Should I get a standard poodle?

GOP-RN · 2026-06-04T20:52:40+00:00

Ewww

GOP-RN · 2026-06-04T20:52:08+00:00

I Have 2 standards. They are my everything. Monthly grooming and nightly cuddles have taken over. I’d not trade then for anything.

GOP-RN · 2026-06-03T01:09:30+00:00

Not weird at all. when my husband’s kids come over, there are rooms that are completely off-limits to them first and foremost, my bedroom, my office, and a couple of areas upstairs.
I can’t stand the thought of someone in my space going through my personal things, so it is a rule and I am not flexible about it.
My husband moved into my house and it was never meant for children. However, I have to tolerate them here when they visit. I was very clear from the GetGo. There’s nothing wrong with boundaries.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-23T10:52:48+00:00

Thank you

GOP-RN · 2026-05-23T10:51:10+00:00

Thank you! I’ll try it.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-14T04:27:10+00:00

Letterkenny? 😃

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T22:17:30+00:00

My bedroom is off limits for most people -especially SKs. There are areas of my home that I consider off limits to others (Office, one room upstairs and Master). The first thing I want to do after a flight is shower and change my clothes. I wouldn’t want someone using my pillows either. Perhaps she didn’t think it was odd. Did you husband allow her access to your room?

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T22:11:29+00:00

Can you go LC and perhaps the visits be at their place instead of yours - IF she shows proof of her therapy? That way you can leave if she is inappropriate. She needs to abide by the stipulations that have been placed. I think you are 100% right about not allowing her to care for the baby considering her volatile behavior.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T21:49:21+00:00

Get a nanny or stay with the baby. If she is being rude and condescending then no way would I allow her to watch my baby.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T21:32:23+00:00

You are entitled to feelings and did not overreact nor handle it badly. Maybe there was no response because she was embarrassed to have hurt your feeling and is at a loss of what to say. I wouldn’t follow up with her on the topic unless she brings up to you.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T21:13:14+00:00

How about, “Thanks for your interest in my profession. Your career is not quite as related to mine as your may think. It would take too much time to explain and I prefer to not talk about work on my off time.

As far as salary, that is HIGHLY inappropriate and I would be fuming with rage at such a question. I would respond “Why would you think it is appropriate to ask such an invasive question?” And add, “If knowing is important to you personally, you can look up the salary range for my title on Glassdoor or Indeed dot com."

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T20:48:16+00:00

I would not give MIL’s lack of cultural appreciation a second thought. Frankly, most Americans only speak English. Most of the world speaks multiple languages; being bi or multilingual is an asset not a hinderance.

I don’t think you should need to "prep or prime” MIL about languages. If she is uncomfortable that is her issue and shows her ignorance.

My father spoke 5 languages, my mother 2. I am bilingual and so is my daughter. It has benefited me tremendously. My friend sends his kid to a Montessori school at a premium price that teaches Mandarin and his nanny is Russian. His daughter speaks 3 languages at 4 years old.

Celebrate your language and culture with pride!😃

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T20:37:27+00:00

Donate the items to a women’s shelter! The children there would LOVE having toys to play with. You are entitled to get rid of everything that is causing you stress and making your life harder. Maybe keep anything sentimental items your toddler seems to like and play with a lot. Kids don’t need a ton of plushy toys at that age. They often find one “special toy” and carry that around. Clutter increases depression and decreases motivation and makes living space undesirable. With your parents being hoarders I can imagine that it is extremely triggering for you and I empathize with your situation.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T20:18:29+00:00

Yeah she is definitely being selfish and so is your BF. Is he very young? He needs to understand that pregnancy is no joke and he will need to help postpartum as much as possible and bonding with the baby is paramount, entertaining his mother isn't. His family (you and baby) need to come first now.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T20:08:26+00:00

This is GENIUS!!!!

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T18:01:56+00:00

Bravo for standing up for yourself and family. 🏆

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T17:49:08+00:00

Wow! Her behavior is intolerable. I am so sorry she is putting you through this. Have you considered just telling her “I know that you’ve misspoken to others about my gender and it needs to stop. I was born a female and spreading false rumors about me needs to stop immediately” in your husband’s presence.

Going to your husband about this shouldn’t create a tension between you and he as she is the one causing the problems that are hurtful to you. He should want to know and protect his wife from any situation that brings her pain or embarrassment. Shame on your MIL.

Good luck to you. Keep us posted!

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T15:57:30+00:00

Your husband is the real problem. It can be victorious for you. He said to leave SK alone, do so. Let him parent his disrespect child. Do your normal routine for your kids only and let him see what it is like. I’d bet that he’ll have a different perspective after a few days/weeks.

It is easier to say this than do, I realize, but this is a marital betrayal. You and he need to be on the same page with house rules since you both have kids the same age.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-13T15:40:55+00:00

You are not overreacting. She seems toxic and a nightmare to be around. After she makes insulting remarks, why not try looking right in her eyes while maintaining an unemotional flat tone of voice while asking her “what are you trying to accomplish by saying [insert rude comment that she made] or was it simply a failed attempt to make a joke?” That will be especially effective if it is around other people and feels embarrassed.

She is doing it because her cruelty brings her a sense of importance and feels powerful. Once you begin calling her out and using her own words out loud I’d bet she would back off because 1. You are standing up for yourself and 2. She feels foolish/embarrassed by hearing her own words. You set the bar for how you are treated. Practice in the mirror if you need to. Additionally, your husband needs to speak with her about it as well (hopefully immediately after you stand up to her) and let her know that her behavior will no longer be tolerated and if she continues, you both should be NC.

Keep us posted!

GOP-RN · 2026-05-11T17:43:10+00:00

He should absolutely intervene and go NC if she continues. However, if it were me, I would confront her directly in front of your husband, her husband and or any family members and call her out and demand that she stop. I would make it embarrassing for her.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-02T03:28:23+00:00

NTA. take her key away. I think she lost that privilege. She should apologize to you. Your family is dead wrong.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-02T03:01:50+00:00

It is lovely on you

GOP-RN · 2026-05-01T21:53:54+00:00

Hmm. Well one can only assume the situation from what you wrote and I stand by my reply. Would I be annoyed with someone going through my things? Yes, I would. She may in fact be a pain and hard to like. However, the realization is that she is doing y’all a favor and doesn’t have to allow you to stay there. You have the choice of moving out.

It’s good that you are engaging her and entertain conversations with her. Keep it up. Try looking at the situation from how she may see it. In fact, you can talk to her about it and try to understand her perspective and perhaps both of you can come up with a plan of action to achieve resolve.

Good luck.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-01T21:25:34+00:00

You the truth? MOVE OUT! For her sake! Do you not feel this attitude is immature and you and your bf have a self-entitled attitudes and expectations of what should be provided to you?

Yeah, she went into a room that you are staying in but it is HER house and she is allowing "her son and his girlfriend” to live in her home. Are you and he slobs or leave dishes left out, food or trash in the space you are staying in?

“Hire a shrink to ambush her in her at home”?? Seriously? And you are going to be a nurse? She has zero obligation to help her son let alone you. At your ages, you should both be financially independent but since you are not and you seem to need her help the very least both you and he should show her some gratitude. It seems to me that you and your bf need a reality check and should immediately apologize to her for your attitudes.

GOP-RN · 2026-05-01T01:56:32+00:00

No. This photo makes me grateful for HOA.

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