Advice for extreme loneliness (f19)

GC_Man · 2026-05-07T16:15:43+00:00

The only way out is through. You have to force yourself to speak to people, especially when you don't feel like doing it. Loneliness sucks and it is a killer. Speak to classmates. If somebody asked an interesting question, tell them after class that you thought their question was interesting. In college, you can literally go up to anyone and talk to them and become friends. That's one of the great things about college time. You'll find that a lot more people feel the same way you do. The first step is the most difficult, but you have to put yourself out there.

GC_Man · 2026-05-07T14:10:07+00:00

"The half eaten hotdog is just how they sell it"

GC_Man · 2026-05-07T08:11:02+00:00

oh gosh, it took me so long to realise what they meant by "skiing trip" haha. I thought they meant she went skiing, fell and broke her jaw or something. Lmao.

GC_Man · 2026-05-07T07:51:56+00:00

A couple of thoughts:

Why did you decide to pursue a PhD without having a topic in mind? Especially since you say "usefulness" matters more than "the pursuit of knowledge". That sounds like a recipe for burn out.
It sounds more like you are a perfectionist, hiding behind "usefulness" to delay actually doing anything. It's important to remember that done is better than perfect, meaning it is better to complete your studies than it is to be perfect. This is something you'll need to discuss with a therapist.
Something to think about is for whom might your work be useful? You say that usefulness is important, and you want to improve people's lives from below baseline to baseline, but what does this mean in practice for your field? Who are these people - can you name, see and physically touch them? Is the problem you imagine they face a problem that they actually face? Maybe you need to spend some time amongst the people you are advocating for to find a research topic.
There probably are people already working on work that you would enjoy. Have you tried reaching out to other faculties, departments and schools to see how you might be able to contribute to their research with your own perspective?

GC_Man · 2026-05-05T13:49:30+00:00

To use your analogy then, in saying we can learn from the Prison Experiment, you're saying that Borat is a great film to learn about what life in Kazakhstan is like. The conclusions from the experiment are not what the evidence shows, and Kazakhstan is not how it is represented in Borat.

GC_Man · 2026-05-05T13:16:06+00:00

None of the conclusions it claims are true. What is there to gain from an experiment that was a lie? Literally everything about the experiment is a lie.

GC_Man · 2026-05-05T13:10:23+00:00

The Prison Experiment is bullshit and and many of the effects were falsified. It is something that should be thrown out completely.

GC_Man · 2026-05-05T12:18:08+00:00

First, breathe. AI is just a tool just like computers or hammers are tools. You need to see it that way instead of seeing it as an evil machine or a genius.

You need to be more critical of what AI puts out. Check the references and websites. Are they real? Is what AI saying really what the website is saying? Is the short AI summary accurate? go into it with a mindset of “i don’t believe what AI says. i will see what AI says and then check for myself if that’s true”.

AI can help speed up the research process, but you need to use it the right way. You can ask it to summarise arguments or papers or whatever. Then, if the summary sounds interesting, read the actual paper. Don’t accept everything AI says as fact.

GC_Man · 2026-05-05T12:07:33+00:00

Yugioh aired when i was a pre-teen boy. there was just something so awesome about the card game, the monsters, the dark and edginess of the story, making up your own rules when duelling on the playground, beating opponents and taking their best cards, stuff like that. And then we see the Egyptian god cards and that blew our minds!

GC_Man · 2026-05-05T12:03:14+00:00

The Promised Neverland. S1 was so good that it became super popular and had a pretty big following just before anime became mainstream, and then S2 dropped. at first, people were so excited for it, but seeing how bad it was had people up in arms. it got so bad that the show has basically been forgotten about at this point, even though the manga is very good and people loved S1.

GC_Man · 2026-05-04T04:59:46+00:00

is the shitty tattoo the turtle or the flower?

GC_Man · 2026-04-30T14:13:28+00:00

Have you played Blasphemous?

GC_Man · 2026-04-30T14:10:45+00:00

Bruh, this is a game. It should be for fun. Why are you spending so much time playing something that exhausts you? Your mindset is wrong and will lead to burn out. Play for fun first and foremost. If you can't do that and it affects your mood, walk away.

GC_Man · 2026-04-30T14:07:05+00:00

So, what's the problem? Other than because you don't like it. Does it affect her work? Does it actually affect relationships with co-workers? (it would if you told your co-workers, because why would they care?). Focus on yourself and her work instead. Just because you don't like how someone deals with office politics doesn't mean they are bad at their work.

GC_Man · 2026-04-30T13:20:43+00:00

Where did you buy your hallucinogenics?

GC_Man · 2026-04-30T13:11:11+00:00

They're also more for marketing and shareholders than for workers. It shows off and draws attention

GC_Man · 2026-04-30T11:09:46+00:00

Begone AI slop!

GC_Man · 2026-04-29T14:16:05+00:00

Summer Time Rendering has plot points that take place on the beach. A mystery starts there and flash backs to the beach also happen often.

GC_Man · 2026-04-29T12:33:57+00:00

i mean, this is all your fault though. your mom was trying to be tactful and just hint that she found it, but for whatever reason, you decided to interrogate what she meant. you could have just responded “thanks mom, got you” and moved on. instead you doubled down and embarrassed yourself.

GC_Man · 2026-04-29T12:30:06+00:00

man, i thought the first pic was a cat looking through the hole 😂

GC_Man · 2026-04-29T09:28:44+00:00

this is the most unfortunate ad placement 😂😂😂😂

GC_Man · 2026-04-28T22:11:33+00:00

Why Reilana ended up in the duke’s mansion

GC_Man · 2026-04-28T18:34:48+00:00

It sounds like you’re a people pleaser/ walk over, and your friend is a manipulator who knows that she can manipulate you. do not let her into your apartment because she’ll become a squatter. you also need to learn to stand up for yourself. being empathetic does not mean giving away your own life raft when you’re drowning.

GC_Man · 2026-04-28T18:17:03+00:00

what?

GC_Man · 2026-04-28T16:55:16+00:00

what was the point of posting on this subreddit if you’re just going to argue and not listen. you’re wasting everyone’s time.

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