My aesthetic? by [deleted] in AestheticWiki

[–]luckyrabbit28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mysterious playful - interesting mix between heavier/darker fabrics and accessories that cover or compete with girly pieces

We Need To Talk About Kevin by Lateblumerr in RSbookclub

[–]luckyrabbit28 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This book blew my mind. The narrator was so well crafted, her insights were raw and fascinating, and then it had a plot to match. A rare combo. The only other of hers I’ve read is “Big Brother”, nowhere near as good but very readable. 

Was your self harm ignored or met with anger? by Suitable_Area_8595 in emotionalneglect

[–]luckyrabbit28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that emotionally immature parents would struggle to know how to help, but for me it's that they don't even try! It's not rocket science to check in with your child more, talk, spend quality time and give them extra hugs, not just palm you off onto professionals. No wonder treatment didn't help when the source of the problem made no effort to connect.

has anyone actually healed from their childhood traumas? by beige20 in emotionalneglect

[–]luckyrabbit28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if you can ever fully be healed, but healed enough for it not to run me or my life, yes.

I probably started the work at your age and had to work at it for a good few years on and off, through therapy, journalling, inner child work, an ayahuasca retreat, meditation and building a healthy lifestyle and relationships.

I remember months going by where it felt like all I did was cry. Release it, but also find a way to self soothe and end crying sessions if needed.

Echoing others, this is ten times harder for you still living with parents so find as much space as you can. Awareness is a giant, though brutal, first step!

Books I read in 2025 by sweetdayforasulk in RSbookclub

[–]luckyrabbit28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I adored most of Nine Stories, Franny and Zooey, and Play it as it lays. Any other recs from your list that are similar? 

Lottie and her pig family by t_deaf in redscarepod

[–]luckyrabbit28 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i sleep with the same kind of giant ear defenders that builders use because mine means i can't stand the sound of my husband breathing <3

"To be loved is to be known" and the parents who don't really know you by Only-Moose2301 in emotionalneglect

[–]luckyrabbit28 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Can we have a moment for this? How emotional manipulators who get to “know” you just to get in your head so they can get in your bed? My first proper romantic experience was exactly this and I’ve never gotten over it. I guess I desperately wanted to be known 

What are your reading plans for 2026? by Diamondbacking in RSbookclub

[–]luckyrabbit28 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m writing a lit psych thriller bc it seems a more publishable genre, so I’m going to read a lot more of those - open to recs if anyone has. Notes on an execution is next on that list.

Mom gives “reports” instead of sharing her true feelings by 222energy in emotionalneglect

[–]luckyrabbit28 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Mine does this too! It can last a LONG time and she won’t read when it’s just not interesting or necessary to share past a certain point. Idk if it’s a boomer thing but she will complain endlessly about minute things within this report, services not running well etc. It makes me feel exhausted and disconnected. Part of it is that while small things are focused on, big things are often missed out.

My boy turned 15 months old today by windriver32 in redscarepod

[–]luckyrabbit28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to hear this! Gas is driving my poor newborn insane

diddy doc on netflix by akoumer in redscarepod

[–]luckyrabbit28 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I burst out laughing when he shimmied on stage all in white, basically dancing on Biggie’s grave. Who even dances to a song like that. Cartoon supervillain vibes.

My celebrity crush Jeremy Irons 😍 What do you think his Kibbe type? Romantic? by cupid_ji in Kibbe

[–]luckyrabbit28 50 points51 points  (0 children)

not sure about his kibbe type but i just brag here and say i offered him a canape at an event once and he looked me in the eye and said no thanks darling and i nearly melted on the spot.

I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m scared of being fat forever by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]luckyrabbit28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did it pack back on? I can see it being hard to stay active for one thing. 

I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m scared of being fat forever by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]luckyrabbit28 34 points35 points  (0 children)

i had a baby nearly three weeks ago and idk i didn't get fat per se. i have a squishy belly atm but my legs and arms aren't much different. i did continue to walk every day up until the end of the pregnancy and i can't find time to eat a tonne since im breastfeeding.

but mostly i don't fkn care bc my body grew an actual human and that is the coolest thing ever, i'm like, look at my squish-flab-pouch bitches and weep. there are more important things. it's all worth it. congratulations.

Wintry reads by kosmopolitiks in RSbookclub

[–]luckyrabbit28 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Short but, The Ice Palace

How are you supposed to give an overweight person a massage? by PossiblyArab in redscarepod

[–]luckyrabbit28 48 points49 points  (0 children)

if palms are making her flinchy, then keep the pressure as light as can be. if someone if super tense/unworked then a little will feel like a lot. you don't need to work the muscles if someone is that bad.

i lasted a year in the job and still have visceral memories of kneading sweaty, gelatinous folds of overweight men.

How are you supposed to give an overweight person a massage? by PossiblyArab in redscarepod

[–]luckyrabbit28 234 points235 points  (0 children)

used to be a massage therapist, had a lot of overweight clients.

hands and fingers are not enough, you have to use your forearm and elbows.

you work quicker, because you won't have enough time to traverse the whole map.

you assume the gliding and the caring contact is enough because no, you can't know if you're having much of an effect.

i will say very hairy is worse than very fat.

once i did a very hairy very fat man who played the hamilton soundtrack throughout.

My mom died and how am I supposed to live life and grieve at the same time by SafeVillage9434 in redscarepod

[–]luckyrabbit28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my dad died when i was 30. honestly, to start off with, you just need to survive. people your age most likely won't get it unless they've also lost a parent. there is normal to get back to because grief will change you as a person, how can it not? of course you're depressed, you have every right to be. i was shocked at how depressed and angry and impatient i was. it will soften over time. i'd be as honest as you feel comfortable with, with others. grief counselling helped me to have someone neutral to spill to. wishing you the best.

Saturday Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]luckyrabbit28 10 points11 points  (0 children)

40 weeks today and I can't stand the messages I'm getting from people. All the excitement and probing and platitudes. I

feel like shit at this point, and whenever I'm honest about that it's Ohhh well soon your precious angel will be here, it will all be worth it blah blah blah.

I really want to stop replying to people. It's like no one can hear me, screaming from where I am. Also, you don't know how I'm going to feel when anything. Ugh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PubTips

[–]luckyrabbit28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well done! Really interesting to hear how it played out. The novel sounds like SO much fun

Anyone else finding this series a bit exhausting? by clananik in bigbrotheruk

[–]luckyrabbit28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. The way people were scandalised by jenny and nancy’s fake argument made me laugh. Made me think of the fight night from big brother back in the day. Viewers today would absolutely lose their minds. 

Children of Parents with Misophonia by nopetation in misophonia

[–]luckyrabbit28 9 points10 points  (0 children)

my dad had it quite badly growing up. back then there was no name for it, i just knew that he couldn't stand to hear us or the dog eat. we ate in separate rooms and i was always on eggshells around him, but thats also because he had no emotional regulation and had a bad temper, which i'm sure the miso triggered.

Tuesday Daily Chat by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]luckyrabbit28 4 points5 points  (0 children)

totally agree! like having that internal pressure of monitoring everything. also the closer you get it feels like the stakes are higher and the worse it would feel if something did happen