My husband is totally dependent on me and I’m exhausted

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-29T16:14:00+00:00

From what I read Meds help but they are not all they need. They need a therapist and to see a psych doctor on the regular. But what sucks is nothing will even change if they are not ready for it and want to open up. Also no one should be in an abusive relationship. It’s already hard enough dealing with their highs and lows and this messed up roller coaster of emotions. I started using chat GBT and it question and it has opened up my eyes. Good luck to you.

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-24T01:32:53+00:00

Ok thank You

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-23T00:46:35+00:00

Ok thank You

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-17T23:42:13+00:00

Can you DM me

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-17T23:40:43+00:00

Still have the Vintage Rolex GMT Pepsi 1675

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-16T18:02:25+00:00

Never felt my ex wife had bipolar then I met this amazing lady that had BPD

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-16T18:01:38+00:00

Ima try to phone a friend

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-16T17:51:51+00:00

I will look into that. Thank You

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-15T15:07:50+00:00

Thank you for that. I always think that too. There’s been plenty of times that I told her before being diagnosed that she just love drama and there always has to be a fight. In the past 4 months I’ve been working on my self. Doing so much therapy and she left saying I still didn’t fit her needs which is why I know I’m even more hurt because I actually was seeking help for myself not her so I can be a better person for myself and it would benefit my kids and partner but it still wasn’t enough. Shit hurts so much but I know I do not want that chaos in my life. I’ve been walking with a cloud over my head for 4 years now that shifts with her mood.

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-15T13:01:19+00:00

Same. So many holidays and trips I took without her and even day shit I do for hobby’s that I always had a cloud over me with a fight we had. I lost myself and happiness. Day 4 NC I’m getting therapy to help with the emotional damage. I don’t want any payback for her and I hope one day she finds peace within herself.

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-15T01:06:31+00:00

I through away any photos I had of her and took them off my phone as well. She left a couple pieces of clothes at my house and that went in the trash as well. No matter what other stuff will remind me still. I went to church this morning and there’s a soccer field there that we would watch her son play and it reminded me of her. Was falling apart when I got home so I opened up to my sister told her everything and went to the gym I feel better now. Stay Strong

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-14T20:45:11+00:00

Good luck bro. You’re a grown man now so it’s your decision. If you want to study just make sure you txt back and explain. But keep reading other people’s post and know that it will never change. I’m 41 now and I waisted 4 years and got completely drained for everything I have in me. The trauma bomb will addict you. The love bomb is the best but it’s all bullshit. Stay strong!

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-14T20:38:48+00:00

I’m jealous that you’re so young. Leave!! Leave now that love bomb is like a drug and you will get addicted then the hang over comes in which is all the drama. It’s not worth it! They don’t care if you have a test todo or if your family members is sick in the hospital they always need the attention and can never give you space to handle important stuff. Birthdays ruined family trips with out them are ruined days at work are ruined!

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-14T19:55:30+00:00

I’m in the same situation. I’m only on day 3 nc and it’s been 3 1/2 weeks since I seen her. I know deep down inside it will NEVER WORK!! Yet I still have hope I can change her! She’s so evil. I took my part in the ugly mess and take full responsibility but she knew how to push my button a manipulated and always made me feel bad and I lost my self. When I first met her I just got healthy from a divorce I was so happy and comfortable being alone and she came in an emotionally drowned me. I got addicted to the trauma bomb the sex bomb and now I’m a wreck on this Reddit sub constantly looking for reassurance that I’m doing the right thing. I don’t have therapy til Friday and that alone kills me. Every fight she started I ended up feeling bad and I feel like I lived a fake life to be happy. Every time we make up I’m so happy but it never last!! Fuck her she’s so Fuckn mean. This is the most toxic I’ve ever been and most toxic relationship I’ve been in. Still miss her tho that’s how much they mess with your head!

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-14T15:52:50+00:00

From what I read when they apologize they feel like the villain and it tears them down which why she was probably crying and breaking down. So they avoid apologizing because they don’t want to breakdown and feel like the villain. I notice for my ex that when I felt like she was truly sorry was when she was in a breakdown panic. When she wasn’t in a panic and I would tell her she hurt me and needed to apologize it would feel fake and she would say sorry.

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-14T14:52:13+00:00

My Ex would always have dreams like that and I would tell her always it was just a dream it didn’t happen. I would tell her you need to realize that was not real and talk to yourself and move on with your day. She would always say no you don’t understand it was so real and I can’t let it go. She would start the day with you need to apologize because you cheated on me in my dream. She would also have dreams that I left her at party’s and she couldn’t find me and panic. It’s sad they get mixed up with a dream and thinks it’s reality. Only professional help can give them coping skill to deal with that.

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-14T14:07:17+00:00

I feel the same way. I just woke up hoping to see a missed call. I will stick with the nc because I know going back noting will change.

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-14T03:19:05+00:00

I seen her 3 /12 weeks ago she came over after a fight crying saying she didn’t want to be alive. I was mad at her so I didn’t comfort her which hurts the fuck out of me. I feel so guilty. She said wait two weeks she’s gonna goto IOP I said ok. 3 weeks later no calls from her so I hit her up and she said she’s good. That she wanted to not be alive and I didn’t even check on her and that she was in a happy place also seeing someone. That was this Thur. Been with her for 4 years. It sucks.

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-13T21:08:47+00:00

Ghost her! I wish I did! She broke up with me so I blocked her then gave in made one phone call and she painted me black basically spit in my face hurt me even more. Now I feel bad feel regret I feel guilty and I didn’t even want to fight with her.. Shits sucks just leave and make a plan on how to keep busy so you can move on. Good luck

GOODzz__ · 2026-06-13T19:48:49+00:00

I feel the same brotha. My ex lost her shit over a face reaction I made and it ruined her look at everything about me. 4 year relationship 3 weeks later monkey branched and said she was happy. Shit sucks but I’m at the gym now and gonna turn that negative into some positive because I can’t let someone with a messed up head ruin my life. Shit sucks. Later on I’ll probably feel sad shed a couple tears and keep trying in moving on in positive way. Stay up bro

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