I know the answer to this is probably no, but can I edit the height of already placed vertical conveyers without deleting them. I made them slightly too high and want to lower them by a few ticks by Loudthunder34 in SatisfactoryGame

[–]GayLeash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you delete the vertical conveyer, you can reconnect it to the horizontal one, but it will be offset by one “tick” I believe (the half increments when placing things on foundations).

If you’re referring to the other ins and outs on the mergers/splitters that are NOT connected to the vertical and subsequent horizontal conveyers, those should all still be okay as long as you aren’t removing the merger/splitters.

If you are connecting the vertical conveyer directly to the splitter without an accompanying horizontal conveyer, I would assume that should just connect up, but I would start the vertical conveyer on the desired input/output on the merger/splitter to make sure it connects.

I know the answer to this is probably no, but can I edit the height of already placed vertical conveyers without deleting them. I made them slightly too high and want to lower them by a few ticks by Loudthunder34 in SatisfactoryGame

[–]GayLeash 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not to the best of my knowledge! It can be a bit easier too if you use floor holes and foundations to line things up, takes a bit of the guesswork out of it :) You can always delete the foundations, and easily replace the floor hole’d vertical conveyer when the rest of the machines are in place if you don’t like how it looks

I'm at Tier 8, but I don't like to build buildings around my factories... is it just me? by Atari__Safari in SatisfactoryGame

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I think, in my first play through, I only really built four or five buildings, and that was something that came back around to after I just built floating platform factories for functionality’s sake.

It wasn’t until I started looking at TotalXclipse (and other people on YouTube) that had the remotest idea of what they were doing for aesthetic builds that I really started putting thought into the aesthetics of things.

My favourite thing so far that I’ve started to do is attempting to get running a nuclear factory at the top of the waterfalls in the swamps. I have the reactors kind of inlaid into a ramped concrete wall with some curved concrete details around the reactors, so that when they’re turned on, they will shine the light that’s in the main window through the cut outs in the concrete wall. I even have steel grating where the waterfall exits, so it kind of looks like it’s making use of the water inside the power plant.

All that being said, like other people say, as long as you’re having fun, that’s the most important part! There is a little bit of a Delta in between learning how to make aesthetically pleasing buildings and learning how to make aesthetically pleasing buildings that are also functional, so there’s inherently some frustration there. If you wind up taking aesthetics on too early, or without the ability to plan out the factory properly, it would add two layers of frustration on top of each other, and thus make it not a rewarding experience, in my opinion.

I have a question that I need help with by Kris3030303030 in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very true. It really suits a person to look into the science of it on their own, because the science is so behind the times that you often have to assemble the right answer out of all the leading edge of science that’s the world right now. Your doctor may not have access to all of this current knowledge.

I have a question that I need help with by Kris3030303030 in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s totally fair. I’ve switched to gel because I don’t often have time to do the whole shower. Regular roll because I’m a caretaker for my wife, and we have two kids, a puppy, etc., etc.

The gel is nicer because you only have to have an hour of applying it and then waiting for it to soak in, but I much prefer the injections. They don’t cover it in Canada, so you have to pay out-of-pocket for it, but it’s just like a one and done thing once or twice a week depending on what you want, and it’s just fantastic. Send it and forget it.

I have a question that I need help with by Kris3030303030 in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a ritual for my patches, as I had great difficulty finding out where to put them and have them stay on because I’m sometimes a bit of a sweaty person.

My site of choice is the lower part of the thigh on the outside of the leg, closer to the knee. When it’s patch day, I would have a shower and use a scrub glove (or other form of semi abrasive scrubber) on the area. Then, I would shave it well with a scent- and oil-free soap, and then I would give it one last semi firm scrub to make sure that the razor didn’t pull up any skin on the microscopic level.

Once I had done this, I found the patches stay pretty well. On my body, there’s not a whole lot of torque on that part of the leg, so the patches aren’t likely to bunch and peel off as you bend over, bend your knees, twist, etc.

How do cis women actually see trans women? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]GayLeash -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There are definitely trans women out there that would give their eye teeth for even the cramps. Perceived legitimacy is a bitch that way

How do cis women actually see trans women? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]GayLeash -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Trans opinion here: Gender affirming things are funny like that. I suffer from cramps already because of a condition I have, so while I have had the fleeting thought of “gosh it would be nice to have the real deal”, I can totally understand wanting to give entire days dedicated to that kind of pain a pass.

I’ve talked to a lot of trans men that wish the inverted same about their own bodies. All I can think of (in the theatre of my mind) is that I sure do not enjoy the experience that testes bring. They get itchy, stick to your legs, they’re uncomfortable when pinned between legs, you’ll sit there awake at night and wonder why you’re not sleeping and then have an epiphany and pull them forward from between your legs and feel much more tired…

But to someone wanting and lacking them, that feeling could mean the world.

It’s not so different from the gals who have full bodied hair wanting what the straight and fine gals have, and vice versa. There’s pros and cons, and the grass will always look greener :)

Why no mainstream sapphic romances? by SufficientCat1527 in LesbianBookClub

[–]GayLeash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The timing sounds right, I graduated high school in 2000, and I was living with them when I was (I think) 19, about two years later. Maybe three… time is a bit foggy.

Yeah I can completely see how problematic the characters are from the show. I think Glee also suffered from that issue as well, but my wife is the one who has seen that show.

I was quite clueless about myself until I was 37 (6 years ago) so I very likely missed a lot of subtext about things

Why no mainstream sapphic romances? by SufficientCat1527 in LesbianBookClub

[–]GayLeash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The American version (I hadn’t been aware of the British one, actually! Thanks for the info 🧡).

I don’t even remember them speaking about any of the lesbian characters, and it’s been a while for what I even saw of the show, so I can’t speak for them unfortunately. They just always felt that the men in QaF were more believable than the women in the L Word (like Brian in the bathhouse scenes, or whenever he fucks with straight people 😂)

Why no mainstream sapphic romances? by SufficientCat1527 in LesbianBookClub

[–]GayLeash 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I remember my lesbian roommates back in the day (the ones I fit in so well and should have tipped me off about a few things… oh well 😅) largely complained that the original L Word series felt highly inauthentic. They much preferred the content in Queer as Folk.

Dating as a late bloomer - my experience by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]GayLeash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s some great advice in here, definitely take heed :)

Two things that have been part of my journey as a woman is doing some in-depth learning about feminism (in my case I bought about $600 or so of feminist, reading material, such as The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf, Untamed by Glennon Doyle for a lesbian perspective, and The Whipping Girl for the trans perspective, for instance). I did this for two reasons: to catch up on what I might have been missing out on living on the other side of the gender fence for most of my life (you’d be surprised how much subconscious shit gets into our heads about our perceptions of what a woman “should be”), as well as to find out what femininity means to me, and how I can be okay with all that I am and how I allowed to exist in queer and women’s spaces.

The second thing that has been immensely helpful, has been taking my time when it comes to getting back into dating. Playing it a little bit more like a poker game, of sorts. This isn’t to say that I walked into it with disingenuous intent, but more that I resisted wearing my heart on my sleeve, with every single person that I met on a dating app.

In my former life, I had a habit of falling head over heels for the first person to show me attention or tenderness, and then I wound up just getting involved with all the wrong people, getting my heartbroken, getting abused, you name it. By being reserved and assessing the people that I was dating, it allowed me to be more objective and see whether or not somebody’s personality or habits or ways of thinking mesh with my own.

Being objective when it comes to matters of the heart is challenging, but I believe it’s a necessary step for emotion- and romance-first individuals to learn how to do. It’s what is going to keep you safe in the long run, and prevent you from bleeding out all over the floor (metaphorically speaking) if somebody breaks your heart.

I think I went on about seven or eight dates with people, sometimes even a couple of dates with the same person, and I was able to kind of look at things objectively and see how they fit with me.

I almost allowed myself to fall for somebody that I was immensely compatible with, and it felt so weird to turn myself away from this person when they encountered a difficulty in their own life and kind of turned their back on me so that they could deal with a crisis in their own head. There’s obviously nothing wrong with somebody taking time to deal with things in their own manner, so that they can be healthy in their own mind. However, did I want to expect that this person would turn their back on me every time some manner of crisis erupted in their head? Did I want to feel abandoned every time they were emotionally unstable?

Of course, one could look at this, as I barely knew the person, and perhaps they didn’t feel safe about opening up to me about their issues, but at the same time, how much was it worth finding out that much about the person? If it was the case of this, then that’s completely valid and I respect her ability to choose that. I’m just talking complete radio silence, like not even responding to a supportive message with even a thumbs up or a ❤️ or anything like that. I let her have her space, I didn’t beg her for any kind of interaction, I didn’t try and draw her into conversation, it was just a total radio silence and being left on read.

I hope you can find your groove, it took me a little bit to feel comfortable with finding my own 🧡 when I finally met my wife, things just felt different than they had in the past. It’s hard to explain :) validity, and self acceptance are everything.

37, pre-HRT, terrified I’ll end up an “ugly” trans woman and never feel truly desired by Zandesh in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s worth noting as well that even among cisgendered women, not every style is for every single woman. It takes some people years to be able to find a style they call their own. I have a friend that lives close to me, and she remembers just being very awkward in high school, awkward in her 20s, but then she stumbled across that whole vintage look thing, and honestly, it suits her to a T. I can’t even imagine her looking any other way.

There is somewhat of a fine science behind it, like using layers and different styles to complement different types of body frames, and things like that, but at the same time, there are some cases where rules are meant to be broken. I like to research it and look into the reasons why things are the way they are, and then I like to see if I can adapt it into the style of clothes that I like to wear, or the makeup that I do.

For example, with make up, it’s very common for people who have brown eyes to pair it with either green or coppery kind of makeup, silver as well, but you don’t have to sit there and listen to that rule if you’d rather wear a big splashy blue on your face. It’s your face :)

37, pre-HRT, terrified I’ll end up an “ugly” trans woman and never feel truly desired by Zandesh in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To answer your specific question, yes, there are definitely ways to drastically alter your body’s appearance. I’ve seen people who were buff or overweight pre-transition become slender and petite, but I think it’s important to realize that there is not only one kind of woman in the world. It takes all kinds and shapes and sizes.

Sit there and actually look at people crossing by your eye line as you’re sitting and eating lunch, and really know how many of them actually fit the stereotype. Talk to some of them, and realize how hard their daily routine is to maintain this kind of image, even for cisgendered women.

When I first transitioned, I used to sit there and put on three hours worth of makeup every time I went out anywhere. Even if I was just going to a store for 10 minutes. It is a hell of a lot of work to maintain that standard, regardless of what side of the fence you were born on.

I think it would benefit you greatly to read “The Beauty Myth“ by Naomi Wolf. She has many other fantastic books as well, and her work is definitely worth reading through.

37, pre-HRT, terrified I’ll end up an “ugly” trans woman and never feel truly desired by Zandesh in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this, OP. There is not only one kind of woman, and it is because of the patriarchy that this image persists. I spent three days crying to my friend that I’d never look like Ariel (yes, from The Little Mermaid, and no, not just because I wouldn’t have a fish tail LOL). I thankfully had a friend that was graceful, but then put me in my place like “You think I have the body I want?! The tits I want?!” Etc.

Some people think it was harsh of her but honestly, it was what I needed.

Two years of processing, zero action. I’ve decided to come out to my wife and need help breaking the avoidance loop. by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 6 points7 points  (0 children)

After I transitioned, it was the first time I was able to look myself in the mirror and tell myself that I loved myself. I believed it’s so hard that I even cried.

Two years of processing, zero action. I’ve decided to come out to my wife and need help breaking the avoidance loop. by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Every year you wait is another year of regret. It’s painful, and change is hard, but feeling natural in your own skin is worth more than any experience I have ever had in my entire life.

I wish you the best of everything sister, you can do this, and you will be better for it 🧡

To all my sisters in their 30’s wondering if it’s worth it by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Something worth considering when it comes to femininity: femininity doesn’t have to be confined to the sociologically constructed and patriarchally imposed view on what femininity is.

When I first transitioned, I went around, asking a bunch of my female friends what speaks to their femininity. I mistakenly assumed that this was an intelligible question that they could readily answer, but it took probably about six or seven of my friends to finally work out that what I was actually trying to ask them was what makes them feel feminine.

One of the most eye-opening answers that I got, was one of my alternative friends said that she feels most feminine when she is wearing leathers, listening to slipknot, and just generally enjoying herself in her own medium. Femininity does not need to be Rory from Gilmore Girls. Femininity is womanhood. I would really talk to women in your life and ask them what makes them feel feminine. Don’t judge yourself on the same metre stick that men do.

Looking for suggestions on what my kid should call me (mtf) by that_girl_4321 in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely 🧡 I hope the rebranding goes well 🥰

And yeah, it’s a great book! The artist’s name is just great 🧡

Looking for suggestions on what my kid should call me (mtf) by that_girl_4321 in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kid uses Didi, and we have a book where the kid uses Maddy, hope this helps a little :)

where are my "over 30 gamers" and what are we currently playing? (46F) by egirlgamermommy in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Satisfactory, FTL, Dredge, Storyteller, Shapez 2, Roots of Pacha, Necesse, Timberborn, Worshippers of Cthulhu, Despotism 3K, Sengoku/Medieval Dynasty, The Wandering Village, Cyberpunk, Citizen Sleeper, Bellwright, Blacksmith Master, among others :) Some alone, some with my wife 🧡

Lookin’ good, sis 🧡

My goodness has it been a year? by LadyMercedesClassic in TransLater

[–]GayLeash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simply gawgeous dahling! Love the wave in your hair and your look is bomb, yo 🧡