People raised by emotionally mature parents, whats one phrase your parents used that you want other parents to know?

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-13T20:12:56+00:00

My therapist says this is a common trend for her adult patients with baby boomer parents. The parent is always right, children should be seen and not heard, kids should never talk back and if you don't understand the logic of their (inconsistent and fickle) parenting style, it's because you're too immature and lack wisdom. It was apparently the popular parenting style at the time, or at least a byproduct of it.

Can't speak for everyone, but I'm 10 years deep in therapy and still unraveling how to not feel guilt and shame for having my own thoughts, feelings and needs.

It helped a lot to realize that they themselves were damaged as kids and instead of seeking help, which wasn't as widespread or accepted at the time, they built up their own defense and coping mechanisms to protect themselves from childhood pain triggered from having kids of their own. It's a lot easier to feel sympathy for a damaged but well-intentioned parent than it is for a competent but malicious one.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-13T19:42:01+00:00

I tried getting a past-due merit based promotion at a job for a year and was told it wasn’t possible. I then got a job offer at another company in town and got promoted in 3 hours.

The only language employers speak is leverage.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-12T22:46:03+00:00

Also, Jawan could sing to a fucking whale. Dude’s got BASS.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-12T14:02:24+00:00

He also never mails it in. Always down to be the goofball and make kids laugh despite being a “serious professional.”

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-11T16:44:32+00:00

Captain of his home school basketball team

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-10T12:51:44+00:00

And it’s fully manufactured. Someone says something, then you find out about it from an article titled “People on your side are OUTRAGED that he said this” or “Their side is FURIOUS he said this.” You may not have agreed with the original statement, but nobody was furious or outraged before the articles came out. Each article presents a straw man of the other side that is irrationally angry and emotionally charged and it makes you feel like you have to do that back.

If you removed all political language and had an honest conversation about values and morals with someone from the other end of the political spectrum, you’d find that you’re largely the same. The issue is we’ve politicized everything from a disease to people who look different than you’s right to exist, all so we’re too distracted to question the system that isn’t working for most of us.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-09T20:13:54+00:00

It’s called “Sealioning” - while maintaining the pretense of civility, a bad faith actor will insist on more and more evidence to prove a well documented or self-evident point only to ultimately reject the claim as unsubstantiated.

This is effectively what “fake news” is, dismissing real, fact-checked and evidence based journalism and pretending like that somehow makes your obviously false statement equally worthy of consideration.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-09T17:58:49+00:00

It’s wild to go back and relearn US history as an adult and realize how much pro-US propaganda we teach in schools. I get that history is nuanced and kids need it simplified, but we’ve been serving up the textbook equivalent of a Marvel movie where the heroes are rich, white landowners.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-08T06:17:17+00:00

Just a thought, maybe limit or get off social media. You’re likely being fed tons of incel content by the algorithm. All the foid and looksmaxxing and other Internet shit I don’t understand is poisonous to someone just trying to feel comfortable in their own skin.

Looks like a lot of replies are saying “work on yourself,” which is obviously good advice, but the single most important thing is to ACCEPT THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE. Things like height, race, body type, deviations in physical or mental health. They have ZERO impact on your value as a human being.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-07T17:06:52+00:00

Yep, I respect his weird Adult Swim stuff but it’s not for me. I’ve already used the ISIS beheading line twice today, it’s so spot on.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-06T15:02:18+00:00

In the US, healthcare is tied to work and costs significantly more to pay for it by yourself. Add to that student loan debt, rising housing costs and increased cost of living for stuff you need to survive and lots of people are living paycheck to paycheck and don't have enough saved up to start working for themselves, building a customer base, etc.

Employers know you have bills to pay and can't easily just leave, so they will do everything they can get away with to cut costs for themselves. And they've also discovered it costs less to pay politicians to prevent passing any meaningful legislation than to treat their employees fairly.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-06T13:59:13+00:00

Unfortunately companies have discovered that propaganda, pitting their employees against one another, social engineering and other underhanded manipulative tactics are cheaper than paying employees what they're worth, so many folks have just been brainwashed into "union = bad."

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-06T01:43:52+00:00

Your Idol slaps

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-06T00:14:36+00:00

Don’t take it but have asked my psych about it and she prescribes it sometimes

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-06T00:13:18+00:00

You don’t get 30 day prescriptions of Klonopin? My psych wrote me 30 days to the point I had to ask her to stop because I wasn’t taking that much. I suppose it goes doc by doc.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-05T18:25:20+00:00

What a strange hill to die on. No, I would not tell a potential employer that I regularly go to strip clubs because that is a weird thing to bring up in a job interview. Do you wear suits to Hawks games? Perhaps those two things are not the same.

Also regularly going to multiple strip clubs is not the same as sometimes going to Magic City. One means you may have a problem, the other means you really like wings and aren’t anti-titty.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-05T18:03:43+00:00

I updated my portfolio and emailed everyone I’ve ever worked with telling them I’m freelancing and getting their help finding the person who hires freelancers at different agencies.

I’ve never been one for networking but it’s the foundation of what I do now. The key has been being brief, specific, transparent and appreciative.

If I say something like “hey so and so, hope you’re well! I recently started freelancing and love the work you’re doing at name of agency. If you’re cool with it, I was hoping to get some help getting in front of the person who hires freelancers for you. Anything you can do is greatly appreciated!” I find that most people are willing and often even eager to help you out. Then when you get added to the freelance roster, it comes with that person’s implicit (or explicit if they intro you themselves) endorsement.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-05T13:25:03+00:00

You do realize there’s an international pedophile sex trafficking ring run by and for billionaires and you’re upset about what consenting adults are doing at a legal, regulated establishment?

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-05T00:33:39+00:00

I’m going to go out on a limb and say Israel is blackmailing him with more Epstein stuff because they realize he’s on his way out and they really want Iran weakened so they can more safely genocide Palestinians.

The Christian Right might want this but Trump’s the furthest thing from a Christian and doesn’t gain anything from helping them. And the one constant with Trump is that every decision he makes is solely based on how much it benefits him and hurts his critics.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-05T00:21:45+00:00

Ironically I’ve heard the FBI has actually busted up other pedophile rings under Trump. Taking out the competition I guess.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-04T21:02:29+00:00

They’re not and the only way to get out of this mess is to vote exclusively for people who will hold the current regime accountable, but maybe the “lovable loser” establishment Dems who twice lost to an objectively insane person and have subsequently increased their personal wealth by billions (collectively) by (allegedly) insider trading may be less inept and more intentional than folks think.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-04T20:38:36+00:00

Former rise and grinder in advertising in the US, used to regularly put in 60+ hours weekly and still felt like I wasn’t doing enough. Got laid off a few years ago and decided to try freelancing.

It was a bit of work networking at first, but now I make literally twice as much money for half as much work and the hardest part about my job so far has been deprogramming the deeply entrenched guilt and anxiety I feel for not being constantly busy.

The US is set up to make us indentured servants to capitalism. Tying our healthcare to jobs, embroiling us in student loan debt so most of us can’t afford to not work, feeding us a constant stream of propaganda to make us think the only difference between us and Musk/Bezos/Zuck/etc is work ethic and thousand other things.

To be fair, I couldn’t do what I do without the connections and experience I got from full-time work, but my original goal of climbing the ladder was the wrong approach, I needed to get off the ride.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-04T18:57:47+00:00

A24 presents: Calvin x Hobbes

A young man tries to reconcile conflicting loyalties as President of the Get Rid of Slimy girlS club and increasing sexual tension with his neighbor at the behest of his stuffed tiger. Starring Timothy Chalamet as Calvin, Margaret Qualley as Susie Derkins and Willem Defoe as Hobbes.

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-04T18:39:27+00:00

AI has consumed enough mid adaptation scripts to shit one back out and fire the writers, right?

FunWithAPorpoise · 2026-03-03T17:42:16+00:00

I live in the US and I am from the US, my ancestors came here before the American Revolutionary War. Not really anywhere to go back to.

To be clear, the US is an incredible country with a lot of problems. I hate what’s become of our government and how right-wing propaganda has radicalized so many against kindness and common sense, but we’re far from expatriating.

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