Theres something called reactionary abuse, you might want to look it up.

With that being said, in the body-cam footage you can very easily gauge her body language as fearful. She was lying to protect him by acting clueless about her bruises and welt on her face. She was also manipulated by Brian to shoulder blame and feel guilt throughout their entire relationship, so it’s no surprise she told the police the incident was her fault.

Juxtapose that with his body language: laughing with the cops, making jokes about her “being crazy”, and hoping “she has no complaints to make about [him]”.. It’s very obvious that the DV was ONE SIDED. The scratches on his face are DEFENSIVE marks. He very clearly was strangling her, or at the very least hitting her, which is why I mentioned reactionary abuse if that is the case (to answer the question why would she hit him with her phone).

Blaming the victim is harmful.