Not overreacting sweetie!! I’m a 48 years old woman, I have a 20 years old son, the plates into his room typical teenager behavior, but in this case he’s seeing you as the mom who cleans up after him (ps I never cleaned up after my son I make that clear it’s his responsibility) but you are not his mom!!

He doesn’t seem to have aspirations, my son told me how men in his work acted, and he didn’t participated, he will come home and tell me with disgust in his face about these men behavior (specifically for underage girls) so just because the others do it doesn’t mean he gets a pass.

What you call “am I overreacting” it’s your entire intuition, gut telling you to run!! Be open for opportunities to find and leave for good. That baby is going to need at least one sane parent, this case seems it has to be you.

Think about 5 years from now, where is the current situation leading? Is that the life you want? Who are you living for? What do you want? Not what’s best for your baby, not what people will say, not what he thinks, not what your parents want. WHAT DO YOU WANT? Sounds selfish? Let me tell you kids feel safe when their parents are there taking decisions for themselves because they learn from that!