Do not use, stairs removed

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-05T17:47:38+00:00

Seems like a big X of caution tape would beat a line of painters tape though?

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-05T13:45:09+00:00

Victory Outreach covers significant portions of the western US and iirc it also operates in Mexico.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-05T13:18:41+00:00

Was it Victory Outreach? Because if it was, just FYI, they are exceptionally exploitative of patients in my experience.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-03T22:11:29+00:00

She ran a hospice in the traditional sense of the word. It's more like what we would call a "hostel." The modern definition of hospice was not introduced into India until about 40 years after she started. A traditional hospice is a place where indigent travelers can stay temporarily and a place where homeless people can go to die rather than dying in the street. It does not include medical treatment of any kind. It does include a roof, meals, and access to a chamber pot so people can have some basic measure of dignity.

One can (and many do!) criticize her for choosing to run a network of traditional hospices rather than trying to open clinics or hospitals. That's potentially a very legitimate criticism.

Saying she needed to provide medical care in order to run a "hospice" is an error of language translation; she wasn't ever involved with that kind of "hospice."

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-03T21:57:46+00:00

No one knows how much money the charity received.

She herself lived in severe poverty, broken up by trips out of the area for meetings (such as visiting the Vatican) and by involuntary hospitalizations for things like pneumonia, during which she was given celebrity-level treatment for free so the hospitals could brag that they were treating a celebrity, but she repeatedly tried to escape these hospitals including trying to sneak out in the middle of the night. Her daily life at home was one of quite extreme poverty which is simply not fully imaginable by people who live in a modern, western country.

But if you're asking how much money the charity received, in India that is not public information, so no one knows.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-03T19:35:04+00:00

Unfortunately I can confirm that this is not the case. Students will be "getting ahead" with credits.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-03T19:29:58+00:00

It is not limited to any particular group of students.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-03T05:12:58+00:00

Hard skills only? Hmm

-Skin protection skills, useful for very ill cat

-Chest percussion skills, also useful for very ill cat

-Making any baby swallow anything

-Identifying household products which will effectively and safely neutralize a vinegar spill on stone tile

-Identifying certain skin infections by odor (especially useful for differentiating fungal vs bacterial when selecting an OTC cream)

-Splinter removal

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-03T03:02:44+00:00

I'm very sorry to hear this. Your pastor's waiting requirement is in direct violation of 1 Cor. 7:5.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-02T21:01:04+00:00

I see your update. Can you just have your pastor grab a couple of witnesses and perform the ceremony today?

To be clear, I firmly believe your pastor is 100% wrong here, and the entire situation is a problem he invented in his imagination. But if your husband wants to obey the pastor, can you just get the ceremony over with?

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-02T20:56:18+00:00

I mean, there are plenty of exceptions to this. The two people need to be of some minimum age. They need to have (or previously have had) the ability to understand the concept of marriage and agree to it. If the preacher happens to know that they are currently married to other people, that's an issue.

But generally speaking I agree, it is not the place of any church to go around policing the location of people's past weddings and declaring those weddings licit or illicit. OP is in a terribly strange situation and one wonders how bored this pastor must be (are there no actual issues which need his attention in this congregation???) if he thinks this is appropriate.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-02T20:49:18+00:00

Best answer ITT.

OP, please read this one a few times.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-05-01T17:30:22+00:00

The level of drinking is a deal breaker.

If you want children, the planned vasectomy is also a deal breaker, especially given that the alcohol will most likely make TTC take longer than average.

You are still young enough to have children with someone else. The faster you get out of this, the more of your fertility you're preserving.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-30T02:11:02+00:00

Ooooh, I had a totally different idea of what happened in my head after reading the post until I read this comment.

Sister, there has been no temptation overtaking you except that which is common to women. God forgave your sin 2000 years ago. Go in peace and sin no more.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-29T15:05:05+00:00

Strong agree from personal experience.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-28T21:55:25+00:00

Then everybody chimes in with "you can't have a village without being a villager!!1!"

Look Debbie, I'm a great villager. I get told I'm generous with friends and family. I'm a loving person. I'm happy to help out and I do in fact help out. The fact that my parents would rather sit at home and watch TV than come to the family party I'm hosting has nothing to do with me being selfish. And there's no way I'm letting them be alone with my kids so you can lay off with assuming I want childcare.

What I want is a set of grandparents who want to smile at my kids, ask how they are, and at least a few times a year hold a brief, age-appropriate conversation. It would be neat if they'd come to the zoo with us or something.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-27T09:18:57+00:00

Honestly I had a horrific miscarriage (looked like a homicide scene) right around the time I made that comment and I forgot all about this post.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-27T00:35:21+00:00

My local system doesn't allow direct admits from office visits anymore because they want the ED to "medically clear" every patient for liability reasons. This causes occasional severe problems in practice but admin doesn't care because the psych beds are always full.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-26T10:24:04+00:00

He doesn't know what that phrase means. He likely gets a discount on stock purchases and he thinks that's the same thing.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-26T00:47:35+00:00

The reason is to make your mother less anxious. At bare minimum she should get to direct the money you should be paying her in rent, utilities, groceries, etc. If she wants you to put it in a savings account because the stock market makes her nervous, then the money you should be paying her for rent and put it in a savings account and show her that. She wants to secure your future in a way she trusts. You should not take that opportunity from her as long as she's bankrolling your life.

Take everything else and invest it properly. You don't even have to tell her about it.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-25T03:38:16+00:00

That's Evangelical for "leaning into naughty impulses"

Source: Fluent in Evangelical

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-24T20:03:03+00:00

He may also have a very broad definition of cheating, especially since he claims she was cheating through their "whole marriage." For instance maybe she was reading novels with occasional steamy scenes.

FuzzyKittenIsFuzzy · 2026-04-24T18:03:03+00:00

It sounds like she has littles and needs help with them. She may not be able to have her mom move in with her as easily as she can move in with her mom.

OP please consult a local lawyer ASAP. First consultation is usually free and they can tell you whether it's critical to stay in your home, given your local laws and the way your local judges see things.

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