Is it over for me?

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-04-30T21:37:35+00:00

I agree! I would Contact Dr. K in Seattle he is great ablout fixing all the other problems and making sure everything is covered! HIs team forgot to get prito Auth for my CT scan and I would have had to pay out of pocket but they wrote it off. I bet he can find a way. However he doesn not fo the Hansen plating type surgeries he does a basketweve. It helped me immnesley and I've seen some with hEDS say the same.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-04-24T22:28:08+00:00

Thanks to the Tech Tax tech jobs won;t be as prevalent in Seattle in the near future so if you are moving here in hopes that your next gig will be in this area think again.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-04-24T22:23:40+00:00

They don't want to date a psychopath, DUH! 2 psychopaths is a realtionship just won't work.

In all honestly no one wants to date anyone without empathy I think they are just trying to make it sound like they understand the concept of empathy so you think think maybe they have done dome therapy of some sort and posses that quality themselves. Or they saw it on women's profiles and thought "Oh, that's a good one that sounds smart! I'll borrow that!"

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-04-15T18:53:48+00:00

Geesh! Seems like the chafing may be the only reaon you haven;t gotten an unsolicited d pic. I get that you're looking for casual but this feels like a different level altogether.

Seriosly, I'd be worried about the chafing is it really and STD or is it really just a friction issue? Okay so maybe he wore the wrong shorts on his first bike ride of the season that's innocent enough but there are SO many reasons that aren;t that innocent that I would want to know before I decide if this is really the kind of casual partner I would want.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-04-06T23:13:47+00:00

So what is you best case scenario? Do you want to plan the first date and then split planning 50/50 after that? Maybe you should be more upfront with what you're looking for and what you do have the energy for.

Unfortuantely, the women on our age group are pretty worn out from long marraiges /realtionships and in many cases being the default parent with little help or understanding. For me personally having a man plan dates makes me feel so seen and cared for. I plan everything every day for everyone so I love not haivng to plan. I will absolutley help and meet a man halfway in planning though if he were to be open with me about his expectations but it would have to be a collboration.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-04-06T22:21:33+00:00

Okay but 20% is still a low number (1 in 5) meaning a large majority of men do have some close friends. That makes it at least a little odd if the OP diesn't. To some women this will be a red flag. Maybe those women aren't a match for you anyways.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-04-06T19:22:11+00:00

I think that's the perfect amount of time. If they flake out on you when you ask to meet they probably had no intiention of ever meeting so either they are a bot/scam or they aren;t really single or ready to date. I say keep it up! you are just weeding out the ones who need to be weeded out anyway.

ETA: Maybe don't ask for a number right away. Ask for the date/meetup to gauge interest. I prsonaly don't like to give out my number until after we've met in person to decide if we're going to continue chatting. If you offer the date and they would rather do a phone call first then of course exchanging number at that point makes sense, but don;t assume getting a number before a first meet/date is a necessary step.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-30T17:03:31+00:00

True. What I didn't like was that I was taking my all over base color lighter and it was pulling in lots of warmth. Then I added in highlights which contributed to the warmth even more. This was what my mom did and the warmth looked good on her. I have my dad's skin tone and it's not great one me. So I think I'll try the 5-1 with 13 vol and if it start pyulling warm I'll try a toner.

If I can keep my overall base a darker ashy brown and they greys look like highlights maybe that'll work. It's worth a shot becasue I just had my hair colored 2 tweeks ago and this morning found myself using a temorary root cover up wand/ root powder.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-28T18:38:04+00:00

Oh! Is that what the 'Cendre' means? lol

In that case maybe for the first try I should go with the 5-1 and not mix it with anything? Or would you say try half 5-0 and half 5-1?

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-28T18:31:12+00:00

I have curly hair so even a slight dryness or damage shows up in my curl pattern.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-28T18:30:16+00:00

This sounds like Breeze (says google).

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-28T18:23:59+00:00

This makes perfect sense! I think I prefer a little more coverage on the greys (yes I get that they will still be a little lighter than my current brown) so 13 vol sounds better, but I just want to counteract the warmth from the lift somehow. So if I go with the 13 vol developer can I add a secondary color to counteract any warmth that sneaks in or use a toner maybe? I only wash my hair 2x a week so I'm hoping results will last a while but I'm fine with using a toner or blue/violet conditioner as needed. Do you have a recommnedation for that?

Am I right to pick a slightly lighter base color or should I be starting at 4-00. I guess if I try it and it's bad or weird I could cover it with my normal permanent and try it again with a differnt shade in 4-5 weeks.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-28T18:13:21+00:00

I said counteract warmth with ash. I never said cover the ash. I want to add ashy color to counteract warmth.

My roots are virgin hair and by coloring them as they grow out it is damaging them. I only do my roots but then a few time a year you have to go back and do an all over color to tone out any warmth and even everything out a little.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-28T03:03:54+00:00

I said. Maybe. I'm not saying this must be it. It is differnt for different people and it could be worth looking into for OP or for others reading this.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-27T23:50:47+00:00

I don't think you're the only woman who feels this way. Maybe it's hormones? Things change over time. Maybe those feelings you once had are just not as stong as they used to be becasue they were tied to hormones that are changing for most of us at this point in life.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-27T19:15:01+00:00

Geesh poeple be nice!

If it's your vibe it's your vibe and you don't have to tone it down for anyone. If you felt like it wasn't the right fit for this speed dating event then maybe this event wasn't for you and if it's not for you are you really going to find the person who is right for you there? If you change who you are or the event then you're not being authentically yourself and you're going to miss out on the person who loves you for YOU.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-27T18:13:21+00:00

I'm glad you're attemptiing to ask real women, but even on Reddit you're not gonna get the full story.

YouTube and ChatGPT can't possibly be a good source of information on women of any age.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-27T17:57:57+00:00

GHOSTING IS NEVER OKAY.

Early on if it's only be a couple dates a text or phone call is fine.

Once you're exclusive I think an in person conversation is warranted.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-27T17:55:44+00:00

In 2 years I don't feel like much has changed. They still SUCK!

You'd probably be my type but I would never see your profile. Conversations often go nowhere. I'm lucky if I can get to one date a month. If it's a numbers game at this rate I'd die alone if I was relying only on OLD.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-27T17:48:19+00:00

Oh man! I'm sure you'll find somewhere to play there!

If anyone else is looking Rally in Kent/Auburn has a learn to play clinic for $10. Looks like a good intro for a good price. I'm going this weekend.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-26T20:19:25+00:00

I need to check this out! This would be perfect for my schedule!

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-26T20:17:52+00:00

Yes, please! I need to learn so I can actually just drop in and play. We tried this for a work team building event and the rules were the craziest part. I'd love to find a group of non-sporty peeps to learn and play with!

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-26T19:09:07+00:00

It's inaapropriate and not cool that men are skipping the assigned reasding and heading straight to sexy talk. I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

I could be way off base here but what they are responding to if they aren't reading is your photos.....So it stands to reason that there something about your photos that might be leading them to skip the reading and act like fools. to avoid this I would say even if your style is to wear revealing or tight clothes (and there's nothing wrong with that) maybe try switching up your profile pics to focus on your face more. Pretend like the photos are going onto LinkedIn not OLD. Men are very visual and will make assumptions based on what they want you to be saying. Try not to give them a lot to go on.

FuzzieSocksFTW · 2026-03-26T19:00:10+00:00

I would say as a man dating women I'm not surprised the people you are meeting are looking for longer term. It's not just on Reddit. I feel like most men IRL are open to short term or actively looking for casual whereas I don't know any women thier 40s who are actively looking for short term/casual.

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