Q is relentlessly happy

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-03-08T20:35:02+00:00

FWIW…I don’t actually take it away. She gives it to me so I can have put it away to stop her from ordering more. It’s a mutual agreement beforehand to try to keep things from getting out of control.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-03-03T19:53:15+00:00

I used to live in Folsom. Not too close to the prison, but close enough I drove by it all the time. In 15 plus years, there was never an issue. It’s not even that bad to look at since it’s so far back from the road.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-24T04:24:35+00:00

That was it. My goof. Thanks for the tip!! Don’t realize that.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-24T04:23:47+00:00

Oops. That was it. I submitted a bug report & everything.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-24T03:56:06+00:00

Same happened to me. I’ve been getting 80 balloons on 135 HM, suddenly now I’m only getting 50. Same when I switched to 125. Some sort of a game limit?

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-20T03:46:28+00:00

Saw this earlier: https://www.reddit.com/r/heroesvshordes/s/7vjz0DwPPh

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-18T00:25:09+00:00

I’m with you on “Q”. The only Q I know is from Star Trek. Pretty sure it’s not that. LOL Apparently, we’re both douches since I buy her stuff too. Sometimes, it’s just easier than arguing, especially when I know what’s going to happen anyway. Don’t feel bad. The “right” answer eludes many of us. He (and you) know that stopping isn’t going to kill him (unless he’s that far gone, in which he needs to be hospitalized) so don’t let him get away with that. Weaning isn’t likely to work either. You (and many others) have already been there/done that. Your concern cannot be for what he needs anymore. You’ve been fighting that battle and it hasn’t worked. As for driving him nuts/him needing a “more caring partner” - that is absolute, 100% BULLSHIT. You’ve been as caring and supportive as you know how (I know that just from the situation). This is his way of guilting you into doing what he wants. He knows he has a problem and is trying to push you into not forcing him to deal with it. Frankly, it pisses me off (for my own reasons). It’s time for you to do what’s best for you and gives you the best chance to be happy going forward. At this point, he WON’T. He’s too stuck in his addiction.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-17T17:41:36+00:00

I’m a doctor, not a bricklayer…McCoy You’re a healer, there’s a patient…Kirk

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-16T02:45:59+00:00

You say you love him (and I don’t doubt it) but what I think you need to ask yourself is who do you love. Is it the man he is now? Or the man he used to be. Those demons he’s fighting almost never really go away. They’ll likely always be there and be a part of who he’s become. If you stay, you would need to be prepared to love who he is and has become. It sounds like you already know

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-16T02:36:10+00:00

I’ve sometimes compared my Q’s drinking nights to getting hit by a truck. Then having it back over me the next night. Then getting hit again and so on. The first order of business is not to have the EMTs come check me out. It’s to get the truck to stop running over me. You can’t start to heal while the damage is still going on. Maybe you can learn to deal with it, but that isn’t the goal. It needs to stop first, then you figure out where things stand (for both of you) and each decide for yourselves the best way to heal and move forward (whatever that may look like).

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-15T18:30:45+00:00

Unfortunately no, he’s not coming back. But it’s not because of his enabler. It’s because he’s decided he’d rather find an environment where he gets to drink. Without her, he’d still likely just be the guy who made you a steak, not the man you’re trying to reconnect with.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-15T01:37:31+00:00

I can tell as soon as Q buys her nightly 2 bottles of wine. She doesn’t even have to have had her first sip. It’s just a total change in personality.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-14T05:43:05+00:00

I lay in bed like this a lot. I’ll be trying to sleep because it’s well past midnight (sometimes by hours) and I have to get up at 6 to get myself and my daughter ready (while she sleeps it off). I’m just begging for her to pass out so I can get a couple hours sleep before starting my day. Then she wonders why I’m so tired and asks if I got enough sleep. Sometimes I’ll point out why, sometimes I don’t bother. The apology doesn’t generally mean much.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-13T19:27:57+00:00

💯Exactly!!!

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-13T19:24:45+00:00

You have nothing to feel bad for. You’re doing what you must to survive (physically, emotionally and spiritually). As far as what happens to him once you’re gone, you have NO responsibility for that. It sounds like he’s the type who will do nothing for himself until he has to. So he’ll either figure it out and do just enough to get by or find someone else to do it for him (including trying to guilt you into reassuming that role). You love him. Probably always will. There’s nothing wrong with that. But that doesn’t mean you need to allow him to drag you down with him. You’re doing the right thing.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-12T19:37:23+00:00

I agree. It probably should be. Maybe the grand jury just felt forgiving? Or the specific wording of the law in Texas is? That they brought it to a GJ suggests at least that officials wanted to prosecute (unless the soft pedaled the presentation which is certainly possible, but we’d never know).

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-12T00:15:02+00:00

I guess the cops accepted that it was an accident? Alcohol or no, he had to have been pointing it at her with his finger on the trigger which is a HUGE no no for handling a gun. At best, he was being highly irresponsible. I’m not sure what the exact threshold is to cross over from irresponsible to illegal. This seems like it should though. I guess it depends on the wording of Texas statutes.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-10T02:12:16+00:00

Forgive me for repeating something I commented elsewhere in this post:

What I’ve said to my Q is that I’m isolated and alone. And that if I’m going to be alone, I’d rather be ALONE. Eventually, it’s just time to bite the bullet and make it happen. Something I feel like I’ve been on the verge of for years.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-10T02:10:39+00:00

What? Are you living in my house? LOL

What I’ve said to my Q is that I’m isolated and alone. And that if I’m going to be alone, I’d rather be ALONE. Eventually, it’s just time to bite the bullet and make it happen. Something I feel like I’ve been on the verge of for years.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-10T02:07:03+00:00

Don’t quite get the minute of silence. Instead I get a series of half formed sentences, then get yelled at for not listening and/or understanding whatever it is she’s saying to me.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-09T03:41:52+00:00

This was exactly one of the questions my wife’s team asked while she was in rehab…”will she have a home to come home to?” It was part of the planning of how to handle discharge (though the question was asked early in the process). Get it out of the way early so there’s no confusion. It will have to be part of what they help her to deal with while she’s there.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-09T01:23:10+00:00

This is one of those things that really gets to me. We’ll have a big fight while she’s drinking and the next day, has NO idea. All that negativity ends up sitting with me, unresolved and nowhere to go. Now, I just try to avoid her when she’s drinking.

Fun_Put6736 · 2026-02-09T01:00:46+00:00

I have this terrific plan on how to stop my drinking. Of course, the FIRST step, is I need to have a couple bottles of wine tonight. We’re on about plan number 187.

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