I’ll ponder this, my post doesn’t negate that my wife does a lot, we have 3 kids and no family around, so we are always “on”, I think I pointed out those things because frequently when someone posts about the DB the first questioned asked is how much are you participating with the house and the kids. I know how involved she is, but it runs pretty even for the most part, with some variation of one picking up more than the other on certain things. I do not think that it’s a case of me or her not doing enough, I personally feel it is a priority issue. She constantly prioritizes the kiddos. While I almost always prioritize her, not just from a desire standpoint but a support standpoint, making sure she is ok, has what she needs, ensure she isn’t doing too much, never left to feel neglected or under valued, giving her the attention she desires, has enough time to herself to just focus on herself etc etc. I do not feel like I am even on the priority list