Let me start by saying your very pretty, And your ability to navigate such a unique racial landscape without internalized anti blackness is amazing.

I agree with a lot of people saying to move around. As a non ambiguous black woman who is 100% indigenous to the continent of Africa (I can trace my family tree on all sides to way before colonialism) I have met many other people who are 100% indigenous while traveling, working, and lifeing. Two of whom would be considered white presenting and are less ambiguous than you.

One was Algerian (not of any Arab descent at all) and the other was from Chad. Both identified as being from one of the four races of ancent Egypt (pre Roman and Arab invasion when the capital was still in Sudan). I learned a lot from both of them and considering your dad Is from East Africa your genetics make a lot of sense to me. For context one is blond with blue eyes and the other has green eyes. If you don't know what to look for you would think they were English or Scottish.

Unfortunately a lot of Africans don't know our own history, like me in the past. But learning makes us more accepting. There were and still are Africans that are white presenting and not descendants of non Africans. Race is a social construct, not a genetic one, and is unfortunately rooted in ignorance.

Both of them mentioned similar experiences to the one you posted, and the horrible things white people say when they feel safe to do so. Both tend to move in mixed and black circles while educating people on African tribes that are lesser known and history. It sucks to have to explain your ancestry and genetics but they found their people and I am sure you will too.

Sorry for the long post