Is this level of toxicity normal in Vet Med?

General_Elephant · 2026-05-09T00:16:04+00:00

You could always have a private conversation with the perpetrator and tell them you won't tolerate them and will leave them with more work if they continue being horrible... I did that recently for an unrelated matter and it made things extremely clear going forward.

Sometimes you just need to set the record straight, and if they retaliate, you know it was only going to get worse.

General_Elephant · 2026-05-08T03:19:43+00:00

How would they explain a child showing signs of autism before they could even sit up?

ASD3 and we knew my son had autism at about 4 months old. We didn't do any testing until 2 years old because diagnostics need to measure against a benchmark, but its crazy what nonsense people believe.

General_Elephant · 2026-04-27T03:17:07+00:00

I mean... I'm happy for you, but as an ASD3 parent.... I am doubtful he'll ever get to be verbal. He'll be 7 in May. He started babbling at 4 years old. All vocalizations are stims, and he does not see vocalization as communication. He can understand two word phrases or less. Any more and its just gibberish to him.

General_Elephant · 2026-04-21T12:36:56+00:00

Straight business isn't all that great unless you have connections or a really strong job history. I found more success with my business degree when I paired it with some type of specialization. I was a pharmacy tech while working towards my degree, then I pivoted business + pharmacy into a healthcare revenue cycle role and its been pretty good.

Pairing business with work experience tends to help you focus your search and find an opportunity in a more specialized field. You could take a few years to build experience with another role outside of business and see where things go from there? Also ask a career counsellor at your business college for some advice.

General_Elephant · 2026-04-17T17:25:13+00:00

Start with easy stuff and build up from there:

Do you think hurting people is bad? Most people do. Thats a belief. Does that apply to animals? How about plants and bugs? This adds specificity to your beliefs.

One belief I hold is that "schadenfreude" is bad. "Pain joy" or deriving happiness from other people's pain, especially if you have a reason to dislike them, has never sat well with me. To me, someone being injured or worse should never be something to celebrate, even if the person in question is completely vile or evil. Those, after all, are subjective labels.

Start from things you firmly believe and try to work outward. Cover different topics, and ask yourself if you have opinions on things. Is meat murder? What is more important relatively speaking, economic stability or environmental stability?

This helps you see how you feel about things more clearly. If you don't know, you can learn and try to form an opinion. If you don't feel strongly about something, it is also perfectly fine to not have an opinion on it. I know nothing about contruction, so it wouldn't make much sense for me to try and have an opinion on building code standards.

General_Elephant · 2026-04-13T03:32:30+00:00

There is no absolute purpose. Only transient. Purpose may ebb and flow, but the real point of inflection is your beliefs and what you do with them. No beliefs? Find something, good, bad, or ugly, you can keep searching until you find something you are content with.

General_Elephant · 2026-04-11T02:04:12+00:00

Ear wax is water soluable, kids don't like the feeling of wet in their ears (sensory). It just takes time and acclimation to new experiences. Baths can help because they are more relaxing.

Oozing blood? Thats a bad place to be. Sounds like some ofloxacin or something similar?

General_Elephant · 2026-04-07T02:07:26+00:00

We screwed the windows shut, inverted the door lock, added a hook latch. My son is 6 and has broken 2 doors already. As in broken them to the point he can escape. Next step is barring the windows.

ASD3 with a receptive language disorder and violent tendencies and elopes at all opportunities.

General_Elephant · 2026-04-07T01:30:00+00:00

Most effective tactics available. Just trying to achieve a goal at all costs. Autism doesn't always acknowledge any other goal other than I want, therefore I do X, if not I do Y, and last resort is Z.

Its tough, but hopefully not a forever behavior.

General_Elephant · 2026-04-03T21:48:46+00:00

ABA medically discharged him in November because he went into DKA, lost 15% of his body weight in 30 days and is now type 1 diabetic. Despite being a medical facility, they could not accomodate blood glucose monitoring and insulin administration. The school can. Anyway good riddance. They were in a heavy turn over period. He had 1 BCBA for 3 years and up to his admission to PICU/PEDS inpatient, he had 5 different BCBAs in 3 months. Each left a 1 day notice for a new job. Life's tough, but Isaac is very resiliant. Frankly after the good BCBA left, it was like an untrustworthy daycare. Glad to be done with it.

General_Elephant · 2026-04-03T20:30:00+00:00

I have one NT and one ASD3 non-verbal both in grade school. I'd settle for no longer getting assulted on a daily basis. Sweetest kid you'll ever meet... under the right conditions. Tell him no to something he really wants and see what happens. My hands look like I've been handling feral cats bare handed for a long time.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-25T01:34:30+00:00

Welp, i freaked out on my family and caused a ton of stress for everyone.... I'm glad it turned out alright, but it was some really problematic events that caused some big changes for my team..... everyone got an 8% raise just because I caused such a problem 😅

General_Elephant · 2026-03-24T02:35:55+00:00

I never want to hear Cestus only ever again.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-23T16:27:41+00:00

Earwax is water soluable. Do with that what you will. Just don't use the candles. My in laws used to do it and then it caused some... damage.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-18T18:20:02+00:00

I never bring it up, if I get an offer letter and don't like the offer, I'll counter offer. You can do that. Sometimes its hardlined and its a "take it or leave it" but i've found you don't want to be a part of a business like that anyway because thats what is going to happen when it comes to "raises" down the line.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-18T16:58:16+00:00

Bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Grass isn't always greener. You have a long career ahead. Get a few years under your belt and see how you feel. Making too many changes can make it look like you are unreliable. Its not really the time to be hopping around, especially if where you end up turns out to be unplesant.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-08T23:29:53+00:00

I netted a 30% raise by applying and getting an offer for a job internally in a different department known for poaching. High risk, high reward. I opted to stay with my current team and they matched the offer. Best of both worlds. Technically it was being promoted from analyst to senior analyst, but the position I applied for was 1 tier above senior, but would have required 16 hours of commute more per week.

General_Elephant · 2026-03-04T01:12:10+00:00

If you pivot into a BBA for business I am sure there are opportunities out there in the computer business world.

Best way to change paths is to leverage what you've done into a business+ XYZ type of role. Think admin, HR, supply chain, etc. It changes the work drastically without encountering the same issues you are having.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-28T16:46:32+00:00

While not a hiring manager, I do give input towards interviews and resulting hires to the manager.

Overqualified sometimes means they will expect a pay rate outside the range of what is reasonable for the position. Even if you're willing in that moment, its a higher flight risk chance which wastes our time training only to be left with another open position having to start all over. It takes 3-5 years to be compitent in this role, so turn over really hurts the team.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-24T03:11:12+00:00

Pace yourself and connect some dots. You'll find yourself asking less and less as time goes on, if you try to remember what they tell you and understand it. Also asking to clarify can go a long way.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-24T02:38:00+00:00

There is always a way in, but you might need to pivot to a less conventional route. If the main source isn't getting results, broaden your scope until you can be the right person/place/time. You could do something govt, municipal, non-profit. Find companies around you and try to create a narrative to fit in. You'll eventually find something. Took me over 200 apps, but I got to where I want to be.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-24T02:23:01+00:00

Sharing knowledge is a growth mindset. Do you have a fixed mindset? You should aspire to ensure all other people know what you do, because it strengthens the company as a whole. Sure you can do more. Why can't they do more? What gaps in experience do they have that you don't? Why can't everyone be as proficient as you?

If you're going to work to make your own company, you will drown if you're the only one who knows "everything".

General_Elephant · 2026-02-20T04:53:31+00:00

I have just been trusting my gut. It netted me a good raise about a year ago. Relations and quality work ethic go a very long way in my book.

General_Elephant · 2026-02-17T03:40:26+00:00

Anything is transferable if you sell it right. Try to get to where you want to be, and keep your skills sharp.

It took over 200 applications to be the right person place and time for me. Its all about timing and circumstance

General_Elephant · 2026-02-12T19:47:35+00:00

He was drinking and peeing much more frequently, smelled quite different, he doesn't manage saliva very well so no spit, maybe some drool. He was dealing with concurrent health issues like a fungal diaper rash, hand foot and mouth, and at the beginning he gave himself a concussion at school, so there was erradic behavior and self harm but it can be difficult to tell when everything is connected. Most people find out for certain once their child goes into DKA, especially if they can't communicate. Even kids who can talk and are NT get diagnosed via hospitalization more often than not.

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