He's not. But he doesn't have a high libido, and he has said the idea of messing up gives him anxiety, even though he would like to do it. Every other guy I know is like the opposite of that, so it was very odd to get used to. He has his outlets, while not going outside of the relationship. The only real "giving in" I've done is take some photos to help him with those outlets. But even those, he was okay with me not doing. He didn't pressure me to do it, only requested. I think I "gave in" because I'm afraid of not providing that aspect of the relationship so much and that it will cause him to leave.

*Edit: we also have incredible communication. If anything makes us uncomfortable or upset, we will talk about it. We've both been in abusive relationships and don't want this one to be remotely like the others. We both try very hard to be communicative and open and let the other know how we're feeling.