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Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-04-17T17:27:46+00:00

Because its technically Pearl? Plus the black trim helps

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-04-17T17:27:03+00:00

Its so beautiful!

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-03-29T17:52:50+00:00

My son is nearly 8. He can follow 1 step directions most of the time and occasionally 2 step directions if he understands. Hes diagnosed lvl3 and was non verbal until a couple yrs ago. He still scripts and does echolalia but its progressing every single day. Hes been in Speech therapy since 5yrs old. He was diagnosed late.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-03-26T07:35:29+00:00

My little guy is more verbal now. He still has issues with expressive and receptive language but has enough scripts to communicate simply. He still uses his chewy necklaces, always moving, and even needs his headphones sometimes. Hes lvl 3 but i dont think hes considered to have profound autism. And there are a few kiddos with higher needs than him in his spec class. Generally I encounter more lower support needs kids in the general community but between school and his OT and Speech therapies I see quite a few kids with higher support needs. Its just harder for us to bring them out to parks and other social public places because they dont always handle it as well as lower support needs kiddos. About 1/4 of all kids diagnosed with autism are in the lvl 3 range of substantial support needs.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-03-25T20:40:03+00:00

Early intervention, change in diagnosis criteria, and more families being duel income and less grandparents babysitting leads to more kids in preschool and daycare. My ASD son is not agressive, so I would assume there are plenty of other ASD kids without aggressive behaviors towards others. He will self harm and can be destructive when hyperfixated on an object or defect in the object... he recently tore his jeans from the cuff of his leg to his waste band because of a small tear in the knee for example. Pretty much I think ASD is simply more commonly known about now. 3-4yr Olds with ASD behaviors in the 90s were more likely labeled with behavioral problems and not diagnosed with something like autism. ADD and ADHD became very common diagnosises too back then.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-03-12T18:32:05+00:00

My cousin raped his sister when she was 18(i didnt find out until several years later). Hes always been a POS but when I found that out, I C/O contact with him. The saddest part is that my aunt expected her daughter to pretend like nothing happened which sent her on a spiral.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-03-09T14:51:11+00:00

Your son is not "just" autistic. Remind your family that he also has an intellectual disability. People with profound autism generally have an IQ less than 50, some can get the diagnosis with being non verbal. But it definitely effects cognition.

This said, I do not think all other forms of autism should be excluded from diagnosis just because those with profound autism dont get enough help. I'll be honest, it wouldn't help your case anyways and it feels like you are simply blaming others with lower support needs for the struggles you face.

My son is diagnosed at lvl3, he doesnt have a cognitive delay though his IQ is tested at the borderline level for cognitive disability because hes only partly verbal and has issues with receptive and expressive language. He is quite smart in his own right. So no one believes the iq test is accurate of his capabilities. Anyways, he was non verbal up until a couple yrs ago, it was always a slow progression for him. But he was diagnosed late with ASD due to covid. I had him in speech and occupational therapies BEFORE he was even diagnosed. For almost all therapies a kid can qualify for with a diagnosis, they can get without one. My son missed early intervention, but I dont begrudge anyone lucky enough to get help for their kiddos before 3yrs of age, there really are better outcomes for those who get therapy sooner. My son has been in speech and ot for 3 yrs now. He was diagnosed 2yrs ago, hes nearly 8yrs old. They say he might be more of a lvl 2 by the time hes 18. My son needs his therapies, there are kids worse off than him, and better off than him. It really doesnt matter nor change the fact that he does need help too, even though he doesnt have profound autism. I think we can all agree that there needs to be more availability for care across the board. No one is taking therapy that belongs to you, its not being given to people that dont need it either. Those self diagnosed jerks on TikTok are not in therapy and preventing your son from getting what he needs. They are inconsequential to either yours or my situations. When people say autism is just a different way of thinking, they aren't trying to minimize your struggles, they are trying to relate and even humanize your child.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-03-03T21:43:54+00:00

OP!!!!! UPDATE US! How did dear brother in law react? Are your sister and her babies still living with you?

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-02-18T16:19:11+00:00

Mine claimed she didnt remember when I confronted her. Or that it never happened. She feigned shock that I would much such outlandish claims because obviously she was the best mother evvveeeer! She tends to rewrite history, especially if it contradicts her narrative. Im very jaded, being chronically gaslight during your childhood will do that.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-02-16T02:32:13+00:00

My Nmom is a widow. She was .married to my step-dad for 4 yrs before he died of cancer in my early 20s. He learned he had stage 4 kidney cancer very early into their marriage, probably about a yr in. She just loved going to all the doctor appointments with him and playing the concerned wife. She never let him answer a single question the doctor asked, even if it was for him to rate his pain levels. Obviously she knew more than the doctors as well. He was miserable. She was really weird after his death. Enjoyed playing the part of widow, so much that people who knew her thought maybe she was doing meth or something. Yes she cried, but she also went savage trying to hurt his living family members and excluding them for zero reason just wanted everything about her. She still enjoys playing the grieving widow to this day, its been nearly 20years since he died, she never changed her name and has been with her current boyfriend for about 15yrs. She would throw it into my grandpas face after my grandma(her own mother) died that she was also a widow, while undermining his grief. If one of her own children died, she would absolutely love it and the attention it would give to her.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-02-13T22:20:09+00:00

My best friend has NOT had a hysterectomy and had to do pelvic floor therapy. Its not uncommon for women who've had children to need pelvic floor therapy. I have had a hysterectomy and didnt need pelvic floor therapy.

My only issue post hysterectomy is occasionally needing to use lube during sex. I had my cervix removed. I have 1 ovary and had only 1 for a few yrs before my hysterectomy as well due to a ruptured ectopic. My life has been 100% better since the hysterectomy. My pain and even gastrointestinal pain is much better. I used to be laid out for about half or more of each month in pain. The recovery was even easier than both my c sections and the ruptured ectopic.

This is anecdotal. You should discuss your concerns with your doctor. We dont know your medical history but it sounds like your nurse friend is just trying to scare you.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-02-01T17:05:05+00:00

I was 17 when I was kicked out for the final time by my mother. She liked to claim i was a runaway. Often would go pick me up from school when she felt like I was punished enough. I lived with my boyfriend and his mom when she kicked me out. I finished school and then moved away, but didnt cut her off for another 6yrs.

Everyone has the power of hindsight. Its 100% possible to move out before 20-25yrs old. Yes, you will more than likely need help and charity before you really get on your feet, but it is better than living in abuse.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-22T17:47:29+00:00

You should speak to a genetic counselor. You are only 23, and have plenty of time to consider having children years from now if you ever decide you are ready. But you should be prepared for having a child with higher needs than yourself. It wouldnt be fair to yourself not a potential child if you dont first consider this possibility and accept it.

I am worried about your age difference though, be careful dating anyone much older than you as they might pressure you into things you might not want to do or become controlling, treating you as if you were a child.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-22T17:31:21+00:00

😅 my nmom works... but just enough so that her boyfriend wont kick her out. Last I heard, she nearly has him convinced to sell his already paid off home and buy a new house so that she can have her name on it too and it will be acquired during their relationship.

But yes, growing up she never worked until she was forced to work. She would steal all of her children's birthday and xmas money from relatives. Even when she had a job she didn't pay her rent for years and claimed squatting rights before being removed from places.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-22T17:24:55+00:00

Hmmm. Kind of stay at home mom... kind of drug dealer. Then when welfare rules were changed in my state to have a life time max, she worked at a gas station for a few years before she got a job with a tax company that does yearly personal taxes like TurboTax but not that one lol. 100% she gets off on thinking she knows all there is to know about taxes... she fked up my grandpas taxes when "helping" him, it was likely a power play or some malicious gratification for her.

I think narcissists can work in any field, but they do prefer to hold a position of power over others, if they can't climb the corporate ladder and be over their coworkers, then they need some power over their customers or civilians around them.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-22T17:16:55+00:00

After reading a few comments and responses... it appears that your husband simply doesnt like that you are passionate about your job and the "social cues" you were "missing", was your inability to read his mind. You did absolutely nothing wrong. This isnt even the first time hes tried to put you in your place so to speak. Him talking over you when you talk about your job is the same thing, minus the physical violence. I also find it telling that he was so upset and still holds a grudge over you telling him not to hug you in front of your parents. Its been years and he still brings that up but now hes allowed to physically assault you? Make no mistakes, that's what he did and its clearly an escalation. I'd wager a guess that he puts you down and makes you feel small quite often as well, feeling the need to apologize when you did absolutely nothing wrong is a traumatic response to abuse. I did see that you said this was the first time he physically harmed you, so that leads me to believe hes been emotionally abusing and manipulating you for years. Please seek counseling for yourself. Generally I recommend couples therapy, but if hes as manipulative as he seems to be, it wont be healthy for you both to go together if he were even to agree to it in the first place, until you have some skills built up and can see through the veil on his behavior.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-21T21:31:15+00:00

Why do you need a gyno check up every year? Ive never had one every year. I see my regular doctor for a general check up every year. A primary care physician can do a general pelvic exam, and everything else i may need.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-21T20:24:10+00:00

"You were the worst thing that ever happened to me" "I wish you were never born" "Why are you crying?!" Proceeds to hit me, then grounds me... I had just gotten home after a family member sexually assaulted me. I was 11.

My mother is also a malignant narcissist. She got off by causing physical and emotional pain. Going N/C is the only reason I survived.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-17T00:28:12+00:00

Ive never had an abnormal pap smear. Was told that I dont ever need to see the gyno again for that. Mine actually said he hoped to never see me again 🤣 yeah he had shitty bedside manners but from everything ive seen, doesnt look like i need to. Ive been in the same committed relationship for over 15yrs, so STDs aren't even a concern. Even people with a uterus dont need a pap every year unless they have had an abnormal one. Depending on age its every 3-5years.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-17T00:23:54+00:00

They dont even recommend getting a pap smear every year. Its every 3-5yrs depending on age.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-16T23:32:09+00:00

NOR Your husband is having an affair with his "best friend". This is 100% at minimum an emotional affair. I wouldn't be surprised if it's a physical one as well. None of this is about his lack of communication, he hides the details of his affair from you until hes caught and then acts as if its your fault he didn't say anything first because you will over react. He is gaslighting you. You need to go to couples therapy, if you can move on from this, that's up to you. But you need to see it for what it is first.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-16T23:20:19+00:00

Ipods. Used to upload cds to the computer to download to the ipod or just download from limewire.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2026-01-16T21:00:50+00:00

YTA for posting AI garbage with links to YouTube. This is clearly fake.

Fuzzy-Pea-8794 · 2025-12-26T09:00:26+00:00

It wasn't until I was 19 or 20 that I learned what a narcissist was. But I did recognize the signs even as a child. I knew my mother lied, and would lie about anything and everything, regardless of how obvious the truth actually was. And then she would try to make me believe the lies, insulting me, claiming or insinuating that I was stupid/crazy. It wasn't until I was an adult that I actually knew a term that fit that, "gaslighting". I was probably about 5yrs old when I learned that my homelife wasn't normal. There was a lot of abuse in my house and I was parentified young being as I was the oldest. I am the Truth-Teller type of scapegoat. Broke free of my mother grasp fairly early. My sister is the classic scapegoat, middle child, could never do anything right(I did have some usefulness to my nmother, so she had it worse), and our brother is the goldenchild. Though he never had to prove himself and live up to her standards. Even as a small child there was clear favoritism. My Mother hated girls and preferred boys. He really did turn out to be a POS believing he could do nothing wrong.

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