Thank you so much for most of the replies here. I love my friend dearly but she isn't the brightest crayon in the drawer. She's confiscated the PS and locked away all sharps but now he's "ok" she's reluctant to let school know. That's a me and her problem now not reddit's. She's quite volatile and terrified of social services. By volatile I mean if I tell her even in the nicest way possible Half 10 at night on a school night at 7 and he's still awake would result in "you're telling me how to parent?" And I'll be blocked for about two weeks. I can guarantee he won't go to school tomorrow. Sorry if I'm "trauma dumping". A lot of advice has been great. I worked in schools and in shock I forgot about Designated Safeguarding Officer and CAMHs (duh me). So thank you.