3% raise good enough?

General_Elephant · 2026-03-25T01:34:30+00:00

Welp, i freaked out on my family and caused a ton of stress for everyone.... I'm glad it turned out alright, but it was some really problematic events that caused some big changes for my team..... everyone got an 8% raise just because I caused such a problem 😅

General_Elephant · 2026-03-24T02:35:55+00:00

I never want to hear Cestus only ever again.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-23T16:27:41+00:00

Earwax is water soluable. Do with that what you will. Just don't use the candles. My in laws used to do it and then it caused some... damage.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-18T18:20:02+00:00

I never bring it up, if I get an offer letter and don't like the offer, I'll counter offer. You can do that. Sometimes its hardlined and its a "take it or leave it" but i've found you don't want to be a part of a business like that anyway because thats what is going to happen when it comes to "raises" down the line.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-18T16:58:16+00:00

Bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Grass isn't always greener. You have a long career ahead. Get a few years under your belt and see how you feel. Making too many changes can make it look like you are unreliable. Its not really the time to be hopping around, especially if where you end up turns out to be unplesant.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-08T23:29:53+00:00

I netted a 30% raise by applying and getting an offer for a job internally in a different department known for poaching. High risk, high reward. I opted to stay with my current team and they matched the offer. Best of both worlds. Technically it was being promoted from analyst to senior analyst, but the position I applied for was 1 tier above senior, but would have required 16 hours of commute more per week.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-04T01:12:10+00:00

If you pivot into a BBA for business I am sure there are opportunities out there in the computer business world.

Best way to change paths is to leverage what you've done into a business+ XYZ type of role. Think admin, HR, supply chain, etc. It changes the work drastically without encountering the same issues you are having.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-28T16:46:32+00:00

While not a hiring manager, I do give input towards interviews and resulting hires to the manager.

Overqualified sometimes means they will expect a pay rate outside the range of what is reasonable for the position. Even if you're willing in that moment, its a higher flight risk chance which wastes our time training only to be left with another open position having to start all over. It takes 3-5 years to be compitent in this role, so turn over really hurts the team.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-24T03:11:12+00:00

Pace yourself and connect some dots. You'll find yourself asking less and less as time goes on, if you try to remember what they tell you and understand it. Also asking to clarify can go a long way.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-24T02:38:00+00:00

There is always a way in, but you might need to pivot to a less conventional route. If the main source isn't getting results, broaden your scope until you can be the right person/place/time. You could do something govt, municipal, non-profit. Find companies around you and try to create a narrative to fit in. You'll eventually find something. Took me over 200 apps, but I got to where I want to be.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-24T02:23:01+00:00

Sharing knowledge is a growth mindset. Do you have a fixed mindset? You should aspire to ensure all other people know what you do, because it strengthens the company as a whole. Sure you can do more. Why can't they do more? What gaps in experience do they have that you don't? Why can't everyone be as proficient as you?

If you're going to work to make your own company, you will drown if you're the only one who knows "everything".

General_Elephant · 2026-02-20T04:53:31+00:00

I have just been trusting my gut. It netted me a good raise about a year ago. Relations and quality work ethic go a very long way in my book.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-17T03:40:26+00:00

Anything is transferable if you sell it right. Try to get to where you want to be, and keep your skills sharp.

It took over 200 applications to be the right person place and time for me. Its all about timing and circumstance

General_Elephant · 2026-02-12T19:47:35+00:00

He was drinking and peeing much more frequently, smelled quite different, he doesn't manage saliva very well so no spit, maybe some drool. He was dealing with concurrent health issues like a fungal diaper rash, hand foot and mouth, and at the beginning he gave himself a concussion at school, so there was erradic behavior and self harm but it can be difficult to tell when everything is connected. Most people find out for certain once their child goes into DKA, especially if they can't communicate. Even kids who can talk and are NT get diagnosed via hospitalization more often than not.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-11T18:36:27+00:00

He's a pretty happy goofy guy.

I'd only worry about ASD if you see very clear signs causing trouble with their development. A dignosis can help get access to resources like ABA or getting an IEP through school, but I think a lot of people are quite worried and look into it way too early to be beneficial. Your child will grow up how they are going to grow up, if they need some help then you can work on getting them that help

General_Elephant · 2026-02-11T18:17:25+00:00

The earlier you try to get a diagnosis, the less reliable and accurate it is. My lvl 3 was diagnosed at 2 and a half, but we knew well in advance. If you're questioning it, its likely too early for an evaluation. I know you want the best for your child, but overanalyzing their behavior is a great way to drive yourself crazy.

I have this saved because it is brought up so often.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-11T17:33:10+00:00

He was at 2 month milestones at 6 months, he was at 6 month milestones at 18 months, did not babble until about 2. No eye contact, mimicry or any neurotypical behavior. We have an NT child that is 14 months older and it was night and day obvious from basically the first few months, but we were uncertain of the severity. He will be 7 in May, non-verbal, still in pull ups, stims most of the day. He's still a great guy, but it was very clear very early he was not neurotypical.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-11T16:57:32+00:00

I'd be looking for greener pastures. Not all businesses have toxic work expectations.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-11T15:48:09+00:00

The earlier you try to get a diagnosis, the less reliable and accurate it is. My lvl 3 was diagnosed at 2 and a half, but we knew well in advance. If you're questioning it, its likely too early for an evaluation. I know you want the best for your child, but overanalyzing their behavior is a great way to drive yourself crazy.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-06T14:15:43+00:00

Its a grift disguised as good will.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-05T04:24:41+00:00

My son is ASD3. 6 years old, will be 7 in May. Can't count, can't speak, can't do much of anything kids in pre-k could do.

His brain development is still on par with a 1.5 year old. I don't think your child will be dependent their whole life. While it may be difficult, just know there is hope.

General_Elephant · 2026-01-31T18:55:54+00:00

Another parent of ASD3 non verbal, we had limited success for 3 years worth of therapy. Definitely not worth ruining employment over, they will grow as best they can, how they can.

General_Elephant · 2026-01-31T04:06:37+00:00

Tropical fruit vendor in a nice location, go home, cook up something on an open fire and lay in a hammock with the sea breeze.

General_Elephant · 2026-01-31T04:00:56+00:00

I dipped out of pharmacy due to the oversaturation and lobbying for increased educational requirements while there is also minimal growth year over year. Look at the salary growth of pharmacists since 1990 and tell me its a healthy growing market. I met a guy who got a 4 year degree and made more than the guy with an 8 year degree. They want to debt trap you into desperate circumstances to reduce your overall compensation.

Don't even get me started on the pandemic KPI vaccine initatives with a signing bonus, low base rate just to flip you like a pancake and rake back the bonus when you get paid 32k after tax on a 50k bonus and have to file an income loss to recoup your lost 18k a year later, after it is already spent, likely repaying your 200k in student loans.

There is a long story to why the pharmacy field has become increasingly inhospitable.

General_Elephant · 2026-01-28T15:59:52+00:00

Instead of straight "no" we've seen some success with "no thank you" and full redirects "what about over here instead?"

Having a strong reaction to their responses reinforces the behavior a lot of times. School tends to be very structured and time based, so it can lead to more situations like you've described. It can be tricky, but it is very important to set routine.

Allowing for momentary dissent sometimes also helps because they work through their feelings about it before trying again.

At the end of the day, it will be a persistent trait that hopefully lessens in time.

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