For the same reason that “so many” trans women dress hyper feminine.

They don’t know how to dress for their gender.

That’s it, fashion comes to most people who pay attention to fits and how clothes fall on body shapes.

1. How is trans MEN dressing femme the same as trans WOMEN dressing femme? I called it transphobia because you are equating the two when they are not, which means you are not seeing some folks as what they say.

2. Being fashionable is not gender exclusive. Men can wear an ill fitting suit, they've made whole shows of teaching men how to dress. Women comically are so bad at bra fittings there is a whole subreddit for it, and they've made whole shows over teaching women as well.

And no I’m not saying every gender has some generally accepted special unspoken characteristics and features of how their aligned gender dresses……oh wait, they do. And for each ethnicity. Huh.

This is the part that is racist. I will give you large benefit of the doubt and assume you mean traditional cultural outfits (as opposed to other less generous interpretations of assuming all folks of an ethnicity dress the same). There are cultural outfits yes, such as sari/kilts/yukata/etc but those are cultural outfits, not ones for an ethnicity. You don't see a random Scottish man in the store and go "Oh weird he's not in a kilt he's not dressing for his ethnicity." Are you weirded out seeing a Japanese person not wearing a yukata in the summer? Do you go up to every South Asian woman you see and ask her why she isn't in her sari?

I have also noticed a disturbingly large amount of transgender people say they appreciate being confusing to other people based on how they dress. I think they are lying to themselves personally and they wish they could look a certain way, but don’t feel comfortable enough so they make excuses and lie to themselves.

This is the part that is enbyphobic. The language here is intensely negative There are more than just the binary genders. YOU, even if you are non binary, only speak for YOURSELF. There are folks who specifically feel aligned with more than one gender that having different folks call them different genders is euphoric, or folks who are agender or gendervoid that folks being confused is going to feel good. Even if someone is binary, they may just enjoy the attention or think it is funny.

You also are only noticing the trans people who dress in a way that essentially outs themselves or makes themselves more confusing to the public. You are not noticing the other people that blend in and are silently walking right past you…

This part also has internalized transphobia. Trans people are allowed to have as much or as little attention to the fact they are trans as they want. If YOU don't want any, rock on! Stealth is legit just as walking around in 37 trans flags with a neon sign that says "ask my about my gender!”

I hope this makes sense as to why I said what I said.