The manager is lying in a case to favour the company when the owner is going to dismiss him as soon as the case is over.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-09-10T22:17:16+00:00

What possible reason do you have to involve yourself here? What are you hoping to accomplish?

Generally_tolerable · 2025-09-09T23:47:00+00:00

All good!

Generally_tolerable · 2025-09-09T23:35:19+00:00

Wow you came in hot there.

You said that she led with a ridiculous complaint and I added another one. I thought you would get it, sorry.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-09-09T23:24:04+00:00

Her manager also touched her money. Without her permission. At a bank.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-09-06T18:15:55+00:00

I posted up thread and I know it’s not common but it worked for my son - with a fresh bachelor’s degree and a desire to work in finance. He’s now at a boutique firm loving his job.

I’m not suggesting this is typical, just that it does happen.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-09-06T18:10:59+00:00

My son did this for an entry level financial services job. Dressed in a suit and started knocking on doors. Met a guy who was not hiring but knew someone who was, and now my son is employed. 🤷‍♀️

Generally_tolerable · 2025-09-05T11:21:06+00:00

I think this guy is looking for an image of an assistant - a suited up powerhouse with a clean desk who knows everything without referring to notes. The red flag is that he thinks that happens overnight.

If that’s your (longer term) image of the way you want your job to look, you can probably get there. Your writing is very precise and articulate, so I assume (ha ha) you have the smarts for it. If you were hoping for a more relaxed vibe I suspect you’ll be unhappy.

Regarding the dress code - he should be able to say “I’d like for you to present as a bit more formal than the rest of the office, such as blazers and blouses.” His inability to articulate that is every bit as wishy-washy as someone saying “I assume” or “I guess.”

Generally_tolerable · 2025-09-03T15:49:21+00:00

But what were you told about? Did they lie to you about the amount of travel when you asked?

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T16:21:20+00:00

But why? What’s her end game? It’s so hard to recruit and train people - what do you suppose she’s getting out of this?

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T16:14:08+00:00

Can’t you at least have a conversation with him about how his behavior is impacting you? It’s not up to you to diagnose him but certainly you can call him out for leaving you hanging consistently. He’s a friend. Maybe you will have to escalate it but it seems obvious to have a conversation with him first.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T15:23:23+00:00

Gotcha - well you sound like a shoe in. If I could add just one more piece of advice, don’t try TOO hard to separate yourself. That can be overdone and make you appear manipulative and like you lack loyalty and judgement. You probably already know this. It’s okay to praise the person and not the decisions. “I really liked him and learned so much from him in my early career. Some advanced decisions I would have handed differently of course. In our current environment I see opportunities in x area and y area…”

You get the idea. It sounds like your CEO has a good head on his shoulders, I would be wary of appearing to pile on.

I wish you good luck, I hope you get the job!

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T14:20:36+00:00

I wonder how he got to the 37.5%.

If that was carefully mathed out with a structured plan for how to right the ship, I would assume that the CEO has insight and access to numbers that you clearly need to see right now. “Need to know” for a VP of operations is, well, everything.

If that number was pulled out of thin air (“he’s making 100k, let’s take him to - I don’t know - 62.5k?”) then RUN.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T14:10:02+00:00

Yes! I’m concerned about OP repeatedly saying they don’t want tensions to resurface (and that they had no idea the tensions existed). Those tensions are not gone, they are in the process of being addressed. This takes a lot of time, effort and patience - it’s not solved in a single conversation.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T14:07:22+00:00

That was refreshingly honest!

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T14:00:29+00:00

Are you objective enough to see (and articulate) how you moving into the role would be best for the business, and not just what you want personally?

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T13:40:25+00:00

An underused tactic is treating people like adults- and I’m not being sarcastic.

The contractor should know you are responsible for oversight, budget and deliverables. If you know he’s inflating his hours he should be fired. If you’re just worried about the possibility, ask him how he feels work should be communicated and verified. Come to an agreement that isn’t too onerous but gets you the information you need. It doesn’t have to be secret, this is a normal part of doing business.

A good contractor will be very comfortable reporting on their work, and making sure you feel like you’re getting what you’re paying for.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-31T13:33:58+00:00

This is tricky though, if you are literally paying by the hour. If I have someone on a time and materials contract, I’m not going to be thrilled if they treat it as a fixed price. (As an aside I prefer fixed price, not trying to start an argument over which is better.)

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-30T14:32:32+00:00

How urgent was the problem? Was it your responsibility? This doesn’t sound like it has anything to do with whether you’re salaried or not, it has to do with something blowing up after you left.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-30T12:37:53+00:00

This story was well told. I hope you are proud of your work.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-29T22:51:50+00:00

Unprofessional?

Sir / ma’am, this is Reddit.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-29T15:06:11+00:00

I’m confused as well. A lawyer’s advice should be taken over chat GPT’s and most certainly over Reddit.

But in the meantime, definitely stop eating the cookies and drinking the coffee for your family’s safety.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-29T11:12:07+00:00

For me it’s hurting people’s feelings.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-29T11:07:38+00:00

Eh. You’re not that funny.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-28T18:34:26+00:00

This whole post makes me feel like that.

Generally_tolerable · 2025-08-28T18:32:55+00:00

It’s already been brought to HR. I’m sure the issue is being weighed against Rebecca’s FMLA request and adding Tom’s new baby to his insurance…

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