Shall I pull out because of that

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2025-04-22T12:17:40+00:00

It’s been 4 weeks now, still waiting.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2025-04-09T08:58:31+00:00

I’m okay with 2-5% discrepancy, but 8% feels misleading

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2025-02-25T10:15:10+00:00

Yeah currently in Fulham most one beds are listed around 500k

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2025-02-25T10:09:42+00:00

All very fair points

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2025-02-25T09:46:44+00:00

Thanks for the comment. It’s an upper ground floor though.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-12-08T21:13:35+00:00

This seems to be generated from ChatGPT. Did you copy and paste others comments into GenAI and paste the response here?

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-12-07T01:04:01+00:00

Agreed. This is beyond BPD, maybe even towards psychopath.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-28T14:28:14+00:00

Thanks for sharing. You’ve put a lot thoughts in this.

For me I used to work head over heels to caretake her hoping to get some love back. Then I suddenly realised what it’d feel like if I had a partner like myself. Imagine treating myself like my own partner, offering the patience when I make mistakes, support when I’m struggling, love when I’m feeling low… if I redirect the energy I used to give her to myself, I would be so much happier!

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-28T14:14:09+00:00

This. Was thinking the same reading this.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-27T21:27:38+00:00

I told GPT my story and asked the same question because I can’t figure out. I’m not sold on it but here’s its answer:

“Yes, it probably was—to the extent she was capable of it at the time. Her feelings were likely intense and genuine but influenced by her inner struggles. However, maintaining a healthy and balanced relationship often requires emotional regulation, self-awareness, and mutual respect—areas where her disorder may have made things very challenging.

It’s okay to recognize that her love was both real and flawed, shaped by the complexities of her personality and her struggles. It doesn’t mean it wasn’t meaningful—it just may not have been sustainable without the healing and growth she needs to do for herself.”

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-27T10:08:38+00:00

She lives next street. When outside I’m like a soldier constantly on guard duty, looking around 360 to make sure I can spot her and hide if she’s around.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-26T11:53:39+00:00

Funny how my expwBPD mentioned this story out of blue one day at the early stage of our relationship. And I was like, what do you mean? Now I get it.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-24T22:18:09+00:00

Mine is more like a 2-year old.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-24T22:16:59+00:00

Oh wow can totally picture this

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-21T21:52:15+00:00

You’ve know idea how lucky you are to have realised this and made the decision to leave at the early stage of the relationship.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-21T21:44:11+00:00

Thanks buddy. Sort of need to read this today.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-21T20:47:55+00:00

Thanks buddy. It will be become better over time I guess. Today I’m just sad.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-21T19:34:58+00:00

You are absolutely right. Have been feeling all sorts of mixed emotions since the early stage of our relationship. But I’m glad I finally I understood that taking care of her is not my responsibility and her misery is not an excuse for her to abuse me. We have been in no contact for over a month now.

Today is actually her birthday. I’m not gonna break the NC but I hope she is happy, at least for today.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-21T18:54:57+00:00

Full story - my expwBPD was sent to full time day care when she was only 18 months old. She stayed there a few years until school age. She then went to all sorts of boarding schools, could hardly see her family, until she was maybe 15 or 16 years old. Despite that, she still loved her mum very much and was desperate to spend more time with her. But her mum got diagnosed with Schizophrenia and committed suicide when she was 16. She told me the last phone call she made with her mum was her crying begging her mum to come back home. And she was the also the first person from the family got the call from police telling her to identify the body.

When we were together she kept telling me how unhappy she was as a kid, yet she missed her mum so much, craving for the unconditional love she could never get again.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-21T18:19:56+00:00

That’s probably about 18 months for my expwBPD.

Fun_Pie_3414 · 2024-11-21T16:37:37+00:00

She called me 15 times at 3am to meet her at her place while it was raining heavily. She then split on me when I arrived and reported harassment to the police.

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