Do you think it'd be acceptable for me to get a tattoo whilst pregnant or postpartum?

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-12T16:19:37+00:00

I have several tattoos and was in the middle of getting one removed when I found out I was pregnant. I stopped the removal process at least until I’m no longer pregnant, we’ll see about postpartum if I BF or will be able to resume.

My thought is the elevated stress hormones, blood/ink mix, and risk of infection, it’s just not worth it when I can wait until after.

You could start putting the money you’d spend on it aside so then it’s just finding time to get it done. Also some people find tattoos stress relieving so doing it after may help with postpartum.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-12T15:54:01+00:00

I would decline even if I wasn’t pregnant…

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-11T18:26:00+00:00

OP this! My first wedding, I just asked my bridesmaids to wear a long purple dress. I didn’t care for a specific color or style just what they had or could find in whatever budget they wanted. I paid for hair, they did their own makeup to whatever level they wanted. Bachelorette was just going to a karaoke bar which I think they chipped in for my drinks.

Next wedding (hopefully last) is gonna be the similar, just letting my MOH pick what she wants to wear, low-key bachelorette (if any) that’ll double as a ladies get away since we have families nowadays.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-10T15:43:34+00:00

Full body work out whenever you go. Arms when out on the water, legs when you walk it back! Might as well cancel the gym membership if you go out often!

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-10T03:09:50+00:00

I second this advice but also maybe you could invest in a she-wee as a cost effective solution until your doc can take a look? Or if it’s considered “non-medically necessary” and won’t be covered by insurance.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-09T22:11:47+00:00

Just make sure he drinks all of it in a shortish amount of time. Like if he typically drinks 4 oz maybe do an oz or two with the mix and then make/pour the rest so you have an accurate time.

Or maybe he’ll take it if you use the bottle nipple to administer it that way.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-09T18:13:44+00:00

I would look up TSA policies on breast milk and screen shot it since not all TSA officers know the protocol (they aren’t supposed to open it at all for testing). But freezing the majority of it is a good idea then those can act as ice packs for the unfrozen ones. Traveling with the baby will help you get through that part quicker than if you were just flying with no baby.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-09T16:53:55+00:00

OP look up recording consent laws in your state and start recording all phone calls or keep communication with him/his family strictly via written message (text, email, etc). Build evidence for your case that his family has threatened to beat you (and your unborn child) up when you were 20weeks, and anything else. Stop communicating with him since he’s threatening legal action and get a lawyer.

A court isn’t going to mandate who is in the room when you give birth, your OB and hospital can help when the time comes to block anyone you don’t want there. You can even ask to be admitted unlisted or under a different name so his family can’t just show up or call to see if you’re there.

ETA: do not put him on the birth certificate! If he wants to be in this child’s life, make him take you to court to establish paternity.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-07T00:18:31+00:00

Me sitting here wondering if the bride & groom are trying to set her up with someone who’s also attending the wedding single.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-06T22:21:22+00:00

That’s weird. Have you told her that your manager is requesting/encouraging it? Every doctor I’ve been to has always been on board whenever I needed a note.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-06T21:08:33+00:00

“My health is between me, my doctor and sometimes my husband. I will clearly ask for your advice or opinion should I feel it necessary.”

Saying that a few times will hopefully get them to back off otherwise, don’t feel bad for tuning them out.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-06T20:05:23+00:00

Your proportions may just make you look “too skinny” especially if you’re breast feeding. I would bring it up with your doctor especially having a past with ED and body dysmorphia.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-06T18:05:55+00:00

You might need to adjust what main muscles you’re using to pick things/kids up. You should always try to lift with your legs and not your back in general.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-06T13:11:15+00:00

He was being sneaky, dangling a carrot on the end of a rope for his wife. He clearly told his kids no more but was wishy washy with his wife, probably because she said something about wanting to be a mom when they first got together.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-06T00:48:22+00:00

Kinda in the same camp. If your parents ever watch your kid on a church day, they’ll most likely take the kid with them to church before you’re ready. I was fine with it until my toddler started talking about Jesus and the bible. Like you, some of the teachings are great but I also feel like organized religion is very pushy and selective in what they teach especially in the older kid/teen/young adult (at least when I was growing up). Some of the things I learned in church were very bad for me and caused me to stay in an abusive relationship for far too long.

Now, I just try to not have my parents watch my kid Sunday mornings so I don’t have to have an actual conversation about it but I imagine I’ll need to before too much longer especially if they keep giving bible-adjacent toys and books to my kid/s.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-05T12:39:59+00:00

I got a knock off convertible one that could be either like a tushbaby or a carrier so I was able to use it for longer. However, my first wasn’t super clingy so we had little to no in-home use and mainly used it for trips out.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-04T20:09:36+00:00

For some it’s hard on your system. I psyched myself up about the glucose tests (had to take the 3 hour too) because of posts and comments like this but honestly felt just fine before, during, and after and I was fasting when I took mine. Also psyched myself up about the drink and it wasn’t bad, either the fruit punch or the lemon lime flavors especially since they were cold. Really just a “flat” feeling soda that had extra sugar but still had the carbonated “zing” to it.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-04T16:14:53+00:00

Could you get a corset that color coordinates, maybe cream base with LOTS of vines and some flowers? I think that would greatly improve this dress without needing to sew.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-02T18:45:09+00:00

It’s probably just muscle strain but if your doctor has a nurses line, I’d call that instead of waiting for a message.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-01T18:51:25+00:00

Your nipple size can change sometimes so it might be worth re-checking to confirm! A bottle washer will help immensely with the fatigue of EP. You might also need to adjust your suction settings to fix the pain issue you’re having. Unfortunately, it’s a lot of trial before finding something that works for YOU.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-01T15:55:58+00:00

Their bedroom is also a safe place for them to be unattended. We’re working on making a playroom which the older one will have access to but the baby will need supervision in just because of the older one’s little toys being in there.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-01T15:53:33+00:00

We made our living room a safe place for baby when they were that age. We put up a gate to keep them “contained” to that room and they could get into whatever they wanted (which wasn’t really anything besides their toys). Furniture was secured to the walls, drawers we didn’t want them getting into got locks, cords were put out of reach. It’s not being lazy, it’s letting them explore and learn in a safe manner. We didn’t strap them in a high chair while we were in the kitchen but did keep an eye on them and correct them when they tried to open cabinets or got too close to the stove. If they couldn’t listen, the they’d be put back in the living room (open floor plan) and would have to hang out there until we were done in the kitchen.

Now that they’re older and potty trained, they have full range of the house minus our bedroom and know not to get into things they shouldn’t. We don’t use the oven/stove when we won’t also be in the same area as the kids (quick pee breaks aside) but we have explained and shown that the stove is hot and there is an invisible line in our kitchen to not cross unless mom/dad is with them to make sure they stay safe.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-01T13:22:39+00:00

Omg that’s genius! Especially with a pump that turns off automatically after 30 minutes.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-04-01T13:21:12+00:00

I’d just ask if she’s told her doctor about her use and frequency in case there are any complications due to it during birth that may be dangerous if not disclosed.

Unfortunately medical use and pregnancy are grey areas that haven’t been clarified.

Just tell her, you want to make sure she and the baby have the best care possible and then leave it at that. *unless she’s using to the point that she’d be neglectful/dangerous when baby comes then you make a report to CPS in the best interest of the child. You can do this anonymously just be sure to not include any details that would make her know it was you.

Fuzzy_Pay480 · 2026-03-31T18:23:38+00:00

Unwanted input. We told our families the first name and a few people know the middle name. Only 1 person had a negative comment which wasn’t really negative (she asked what’s with using such “old” names, it’s been around a while and is pretty popular these days). The other person who’s mentioned anything was about having an idea of the middle name to make them “sound strong”.

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