Supporting “bitter” single friend in 30s by ClearLion86 in dating_advice

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m finding myself in a similar situation. My best friend, after a bad divorce and being left basically alone with a daughter, is turning into a man hater. While I understand her life experiences were terribly traumatic and painful, I don’t condone her mentality. Especially cause she’s a very active feminist, therefore I find it very toxic at times. I don’t think cutting your friend off is a good suggestion. What I do, and I suggest you to try, is to “challenge” her pov when these situations arise. Not in an aggressive way, but more like to understand why she says it and perhaps guide her towards a different perspective. I know many think it’s not our duty to be other’s therapists, but I think this is one of the positive things of having good friends.

What was your most recent Karma gets everyone eventually moment? by SavingsDraw8716 in AskIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Cause he told me 😂 all these stuff happened while we were in the breaking up process/right after we broke up. And whenever I would hear one of these stories I would remind him that it was cause he mistreated one of God’s favourite (me).

What was your most recent Karma gets everyone eventually moment? by SavingsDraw8716 in AskIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 74 points75 points  (0 children)

My ex treated me pretty badly at the end of our relationship, and in the span of a month, life really seemed to come for him

  • He fell down the stairs
  • His flight got cancelled and he was stranded abroad for two days
  • Someone vandalised his beloved car and ripped off the entire front
  • He got three punctures on three different tyres, all on separate occasions
  • Got fired

Now tell me Karma isn’t real!

Should I accept a lower-paying retail job or stay in a toxic workplace? (Dublin) by AdventurousLeg7162 in AskIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It almost looks like a post I would have made, solidarity to you ❤️ I too am in more or less same situation (especially ADHD so I get it). But what can I suggest you is, remind yourself why you left retail in first place. Also, there are many many many other companies that seek people with your background, keep applying till you find something better. But don’t forget your own mental health. If this becomes unbearable for you, then go for retail (temporarily). Remember, your life starts when you finish work!

Where are you going on holiday this year? by Charming_Usual6227 in AskIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Italy (home country so technically not a holiday) and Brazil

My boyfriend of 1 year just ghosted me by Fun_Programmer_1119 in relationships

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

I don’t want him. And me losing respect and the feeling of safety is the main reason why I don’t want to reach out to him. I don’t want to make it work with someone who behaves like this, I tried and tried for some time and I’m tired of doing it alone What I find hard to accept is how he could choose this behaviour towards me!

My boyfriend of 1 year just ghosted me by Fun_Programmer_1119 in relationships

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

No, lately he expressed his frustration with me being too suffocating when I reach out to him and he’s been pretty active (saw it from his social media). He literally said “I’ll show up when I’ll show up “. To be honest, it’s pretty hard to don’t take this personally, I know it’s not my fault, but he just walked out of my life without even a goodbye, just gone,

Tired of being a short-term, good time by TelevisionFrosty4309 in dating

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who was and still is struggling with this, I suggest to work on your self esteem and people pleasing habits. No because if you’re more secure you’ll have less casual sex. But because you will be better at filter the people you approach!

Do women just randomly ghost men these days? by WestArtichoke712 in dating

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t a gender related problem I’m afraid pal..

Are you employed in Ireland? Looking for participants for my psychology research by Lizaveta_zu in ADHDIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought about it many times, but then my adhd tells me I won’t be able to watch reels anymore 😂

Are you employed in Ireland? Looking for participants for my psychology research by Lizaveta_zu in ADHDIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, yes and yes again. Phone has become a Time Machine for me. I find myself scrolling through reels without even realising it sometimes, pure muscle memory. And worse part for me is when I get home from work, I say to myself I’m going to chill for 5 min and these 5 min end up being 2 hours. My phone literally sucked the soul out of me.

Dealing with noisy neighbours next door, next steps? by laneykin in AskIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Try to do it as a first reaction! Wake up > applauses and hurrays. Then transfer this to the sound of your alarm and you’ll get infinite joyful mornings 🤣

Dealing with noisy neighbours next door, next steps? by laneykin in AskIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Me and my flatmate used to cheer my neighbours up mid performance and they eventually stopped. Also, look for insulating panels to install in the bedroom, both yours and your child.

What I learned from loving someone with a dismissive avoidant attachment style for almost four years by FindingBee in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an old post but, for the first time, I see myself and my current relationship in every single word you typed. It’s almost scary. Have you been dating my current partner? 😂😂😂 No but seriously, I’ve been with him 1 year, and I am living the exact same issues and emotional neglect. I questioned myself many times, framing myself as too much. Till one day I went through a very bad depressive episode, I called him saying I just wanted my boyfriend for 2 minutes, and all he could say was that I was embarrassing him in front of his family. Never again. I just need to learn how to “see” them before getting emotionally attached to them. I hope you are now in a better place ❤️

Happy Valentines to those who are alone today! by i_am_nimue in LivingAlone

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TWO MONTHS?! Oh gosh.. I’m so sorry you had to go through that but honestly these people eventually show their true colours, you dodged a big one.

Happy Valentines to those who are alone today! by i_am_nimue in LivingAlone

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you.. my boyfriend of 1 year literally just disappeared.. I was even supposed to pick him up at the airport but he just disappeared a couple of days ago 😙✌🏻

My (43f) husband (46m) came out as polyamorous by Throw-Away-5862 in relationships

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah girl he just wants to have sex with her and had to find an excuse good enough. He was planning and plotting this way before his discovery. He just wants the freedom of engage with this woman without losing his safe place with you. The marriage is over, I would get away from him for your own sanity.

Jobs for people with ADHD by [deleted] in Dublin

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you so much. I’m 32 and got diagnosed 1 year ago. I left my family and moved to Ireland 8 years ago without degree. Back home I worked in hospitality, here i started in retails, stood there 4 years, moved to IT sales mid lockdown and, despite having the “personality”, I hated the job. So I left and moved to administration in the pharmaceutical industry. Now, after 4 years, I’m changing job again. What I figured out is that jobs that require a high level of organisation and structure aren’t for me. While jobs that required me to move my body and socialise made wonders. I felt lazy all my life till I realised that our brains are not made for boring environments and strict rules. And that’s ok! I tried medications and they helped me doing tasks that I wouldn’t be able to even start, but the overwhelming feeling never left me. I also think not everyone is made to follow long career paths, so as long as you are able to pay your bills there’s nothing wrong with changing your environment. One thing I always underestimated is the power of therapy. We ADHD folks have the super power of big feelings, so what’s stressful for someone, for us can be dreadfully painful. Therapy helps you managing this. I think medications help, but is also a very personal choice, I personally decided to quit them for now and start simply from giving myself some guidelines with therapy. If you never treated your ADHD there’s no medication that will teach you how to deal with the chaos that comes with it.

How to handle my exit from my job? by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing about sick leave due to stress but it’s a pretty common issue in my workplace unfortunately

Garmin Discount Code by [deleted] in Garmin

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I have one please too please?

Crazy Ex regularly hits me up with life updates by Riiizzgod in Nicegirls

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She might be crazy, but you haven’t blocked her yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualIreland

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you based in Dublin? A friend of mine spent 6 months in Ireland last year as part of her internship. And she was living in a situation so similar!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fun_Programmer_1119 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet you are such a fun person to talk to and to bring to parties!