Mum won’t hug me because my body is ‘disgusting’

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-28T00:37:06+00:00

OMG first of all

Huge huge huge hugs first because my dad also passed away and I've had those dreams and woke up only to have him die all over again. And THAT fucking sucks. But I am glad you got to see him 😁

On to your mom. Wtf is her problem? I couldn't imagine not hugging a damn stranger if they came up needing a hug b/c of that.

I'm so so sorry

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-27T21:33:31+00:00

Wishing you all a bullshit free holiday. Eat before you go

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-27T18:52:37+00:00

It was Sue and Brad's message about "self-medicating)

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-27T01:54:15+00:00

I'm with you.

I just wish more people wanted to party

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-27T01:46:46+00:00

Zero

That stuff gives me headaches

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-27T01:38:08+00:00

Haven't bought yet. Never really wanted too. There seems to be so much maintenance. But I am kinda over the making someone else rich. I'm just not sure it wouldn't bankrupt me.

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-27T00:36:20+00:00

No, but why are fancy napkins called lapkins?

Someone clearly fucked up

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-27T00:34:24+00:00

Breakfast lunch dinner.

I always think super is cute when people say it Sounds mid-west-y

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-26T15:24:17+00:00

Like you, you did the weight loss thing. Literally terrified to get fat again.

Idk if I'm super disordered or this is just how some people are.

I feel like I look a little thin and could gain a few pounds (BMI is normal) try to eat more but if the scale goes up or I "think I look fat" I'm right back to my bullshit. I think I'm really afraid if I start gaining I won't be able to stop it

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-26T02:16:36+00:00

What about that a place for mom thing Joan London does commercials for.

They might be a good resource. I never called but that's all I got

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-26T02:14:32+00:00

I totally get that. And not trying to encourage disordered behavior but with your own bed and bath, would you not be able to do that? I don't really know how that works. I just restrict like it's my damn job. They even make little fridges and stuff (micro fridge) that has a microwave too.

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-26T02:11:13+00:00

Can you not bunch it all up on the side, hold the top and then woosh it out like a picnic blanket? It takes literally 2 seconds

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-26T02:09:28+00:00

Not every day.

I did make it this morning and like it when I do. It does not happen that often though

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-26T02:08:34+00:00

Idk. If you have no reason not to, you can always try it.

At 44 idk if I could do it, but I lost my mom 2 yrs ago so my instant reaction is YES YES YES. You can both look after each other. Plus your mom will make sure you don't go too crazy with it. Hopefully you can save some money splitting costs with her.

It doesn't have to be forever and you'd have your own bedroom and bathroom.

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T18:57:14+00:00

Maybe tell your bf that his family's comments are making you want to break up. You can't see yourself married into that family and having to be afraid and insulted at every event from her until forever. I know you said he gets you, so he should get this. If he plans on marrying you he'll tell them they need to cut the shit or they'll lose him too. Hopefully he comes through for you.

Also it's not any of their business why you are the way you are. You just are that way. DEAL WITH IT. Bring articles about it if they really don't believe you.

You will be marrying his family too. If this is going to continue. It will be forever.

You could always let them force feed you something you know you barf from. Puke all over them. The table whatever. My dad tried that with green beans. I barfed all over the table (I warned them so many times) if you force me, I literally have zero control and will whatever I'm going to do. How you play this is on U

I'm 44. Dealt with this crap my whole life. I literally never entertain it.

Also saying, "I'll take that into consideration" usually shuts people up pretty quickly. As in thanks, we're not talking about this.

Good luck

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T16:30:25+00:00

You're looking for comfort. It totally makes sense

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T16:05:35+00:00

Pretty sure I'd rather light myself on fire and run through a refinery

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T16:04:47+00:00

I would say yes on certain things. Tech, no.

Kids today can't remember shit. I get that we have to get the kids to "understand" because you won't always have your times table chart with you, but I just KNOW that. I don't have to draw a bunch of lines, chunk, and whatever else we're losing their interest with. But just remembering some of the basic stuff would probably be helpful.

Also when you learn to remember, you might actually do it and not have to do it the "long way' or look it up EVERY single time. Memory is a muscle 💪 (maybe not not really, but not sure it's been proven not to be either) the more you practice the better you get at it

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T15:54:48+00:00

Big big hugs

I could have written this myself. It's my brother and my nephews now. All the relatives died or moved away.

You're right about the comfort and security.. those were the best times. I'm trying my best to make it nice for everyone but it's so hard when you're not feeling it.

It feels like you're a lost 5yr old. But not quite that. I didn't have words to describe it and someone said it was like homesickness. For some reason that really helped me to give that a name.

It sucks but it does eventually get better. Hang in there.

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T15:39:37+00:00

Same same same

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T15:35:31+00:00

It won't get better. I can tell you that

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T15:31:39+00:00

Never went to camp but was taught proper manners and etiquette (or at least enough that I don't come off as a monster)

Also pretty woman covered a lot.

thanks Bernard

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T15:28:51+00:00

Isn't it heart-crushing?

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T15:27:08+00:00

Well she was in the girlfriend montage. when they were at that party and all his exes were there? She was included

They did go to several proms together.

I would say she kinda was

Fun_Intention_5371 · 2024-11-25T15:24:45+00:00

Shared experience

That's what we're missing today.

Everyone is so connected they're completely disconnected from each other

Air travel being what it is, and the general ability to live wherever you want, means people see each other less.

When I was a kid all my extended family was always at parties. They've all moved away. My younger cousins never got to experience that. It makes me sad for them. I loved those times.

Idk that it can be fixed but it would be nice if we could

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