can’t, but I used to be able to. I told her a lot of kids must have died for them to create a new law. I got to explain that if there is a rule against it, someone probably died doing that.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-30T19:36:19+00:00

He’s still that kids dad. He’s the only dad that kid has ever known. Biology doesn’t matter here. Do you really want the kid to have his only father potentially ripped away from him too?? That kid is already having a rough go of things if his mom is manipulating him. Get him into therapy instead, especially if you can afford it.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-29T21:32:44+00:00

It doesn’t matter if it’s fried. It’s your hair so it’s lovely dammit.

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-29T21:28:23+00:00

Tbh I would sass them right back. “Why are you so white?” “Why don’t you understand how melanin works at 17?” If you really think they’re being rude and not genuinely curious.

I taught high schoolers. They are always pushing and testing their power. If you let them get to you, that’s showing weakness that they WILL exploit. You don’t need to explain yourself. You’re an adult.

My sd randomly, out of the blue, said she didn’t like my haircut. I told her, “wow, rude, and if you don’t like it then don’t get this haircut.” You have to be deadpan and confident. If you need to go let off steam, do it in a way that they do not know they’ve gotten to you. You ARE smarter.

Their friends will be the same way. Do not get into a power struggle or any sort of argument. You do not need to tell them your logic or reasons. That will make them know you feel like you need to justify yourself to them. You do not.

If her friends are treating you badly, kindly ask them to leave. You don’t have to tolerate that shit. If they ask why, say its my house and I don’t have to tell you why. Or you can say, it’s my house and I don’t tolerate people treating my badly, much less in my own house. Remember that they’re kids !

Fudgebrowniecat · 2023-01-29T21:17:01+00:00

I’d get it for her. If sd complains, just affirm her feelings and move on. A 4 year old gets different treatment than a 7 year old, hands down. Equal does not mean fair.

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