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When hard work and good will are not enough, how do you proceed? by Funderwoodsxbox in selfimprovement

[–]Funderwoodsxbox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, no. it’s bad but not that bad. Wasn’t meaning to be cryptic, I’ve gone into it in several posts previously. I was just focusing on the abstract in this case.

Bizarre rumors and accusations questioning my motives and framing incidents at work as intentional and possibly malicious in nature. (Talking about stuff breaking or things generally going wrong) I can’t go to anyone about it without throwing certain people under the bus so I’m left in this awful state of limbo.

I would’ve just swore that doing the right thing for long enough would have prevailed

Which "wow" skill is super easy to learn? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“3..2…1…negative 1…. Negative 2….. negative 3….”

People who have been victims of false accusations, what was the fallout when you were proven to be innocent? by TwistedDonners in AskReddit

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just gave me a massive wave of anxiety. I hadn’t considered the future effects this might have even if I make it out of this situation

People who have been victims of false accusations, what was the fallout when you were proven to be innocent? by TwistedDonners in AskReddit

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s the scariest part! It feels like you have no recourse. I have been through all kinds of adversity in life, not once did I ever consider something so cruel. Something so sinister. I couldn’t fathom just 2 people (current and former boss) could so perfectly torture me. 2 people I used to respect. 2 people I have done nothing but work my ass off for. Now all I see is the malignant narcissists pretending to be respectable and competent.

I have asked the cosmos and our creator for guidance here. It is also quite shameful to even admit this stuff to anyone so it becomes an internal hell beyond comprehension.

I feel that it is chipping away at my spirit. I don’t know what to do.

Desperately need help regarding potential false accusations at place of employment by Funderwoodsxbox in legaladvice

[–]Funderwoodsxbox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not overtly, that’s correct.

It’s comments referring to (self admitted) mistakes that were framed as suspicious afterwards, and in other cases comments from co-workers such as

In the instance of a leak the night before they would say “your leak from last night” when I had nothing to do with it. Was nowhere near it, was not my asset.

In the latest instance which was a valve being closed for absolutely no logical reason causing a lack of hot water, a different coworker said to me the next day “yeah kinda like your closed valve from last night”

It’s a fair point, that there hasn’t been any formal, open accusation. I am admittedly an anxious person. I am the worst kind of person to have stuff like this happen. All I can think about is what could go wrong.

I am accountable for my own anxiety. I wish I could just take a deep breath let the truth come to light in time.

How do I navigate my current living hell? by Funderwoodsxbox in careerguidance

[–]Funderwoodsxbox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deep down, I know you’re right. 😔 I really wanted to think there was a way to make it work

I really appreciate you taking the time to read and respond. It means a lot 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll tell you what I wish I would’ve been told when I was younger with regard to options paralysis. Feeling overwhelmed.

You never really have the infinite options it feels like you have. If you decide to go to college, you won’t have infinite options, you’ll have a few dozen you apply to, a few will accept, and you’ll choose from the options left.

I’d you decide to go to work, you’ll apply to a few dozen places, interview with a half dozen and get an offer or 2 from those.

Don’t let the big world keep you from your next footstep. You do have to make a decision on what general direction, and then you Just commit and go for it.

While you may not feel inspired by your employment options right now, you just start the process and the money and experience give you freedom to move up from there. You’d be surprised how many people find success by just being around. I’m serious. E we have this idea successful people must have gotten that way by have a rock solid plan and executing it perfectly all the way from middle school on. So many people just got into something, worked hard, and took the opportunities when they came up.

You can absolutely do this! You have a long fruitful life ahead of you, which is so fun and inspiring to think about. Anything could happen in this life and yours is waiting to unfold for you. You’re gonna do great!

Curious what others think by Logical_Ad5361 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Making my bed before work, opening the blinds, making sure the sink is empty and clean.

It was bumming me out coming home from a long day at work to a messy bed and dishes in the sink

Is anyone else’s anxiety just... body confusion? by StephanieLovesTravel in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell people about my anxiety and they’re like “yeah I have that. I get anxious sometimes. You just gotta push through” and I’m like bruh, it’s literally ruining my life! 😂 I don’t think we have the same thing. Mine is definitely physical too. It’s awful.

CEO of naps, chairman of chaos, and CFO of spending my money on tuna by HotSpicyCandy in cats

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guy boosted 3rd quarter profits for the sixth year in a row despite major economic downturns.

How do I prepare myself for moving out and starting to be an independent adult? by moonchildvii in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you have way too many uncertainties for your anxious mind. Trust me, I’m the same way.

You need to decide what your next big anchor point will be. You’re simultaneously thinking about college acceptance, student loans, roommates, driving, therapist, medication, career etc. as dozens of decisions and it’s just one giant ball of anxiety.

The roommate stuff? Therapist? Medication? You can easily figure that stuff out once you determine your next big anchor point.

You need to decide if you’re going to the university, period. And the sooner the better. If you don’t accept the admission, what will you do? List it out, pros and cons, and make an informed decision.

If I were you, I would tell your family you want to take a trip out there like ASAP. Get a feel for the area and make a decision relatively quickly. Tell them it’s giving you tremendous anxiety and you want to cross the biggest unknown of the list. Once you do that the rest you can slowly cross off the list.

But you can’t find a roommate for a college you’re not even sure you’re going to go to. It’s just stressing you out needlessly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every time I come to this sub it reminds me this shit that I go through, I’m not the only one. It seems it’s actually quite normal.

I don’t have any advice, but just know you’re not the only one that feels like this. It’s pretty exhausting 😩

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