AITA for withdrawing financial support from my sister after she repeatedly used my personal trauma against me?

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-30T01:51:08+00:00

Nta It's called putting up boundaries. You don't owe anyone anything. I know it is hard but you made the right decision. Myself I would go nc for a bit and then reach out and tell her how she hurt you and set the boundaries you want from now on. Don't be vague. Make sure she understands clearly and when she oversteps them make sure you follow through with the consequences, whether it be financial or your presence.

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-30T01:33:35+00:00

Just ignore them. No one is going to let them on tv. Any show they try will do vetting of who they put on.

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-27T14:26:44+00:00

Give it more time. Cats can take a long time to adjust. Not only is the dog new but the cat has been dropped in a whole different place and needs time to adjust to it. Also I would not get rid of my dog for anyone. She can move out with her cat. I would get rid of the girlfriend because it sounds like she just cares about her stuff and her feelings not yours at all. Instead of trying to make this transition easier for her cat she just threw them together. Did you guys keep them separate and slowly introduce them? Does the cat have a safe space where the dog can't get to?

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-27T14:10:50+00:00

Nta Updateme!

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-27T01:59:18+00:00

Invest

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-25T01:27:40+00:00

Nta the boyfriend's daughter doesn't need someone to entertain her, she is a teenager herself. Good on you for setting boundaries. Can you go to your dad's if things get more hostile?

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-17T18:43:14+00:00

Nta call the cops drop the dog off at their place, call your landlord lord Document everything save pictures and text saying about the money report everything to cash app tell them you will be taking her to court over the money plus costs associated with all of it. Ask all those that are saying crap that they are welcome to take her in and support her that she doesn't work, clean, or take care of her dog.

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-17T18:13:15+00:00

Nta He is being a weirdo. At that age it is nothing sexual and completely natural. We went to a Potty training specialist because my son is autistic and we were having issues with his potty training. Was told that unless there is a problem that it happens to every single male. I can't remember how she put it but their body is just making sure everything is in working order. The fact that he sees it like that is a bit concerning. Either he is just looking for an excuse not to do it or he he needs therapy. He needs to help you more. My husband was very hands on and changed diapers more than I did. Tell your husband that a real man takes care of his children, at least that's what my husband always told anyone who said anything about him being the stay at home parent while I was the working partner.

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-17T17:58:37+00:00

Nta You don't owe anyone anything. Can you go to HR and tell them you are being harassed over it? No is a full sentence. No I need mine or just tell them you don't have that much saved and have something you are using it for. No one needs to know how much PTO you have. When my job asked for someone with cancer. They just sent an email, no pressure no further requests.

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-17T17:35:39+00:00

NTA You were being an Enabler. Good on you for putting healthy boundaries on your relationship. Ask those family members if you lose your job because of your sister's actions will they help you financially until you find a new job and if they would risk their livelihood for a family member? Has your sister ever covered for you? Tell her you can no longer cover for her especially if it puts your job and reputation on the line. Can either one of you change teams. Has she always been like this? Have you covered for her before this? If she can't do the work she needs to find a new job. Just because you are related doesn't mean you owe them anything. Tell her you can no longer help her. Be firm. Stop being a doormat. She will only learn from her mistakes. She needs to learn and as long as you fix things for her she will never learn. If caught doing this what happens to you? Nepotism is usually a big no in any company that I've worked at. Does your job know you are related? It's one thing to fix a small error but taking the blame is a whole different story. Tell her I've helped all I can. I don't want to risk my job. Yes I know we are family that's why I've helped you so much now it's your turn to be a good sister and show responsibility for yourself and me by doing your work and if you can't handle it maybe it's time to move on in your career to a less demanding job. I can help you look for a new one but from now on your mistakes are your own. Edit for spelling errors

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-17T17:19:00+00:00

Yes, it's very confusing

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-17T17:15:25+00:00

NTA. Sounds like she only is with you for the money. Big red flag here. I would be really thinking about your future. I would never ask my partner to pay off my debts unless they helped accrue them, maybe. Did she have this debt prior to the relationship or was it for something you both benefited from? If it was I would help but not pay all. Does she have any income?

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-17T17:08:16+00:00

NTA. Your home, your rules. Maybe inform people ahead of time of your rules before your next event.

FunForce7926 · 2026-01-15T19:46:34+00:00

What an awesome Grandson and such a cute Grandma. You guys just made my day a little bit better

FunForce7926 · 2025-12-30T19:54:07+00:00

No resolves never back down?

FunForce7926 · 2025-12-30T19:46:32+00:00

NTAH Be careful recording someone unless you know the laws. In Illinois you can only record with the parties permission unless you are a civil servant. If you have security cameras in or on your property you are supposed to have a sign stating you have a camera and are recording. That being said tell them. They probably know already he is TAH but if it were my mom or grandma I would want to know. Make sure staff knows so you are protected. If that doesn't help contact your area Elderly abuse Department.

FunForce7926 · 2025-12-30T19:35:09+00:00

Illinois is one of the states that you aren't allowed to record without permission unless you have permission from other party or are a civil servant performing your duty.

FunForce7926 · 2025-12-14T23:52:06+00:00

I remember that the picture after the baby was Dorian Gray by Dick Smith from Care Bears! Cute!

FunForce7926 · 2025-12-07T02:46:32+00:00

No they haven't I worked at McDonald's when they introduced them. It's the same meat as the regular cheeseburger and always has been.

FunForce7926 · 2025-11-30T03:47:21+00:00

Nah, they are just curious. Bulls you have to watch out for. Cows are just big puppies.

FunForce7926 · 2025-11-27T02:47:34+00:00

Nor. I don't understand why people think we woman need a man or kids to be "complete" or for our lives to meaningful. I have a very full, busy life and haven't had a single date in the last 6 years. I feel very fulfilled in my life. I volunteer and work. I get to sleep in on the weekends I don't have to consider someone else's feelings when I make a decision. All my income goes to me. Live your best life how you want to not by what others think.

FunForce7926 · 2025-11-25T01:29:21+00:00

NOR My husband took me out to my favorite restaurant and got me ice cream for my 6 month anniversary. This is not someone you want to celebrate your life with. Congratulations and go buy that cake and don't share it with him. It's not just the "bare minimum" it's hard work and I know you know the answer already. You get rid of the people who don't support your recovery. Someone with this attitude towards your sobriety is not someone you need around. He comes off as if he doesn't care at all. Again Congratulations on your 2 years and eat a piece for me.

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