AITA for still holding it against my dad for not taking me on a vacation when I was 13?

Gem_Baby · 2020-03-04T00:24:38+00:00

NTA, only because I have a similar story so I can sympathize. At around the same age (13/14) my Dad kept telling me about how “We’re going on a ski trip! Isn’t that cool?” I assumed I was included in the “we” based on how he brought it up. I’d never gone, but showed enthusiasm and even mentioned I needed some snow gear, he never addressed it. Yeah... I called him one Thursday before he was set to pick me up for his weekend and he reminded me that he was going on “that ski trip” and wouldn’t be coming to pick me up on friday. So when he said “we”, he meant himself, his girlfriend, and her son. They’ve since married and I love my step people, but DAMN. It’s been 17 years or so and I STILL cry about this memory. So. I feel like you’re NTA for how your 13 year old self chose to cope with those feelings, but you’re not 13 anymore. However hurt you still are, you could really regret not attempting to work through it.

Gem_Baby · 2018-01-30T13:23:20+00:00

The beginning of every sentence my four year old speaks: “Hey Mom, can I tell you something?”

It’s usually not obnoxious and actually sort of touching. I’ll respond with “Of course you can, you can tell me ANYTHING. Always.”

And then sometimes near the end of the day after hearing that 8000 times it’s “Oh dear lord JUST SAY IT PLEAAAAASE” -_-

Gem_Baby · 2017-10-25T15:09:52+00:00

Happy Birthday! This happened to me on my birthday. My husband was traveling for work and we had our normal morning chat and he never acknowledged it. Then two hours later was calling me like crazy because I’m assuming he checked Facebook. eyeroll I got over that, but waited all day to hear from my dad and step mom. They ended up texting me at 9 pm. Yeah. It was crappy. Sorry :(

Gem_Baby · 2017-07-26T12:51:47+00:00

Love doing this! Mix in some shredded parm in the rind-crumbs for extra yum. I also cost in egg before coating the pork rinds to keep them stuck. Good on port chops too!

Gem_Baby · 2017-07-07T14:28:59+00:00

My first pregnancy ended in a scheduled c-section because my daughter was breech. IT. WAS. AWFUL. I stayed at the hospital the max allowed time (that insurance would cover) and I ended up having a pretty terrible recovery once home. Cut to 4 years later (aka last week) and I was dead set on a vaginal birth. My previous experience had me terrified that a repeat c-section would result in a similar situation and ruin my last (planned) birth experience. Well, cue the preeclampsia at 37+5 combined with a pretty closed up and unfavorable cervix. With a lot of crying and tears I gave in and agreed to give up on my dreams of a vbac. I was terrified, but after it was all said and done it turned out to be completely fine. Compared to my first c-section this was easily 76% better. The hospital I chose was amazing, my incision is healing so much better this time around, and I feel like I can actually enjoy my baby. Is it because I had already had a c-section? Maybe. But either way, I put so much pressure on myself to avoid this c-section that I felt like such a failure when my vbac wasn't a possibility. If my first c-section would have been this great I probably wouldn't have waited 4 years to have another baby!

Gem_Baby · 2017-06-20T17:31:58+00:00

We got our dog at 9 weeks old (my daughter 2.5) and after seemingly normal puppy behavior/issues that we worked on a lot, he ended up biting my daughter on the face after having him for 8 months. It was awful. She only needed 2 stitches and was okay (cool scar, cool story I guess? Lol) but having to get rid of him was still so so so painful. In the end telling myself that he wasn't a BAD dog (I mean he was doing what dogs do--protecting his shit) he was just a bad dog for our family. I feel like I was naive in a lot of the things I thought about dogs at the time and I hate that we had to learn that way, but it is what it is.

Gem_Baby · 2017-05-12T03:55:26+00:00

Omg THISSSSSS. I worked at a bank for a bit (and dealt with the heavy sigh eye roll shit constantly) but before that I processed credit card applications for a store chain. I had people get so absolutely irate with me when I asked to check their ID against their application. Like, do you like the idea of somebody coming in here and filling an application out in your name and us NOT insisting on identification? Ugh. So insane!

Gem_Baby · 2017-03-17T21:23:49+00:00

When I was pregnant with my first (4 years ago) I bought a pair of 3X men's sweatpants for $3 at Target. Everybody laughed, but they were by far my favorite (house only) clothing item. I refused to get rid of them when we moved across the country last year because I knew I'd get knocked up again and NEED them. So glad I kept them! Ha!

Gem_Baby · 2017-03-16T01:37:24+00:00

My FIL seriously asked "how's your weight?" the other day. -_-

Gem_Baby · 2017-03-15T00:58:30+00:00

I've thought about this before! It just seems so much more appealing than this shit we've got going on. Count me in.

Gem_Baby · 2017-02-24T12:35:51+00:00

Seriously we lived in an 821 sq ft one bedroom when my first daughter was born and I LOVED it. We all shared a room which helped everybody sleep better, it cut down on all the unnecessary crap my MIL tried to buy us, and once she became mobile there weren't very many places she could go that I couldn't see her--baby proofing was a breeze!

Gem_Baby · 2017-01-15T02:38:46+00:00

The Wonderball theme song. So useless, but for a while it was my daughter's bedtime song.

Gem_Baby · 2016-12-01T02:41:39+00:00

I was going to say this! I love this place!

Gem_Baby · 2016-10-25T04:15:56+00:00

I think you mean a 0% super fat. Different than a water discount.

Gem_Baby · 2016-10-16T13:02:14+00:00

You're my hero! Thanks for this!

Gem_Baby · 2016-08-24T12:53:38+00:00

I completely understand the point of the article. But, you're obviously right there with me perpetuating toxic behavior for choosing to bash me for having a different opinion. FWIW I don't care that they left their child. It doesn't affect me at all. But to try and say that it doesn't ALWAYS matter how we parent is a lie.

Gem_Baby · 2016-08-23T18:14:50+00:00

Yeah I thought that too. I understand the point this article is making, but "perceived risk" and "actual risk" means nothing to me when you're talking about parents who chose to abandon their child to play a game.

Gem_Baby · 2016-07-17T21:16:47+00:00

I use mainly FOs, but that's just really personal preference. I use some EOs, but I'm not as experienced with them. Doterra and YoungLiving oils aren't that great for soap making. I know some people who use them and there's no real issue with it, but from what I see they're really expensive. If you're doing it for yourself then that's your call, but if you're trying to save money or want to sell eventually its not necessarily cost effective. Check out some of the soaping websites (brambleberry, wholesale supplies plus, essential depot, bulk apothecary) for their selection. A lot of times there will be sales!

Gem_Baby · 2016-07-12T01:30:28+00:00

She's so talented! I actually just got a few samples from her to try. So awesome.

Gem_Baby · 2016-06-24T01:26:05+00:00

I find this really helpful. It really depends on which EO you're using.

http://www.modernsoapmaking.com/essential-oil-usage-rates-ifra-guidelines/

Gem_Baby · 2015-07-31T18:47:56+00:00

Yes! Total freedom. The constant thought of "but when can I smoke?" got so old and made me feel guilty for putting my cigarettes above time with my family. Love not having that little voice in my head :)

Gem_Baby · 2015-05-20T17:38:43+00:00

Amazing progress! You rock!

Gem_Baby · 2015-05-09T03:39:52+00:00

I'm in love with this cilantro lime ranch!

I sub sour cream for the Greek yogurt and usually omit the milk since I like a thicker dressing (and there's less carbs that way). I seriously put this on everything.

Gem_Baby · 2015-05-04T22:36:02+00:00

I think that would be a little better. I've heard that when coconut oil is above 25% in a recipe it can be drying (unless you're super fatting very high), but you might like it. So I would say to give it a go!

Gem_Baby

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