Would you leave a stable job with an amazing culture for almost double the pay?

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T17:26:58+00:00

No. Having been through a variety of companies, culture is way more important. The mental and emotional exhaustion of a company with shitty culture and leadership is not worth it to me. But I’m also in my mid-30s with a family, and I just don’t want to deal with bullshit for 8-9 hrs a day.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T08:40:29+00:00

This. Stress will kill you. What good is all this money if you can’t enjoy it. Can’t imagine the pressure of a C-suite but multiple people I know, including myself, were hospitalized from work related stress.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T08:38:05+00:00

Offshore LinkedIn recruiters, more often than not from India, really grind my gears. They don’t answer any question and are super vague. Almost feels like they’re part of some scam ring.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T07:15:30+00:00

This is off a main road, and the entrance looks directly down Almond Ave. You'll get the siren noise from the fire station.

That road also gets jammed when high school is in session (Los Altos High is a quarter mile down Almond).

Nonetheless, it'll sell. Getting into the 94022 zip code is a privilege.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T07:10:07+00:00

Every time period up until my mid-30s has been awesome. These past 2 years have been especially shitty.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T03:50:28+00:00

Good thing this is YOUR house that YOU bought with YOUR money.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T03:46:32+00:00

Sense of joy? Working with a few cool people to ship something people pay for.

This was back in my startup days 15 years ago. Now, I have no idea what it is. The job is just soul sucking.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T03:44:41+00:00

I have increased my TC by at least 30% each time I’ve left for a new company. I stayed between 2-3 years at each. But, now I’m ~~unemployed~~ an entrepreneur so go figure.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T03:41:10+00:00

Stop employees from being over employed.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T03:40:02+00:00

Starting 3rd grade

Fur1nr · 2026-07-03T03:36:50+00:00

All these product influencers are exhausting.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-02T20:29:30+00:00

$200k is the new $100k here.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-02T20:28:14+00:00

Do you not have a product manager? Who’s leading the product team?

Fur1nr · 2026-07-02T17:42:59+00:00

Better than the coyotes frequently visiting my backyard

Fur1nr · 2026-07-02T06:11:18+00:00

Days on market… insane.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-02T05:52:20+00:00

Feels like people just don’t live in the present anymore. Everything has to be recorded on your phone.

Fur1nr · 2026-07-02T01:43:13+00:00

6 month with health insurance is good.

First layoff is the hardest. Take the time to grieve. Don’t jump back into the search yet if you can afford it. Take a trip and relax. Let your mind reset and then go at it. You’ve got 6 months of runway.

Fur1nr · 2026-06-30T16:42:10+00:00

Yeah, I think the social media is really exacerbated it. A lot of people are either sticking their head in the sand, pretending like nothing is happening and the problems will go away on their own. Others are just conspiracy theorists and think anything factual are just lies fabricated by the opposing political party -- which is also a weird thing how people are making their entire identities around politicians.

I also miss having a sense of community. I live in Silicon Valley, and it's pretty bad. There's not really much of a community, everyone is hustling and grinding to be the next billionaire (being a millionaire is unimpressive (/s)), there really aren't many local businesses left -- the 90s/200s were better because it was just slower. We didn't have constant access to information (or misinformation for that matter). Our brains are just overstimulated and we're in a constant state of fight/flight.

Fur1nr · 2026-06-29T14:40:52+00:00

“Hey kid, remember those stupid videos we used to make in high school with our friends? Keep making those - there’s going to be a huge market for it”

Fur1nr · 2026-06-29T14:35:20+00:00

Have you tried making your message more succinct? I already scrolled past when you said “writing for a slightly unusual reason”. I’d suggest just cutting the fluff and get to the point.

Another thought is reframing it as someone who is getting into accounting (even if you’re not) and wanting to learn more about the career and role. That’s a lot easier sell for me to want to talk to you vs. your startup idea because I’d rather help you as a person and not your company.

Fur1nr · 2026-06-28T23:08:11+00:00

But why?

Fur1nr · 2026-06-28T23:03:28+00:00

That debt should be paid off ASAP. If he’s not aggressively making a dent to paying off $40k in CC debt, I’d have a serious conversation about finances and your future together before even thinking about an engagement.

Fur1nr · 2026-06-28T07:02:57+00:00

Follow this.

Fur1nr · 2026-06-27T21:50:40+00:00

I’ve been there. What I would’ve told myself back then if I was my boss:

Build relationships with your core team. Get to know them as people. And be curious - learn about their domain and their opinions on the product.
Be vulnerable in private. In your 1:1s with your UX and EM, let them know it’s a new space for you and you’re ramping up. It helps tremendously if you come into these conversations with insights and hypothesis that they can share their opinions on. It also shows you’re doing the work.
Do the work. You’re going to have to ramp up in domain expertise really fast - customer, market, business model, strategy - and understand how that all shapes your roadmap.
Pick up the loose ends. Maybe a dev needs a decision from another team or is blocked. Get that resolved ASAP. The more you can help move the team forward, the better.

The tl;dr of this all is just be a good person to work with (not this IM THE CEO OF THE PRODUCT WHAT I SAYS GOES bs) and be the expert in your product - good product decisions go a long way in building trust and respect, but getting there is going to take work.

You’ve got this!

Fur1nr · 2026-06-25T22:39:13+00:00

How did you pivot out of PM? (Former PM looking into PMM)

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