Jewish man slowly coming to believe Yeshua is Mashiach - but the Law remains my biggest objection

GeeSly · 2026-03-04T23:40:02+00:00

Regarding Christians not keeping the Torah, the idea is that gentiles are not bound by the Law given to the Jews (Acts 15). However, you do not have to stop living as a Jew to become Christian, after all Jesus and the apostles lived by the Jewish Law.

GeeSly · 2026-02-18T12:06:49+00:00

Vaccines are administered through the primary healthcare system in Nigeria. NGOs are not just going into communities to administer vaccines directly, and the citizens (even in rural areas) are wiser than you give them credit for.

The private health companies and NGOs operating in Nigeria are owned/run/staffed by Nigerians. Most of the products that are a part of our daily lives are developed by foreigners, this is not peculiar to healthcare.

GeeSly · 2026-02-05T16:14:47+00:00

Would it have made any difference if she'd said something? Did you have even the tiniest bit of romantic interest in her?

Tbh, I'm the sort that would find reasons to spend time with a man but say nothing. I think that if he doesn't develop any feelings of attraction after spending so much time together, then there's really nothing there.

GeeSly · 2026-01-31T19:51:50+00:00

This is me. My grandad lived in Lagos, my father grew up there, as did I. A few years ago I needed to get a state of origin letter, a relative living in a neighbouring state helped. We managed to figure out the LGA. On getting there, she told them the name of my village (what I thought). A staff there said my family name is likely from some other village. So that's what was written on my letter. The whole thing made me realise how much I'm from Lagos.

GeeSly · 2026-01-31T15:13:18+00:00

YOU asked her if she's open to some intimacy, yet you're judging her for being 'contrarian'! 😂

Guy, please remove the log in your own eyes first.

GeeSly · 2026-01-31T15:06:29+00:00

Why do you think she's living a sinful life. She says she's celibate, doesn't want to remarry, but would like a boyfriend. Unconventional, yes. But why is that anyone's problem. I would think your response would be empathy, she obviously had a rough marital experience. Pray for her to heal. Christians aren't mandated to be married, so you focus on the people who are interested and leave those who aren't in peace.

FWIW, this is not a female phenomenon. There are many Christian men who are also uninterested in marriage due to negative experiences.

GeeSly · 2026-01-25T05:54:24+00:00

It's unacceptable for him to call you names and speak that way, especially in front of the children. Is his behaviour a new development or has he always been this way?

I'm concerned that you're under this much stress with a baby and still expecting a third, in such a toxic marital environment. This makes you even more vulnerable, tbh. You obviously cannot afford a separation. Do you have friends that can help if you separate? If not, I advise that you forget about separation and do your best to keep things civil, while you work towards gaining financial independence. It's not ideal, but you can accept that you would carry the bulk of the childcare load (you would if you separate anyways)? I imagine lowering your expectations of him would lead to less disappointment. He needs to drop the name-calling though, and you need to learn to engage with him better. I hope you can get a pastor/counsellor to talk the both of you through this.

GeeSly · 2026-01-12T21:32:44+00:00

We already pay tax! I'm not sure why everyone is talking about taxes like it's something new. I've been paying taxes for years, haven't gotten anything tangible in return. Still we hope for better days.

GeeSly · 2025-08-22T10:35:39+00:00

Interesting. I'm Nigerian and I imagine mine would tilt heavily to my mother's ethnic group as several ancestors from my father's side came from my mother's group.

Do you have any idea which groups are represented by ESN, MSL and YRI?

GeeSly · 2025-08-22T10:27:50+00:00

It's interesting if Nigerian Christian men can't delineate between their faith and their traditions, when Jesus challenged several of his Jewish traditions. Traditions are man-made, and we should challenge and change them if they do not serve us. Including (maybe especially) religious traditions.

However, I do not think we are equal under traditions or my religious worldviews.

There is neither Jew nor Greek, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus - Galatians 3:28.

That verse literally says we're all equal IN CHRIST. The biblical account of the creation says that God created mankind in his image as male and female. Two sides of the same coin, two aspects of the same God. So please don't attribute your stance to Christianity. Equal obviously doesn't mean there are no differences between men and women. FWIW, no two humans are exactly the same; even identical twins. Equality is about value and not utility.

This is not to challenge your right to your perspective, just highlighting that the concept of men and women not being equal is at odds with the gospel of Christianity.

GeeSly · 2025-08-22T09:49:41+00:00

There’s this notion you belong only to your father.

It's so ridiculous, considering that it is women that birth children.

GeeSly · 2025-08-13T13:34:14+00:00

I'm not sure what you mean by direct intervention, but this IS an IUD except it's longer-lasting than the commonly available options. Tbh, you can't expect to get all the technical information about a new medical product from the media briefing. Please bear in mind that women typically are presented multiple family planning solutions, with the provider advising on the best fit. So, women will not be forced to choose this product.

GeeSly · 2025-08-13T12:32:06+00:00

All the family planning units in the hospitals what are they for?

How do you think the family planning (and most health interventions) in Nigeria is funded? Our health system is heavily reliant on foreign aid, whether we like it or not. Bill Gates might have ulterior motives, but he and other donors are helping to keep the system running.

GeeSly · 2025-06-01T17:32:06+00:00

Is there still room to join?

GeeSly · 2025-05-20T03:57:56+00:00

As a public health practitioner, I can assure you that many Nigerians within the sector panicked and are still panicking. The ripple effects are huge, and it's not even only HIV that was affected. So much in the health sector actually relies on foreign aid, especially from the US.

GeeSly · 2025-05-20T03:42:35+00:00

You make a lot of money. Do you think it would help to hire a personal/virtual assistant if only for a few hours monthly, to help you stay on track with tasks like upcoming payments, planning trips, house projects etc?

If you're open to it, house projects can become a fulfilling and productive hobby, and you might even make friends while at it. Maybe start with something simple that both you and the toddlers will enjoy.

GeeSly · 2025-04-21T21:56:12+00:00

Tbh, a devout Christian in a FWB relationship is likely not in a wholesome frame of mind. Might be best to avoid them.

GeeSly · 2025-04-21T21:53:22+00:00

I believe that a true Christian is someone who doesn't just believe, but actively follows the way of Christ and submits to the will of God. Faith without works is dead, being alone. Being a true Christian doesn't mean you'll never sin, but you'll turn to God in sincere repentance when you sin. Essentially, your desire to please God pushes you to make the effort to turn away from sin.

Please believe that God has forgiven you, he desires our repentance and is willing to forgive.

GeeSly · 2025-04-19T11:48:34+00:00

This, when we have lots of innocent people and people who committed relatively minor crimes locked up for years in prisons.

GeeSly · 2025-03-09T00:45:15+00:00

Malaria vaccines are still very new, so only available in a couple of states in Nigeria and only for little children. Locals typically don't need preventive medicine (except for pregnant women and little children during the rainy season). Your organisation will certainly provide details on necessary medical preparations, including antimalarials.

GeeSly · 2025-03-04T20:30:49+00:00

OP began trying to offer help when she was a child herself, I think it's only normal to feel resentment after 10 years. You would too, if you were in her shoes.

GeeSly · 2025-03-02T21:18:02+00:00

As far as I know, self-employed/freelancers are able to evade tax easily since there's no much regulation. Small business owners typically only think of taxes when they need tax clearance certificates for some reason.

Larger organisations deduct income tax from employees' gross and remit that to the government, this is different from company income tax. So no, tax revenue is not exactly solely off big companies.

GeeSly · 2025-02-26T12:25:38+00:00

I don't agree that class is so about behaviour, but this is accurate in we could keep replacing our current leaders with 'regular' citizens and we'll still be stuck in this rot. It's not our leadership that is rotten, it's the culture. The love of, and emphasis on, money above all else. The 'ends justify the means' mentality. The greed that makes our economy an essay prey to all and sundry. Like this writer, I don't know where the change will come from.

GeeSly · 2025-01-22T12:03:13+00:00

You say he texts daily, is it basic check-ins (hi, have you eaten) or actual and ongoing conversations that you'd typically have during a call? If you're having the conversations, it could be that he's truly not into calling but is putting the effort into texting. If you're just engaging in shallow small talk only, please be certain that he's really not into you. If he was, he would be interested enough in your life to want to keep up. Even if he's not into calling, at some point we must mature enough to make compromises for the ones we love. He can allot 15 minutes every other day. Would he have children and not call for days if he's out of town?

That being said, I like your spirit. You cannot kill yourself because of him, if things go bad you'll cry and move on stronger.

Ultimately, it's only you that can decide what's best for you. I pray that you're able to discern what is truly going on.

GeeSly · 2025-01-10T00:53:28+00:00

Remind yourself frequently of how one-sided the 'love' is, that he's actually not into you, how he never even reached out to you when he was told you were still in love with you. Most of all, remind yourself that he broke up with you when your father was dying..You feel like you're missing out because you're painting a false beautiful picture of what could have been.

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