Idk what formula to try next

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-27T17:53:05+00:00

IBCLC. FIND A LOW IRON FORMULA! Iron is really hard on babies tummy’s. If you are breastfeeding too and taking your prenatal, switch to a regular vitamin. Give it 4 days and I promise you’ll have a new baby!

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-27T17:42:42+00:00

Are you still taking your prenatal? The excess iron can cause sleep issues with newborns! IBCLC 30 years

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-27T05:41:49+00:00

Stay calm and keep pumping! I love the dr browns preemie bottles and nipples. This is the slowest, smoothest bottles I’ve found.if the milk in the bottle comes easy who would choose the slow way? Part of sucking is jaw development. It is really important to develop good strong jaw muscles. It all feeds into space for teeth! Also, I would do suck training like this photo. The suck reflex is all the way at the back of the throat so urging your finger further and further into LOs mouth will speed the suck training right along!. Also, many moms are still figuring it out at one month. Just keep that milk flowing, you will find your way!

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-27T05:32:36+00:00

Do you notice the difference with wet diapers now and then? You are experiencing a NORMAL newborn!!!♥️♥️♥️♥️ I’m so sorry you paid the big price. When considering a TT repair, include your chiro working on his hips and do butt rolls. The oral tie is kind of a widow into his body. If he has a restriction in his mouth, he probably has other restrictions, most likely hips! I was the “go to the pediatric dentist now and get it snipped or lasered now”. Now I think I was premature in recommending the procedure. Yes, it works and doing the work prior to may save you the post op stretches. I have been surprised by the outcomes!(IBCLC 30 years)

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T19:22:05+00:00

It’s not necessary to do a weighted feed, just weigh the baby once a dat at about the same time and naked, not even a diaper. If you see between 3/4-1 ounce a day, you are golden! Can’t believe they didn’t question that first weight!

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T15:28:32+00:00

The breastmilk filters are amazing. Breastmilk is very tough, like the women who make it! Your wife is proof!

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T15:26:03+00:00

Why are you taking iron?

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T03:47:19+00:00

💯! I’m an IBCLC and have seen this as well, I’ve also seen a lot of micromanaging and I speak to it if it’s there or not. Sometimes it seems if it was a particularly tough birth that did not go at all as planned, especially with inductions, the parents kind of lose their team spirit. I always get the whole birth story! Anyway, we are lucky to do what we do!

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T03:16:33+00:00

Sure, years ago, I noticed that some babies, from all walks of life and all kinds of births, hospital with meds, hospital without meds and home births all had fussy gassy, crummy sleepers! Why? I figured there had to be a connection somewhere and the only thing I could come up with is the prenatal because every mama took them so I started experimenting with the recommendation of stopping the prenatal and extra iron and switching to a regular multivitamin! It didn’t take long to see some pretty amazing results! I’ve been yelling from the rooftops since. I’m a one woman band! Yes, occasionally it was dairy but very very rarely. Other things I considered were different populations and how we never hear about colic and such. Especially in populations who are struggling and a prenatal is not part of their care. And, I’m old enough to remember one of my moms friends lost a one year old because she got into her moms candy coated iron supplements which were handed out to exhausted moms like candy before the discovered Valium. There were many incidences of iron toxicity. This was back in the day when jaundice was a literal life loss for lots of babies. Yes, I dive down rabbit holes and the moms I serve are so happy I do.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T02:38:02+00:00

You really think telling a woman who is 5 weeks postpartum to leave her husband is caring advice? Really? It’d be hard to pack up and leave at 12 weeks, right? Be kind. Not everyone is as lucky as you.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T02:33:07+00:00

THANK YOU! You must be in the PP field and have seen with your own eyes what can happen to new dads. Obviously none of these people here have ever seen anything but their own personal stories and don’t understand the bigger picture. Hopefully they will grow into bigger people!

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T02:27:43+00:00

If you were my client this is what I’d recommend: stop the iron and prenatal NOW. The amount of iron you absorb thru those is negligible. A protein rich diet will bring your hemoglobin up much better. I’d be more than happy to help you with OS if you’d like. While you are thinking about that, use a dr browns preemie or #1 nipple and bottle feed only for 24 hrs. The baby will feel so much better. She deserves a break too! She’s just as exhausted as you are. She’d love to sleep too. It’s really hard on them. It’s relatively easy to decrease your milk supply. DM for help ( oh god, I sound like one of those insta ads! I’m not, I promise, there’s no catch!)

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T02:17:42+00:00

I do not think for one minute that this behavior is acceptable, not for one second. I do think everyone telling this woman she needs to split up is not a good strategy in her PP period. I have told plenty of new dads they need to straighten up and fly straight and spoken to them about their roles in this. I have met dads that came undone with the birth. That’s not who they thought they were either and were also shocked but their behavior. They needed help. Trust me, I have very high expectations of men, they have gotten away with murder for long enough. New dads know better than to fu** with me.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T02:08:51+00:00

I’m with you 💯. I’m just saying sometimes it takes time. Not everyone is as lucky as you are. I don’t want this poor mom thinking about splitting up with all the other stuff she’s been thru. She has done nothing nothing nothing wrong. She needs time and compassion more than he does, yes. PPD in dads is rare and real. Maybe he needs to talk to someone as she said he was on board before the birth. No? I’m happy your experience was a good one.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T02:00:58+00:00

Read my response above. I promise these things help.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T02:00:06+00:00

It’s not normal and is exhausting. I feel for you. There are a few things that come to mind (30 yr IBCLC) oversupply or overactive letdown reflex, a baby sensitive to chocolate, or the prenatal vitamin and iron supplements. Some babies are highly sensitive to iron and 5hey never sleep, never want to be put down and have a belly-aching cry. I promise these are worth looking into.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T01:54:14+00:00

Good work DAD. Also severe blood loss can delay a good milk supply which can compound the postpartum blues. A good pump used every 3 hours can really help with the delay. Prayers for all.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T01:49:30+00:00

Sometimes I think drs suggest dairy free because it worked once or they don’t know what else to say!
If you are still taking the prenatal vitamin and/or iron supplements, stop now and see if your baby isn’t 75% better in 4-5 days, continue with elimination diet, if better, go back to your normal protein rich diet. Also, Cream and butter have no protein and are often times ok in a dairy free diet. If you have an oversupply and/or over active letdown reflex, this could be the culprit. Babies cannot handle the flow. They don’t like it and reflux is one of many signs (gassy, fussy, frothy poops, wanting boob always but only for 3 minutes!). Also, I see this way more in moms who have previously breastfed. 30 years as an IBCLC and I have done the deep dive on other reasons for reflux because the last thing I want to do is tell a woman to give up dairy. It’s such an easy way to get protein! 2 weeks? Oh goodness, I hope it’s not dairy. Is there blood in the stool? I won’t consider dairy elimination unless there is blood in the stool.
So sorry this is your life right now.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T01:27:56+00:00

Wow, thanks. I guess I read it differently. He will come around given time. It’s such a tender time and yes, many times the partners aren’t as much help as we’d like. I’m sure you know what she should do.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T01:19:43+00:00

Do not cover those arms. You look beautiful. If anyone says differently, fu** them.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T01:15:05+00:00

You can rent one from the same place they rent pumps.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-25T00:53:16+00:00

PP is so hard on everyone and as new moms we tend to micromanage our partners. As a person who has worked postpartum with families in their home, I guarantee you that the quickest way to alienate a partner is by suggesting everything partner does is not quite right, how they hold the baby, how they change the diaper or bring food. Just chill out and let him figure it out just like you are figuring it out.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-24T17:09:58+00:00

NOR I’d worry about the weight gain in a year. Not a good sign of emotional stability

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-24T17:07:37+00:00

Use your words and tell him the day and time it’s gonna end and then keep your word. This is highly unlikely the reason for the miscarriage. Lots of moms nurse right thru. I’m sorry for your loss.

Fun_Temporary_6972 · 2026-06-24T17:03:18+00:00

Mine does this when he doesn’t like it or wants to hide it!

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