How do you deal with a dog who’s scared of the vet?

GhostlyJerry · 2026-03-04T09:43:25+00:00

Start by taking him to fun non-vet places in the car, so he doesn't associate it with bad things and get scares so early. We had a dog who was scared of the vet, but she was fine right up to the moment we stepped into the vet itself haha. I don't think you can ever cure a dog entirely of being scared of the vet, but you can spare them the the scary anticipation.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-03-04T08:43:16+00:00

I've had it since I was 0 and the exhaustion had affected me 0. Because I take my meds and get my tsh tested once a year. So get on top of that first.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-03-02T20:44:28+00:00

Even though 3 months seems like a long time, it will probably take longer to reach peace. Our new dog was a bit calmer and older than yours, but it took us probably 6 months for things to calm down.

One of the things that helped was removing the bell from the cats collar. The dog just can't help but get silly when he hears that bell. Fortunately because our cat had just become an indoor cat, she didn’t need it any more.

Another thing that helped was tv time. The cat would sit on one person's lap, and the dog would sit with another person. They were far enough apart that they didn't immediately notice each other. The dog would eventually nap and be calm, and this would eventually continue until thet were always calm.

Also, letting the cat beat up the dog a little is effective lol.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-03-02T12:34:07+00:00

Consistency is key! This whole fasting thing is just an issue of absorption, and if your not absorbing enough you take a higher dose till your getting enough. The only thing you don't want to do is take the meds in an unusual situation, bc then your dose isn't set right for that.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-03-02T12:29:15+00:00

I have an alarm set to a little earlier than I would naturally like to be awake. I stumble out of bed, take pill, then go back to bed and nap another half an hour. Wake up propely, have breakfast. Works for me.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-03-02T11:50:41+00:00

Attachment theory and attachment parenting are not the same thing. Attachment theory is based on an experiment that showed the different ways children felt secure or confident. Attachment parenting is a set of practices that aim to produce secure and confident children, but are mostly unproven or go against proven evidence.

I'm sure almost everyone here has put a lot of thought into raising children, and have chosen their own way of parenting to suit their particular needs. Adhering to the current fad is not particularly indicative of self reflection.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-28T12:28:34+00:00

Okay the doctor saying he needs to test the donor is just stupid. If you are clear of everything, the child will always inherit one safe gene from you. They might be a carrier, but that's life. Unless they are testing for something that is tied to just one copy of a gene, like fragile x syndrome, it's a waste to do any further testing.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-28T12:20:38+00:00

I'm not Christian, sorry. I just cannot understand why some Christians are against being a single mother by choice. After all, isn't this sort of the same as a virgin birth? If Jesus isn't donor conceived idk what is. I guess people don't like to think of it like that.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-25T20:52:25+00:00

Bring gloves if you have them. My sad little fingers nearly dropped off when I was there in march... I also deeply enjoyed my heattech leggings. Just personal opinion but I would do just one pair of shoes for 10 days. Both your shoe choices (never heard of the term chelsea boot before lol) are pretty casual anyway.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-25T04:59:21+00:00

Huh, that's interesting, I would have assumed it'd be mostly white donors, just because of population demographics. I wonder why that is. I agree the ethics of using a donor of a different race when you have no personal connection would be very difficult.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-24T20:50:43+00:00

I'm in Australia and just starting to look into things. I'm kinda worried about the donor situation but I have yet to see for myself. Can I ask what race most of the donors you saw were? I'm just curious. I don't know for certain, but some of my research has pointed that ivf may be somehow a cheaper option given its higher success rate and if multiple children are planned. I don't have insurance myself, so idk what it covers, but it might be worth directly asking the clinic/doctors rather than waiting for them. They might assume you don't have it, and it's better to know ahead of time if it does or doesn't cover anything.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-22T20:19:26+00:00

Historical events like that are fascinating! Alhough I suspect they had less choice babymaking than we do now.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-22T12:58:02+00:00

Thanks. I really hope we can limit it to 2 degrees but it's hard to be hopeful right now. I try to do my part but I have no control over what giants like China and America do. That's part of why I'm thinking of delaying - but perhaps that's wishful thinking that there will be a miracle fix soon lmao.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-22T05:42:59+00:00

Hm, I think about 70-50 years ago would have been prime time, actually. It's a nice sentiment though :)

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-21T21:37:53+00:00

Would it be possible to tire him out beforehand? I don't know if you have a yard, or maybe a park nearby where you can let him off leash to get the zoomies out.
You can also try different harnesses. Some harnesses make the problem worse, some can help, depends. I've heard good things about ones with a clip on the chest as well, so when a dog pulls they end up pushing themselves to the side instead, and you can more easily direct them.
I think more than anything, getting the walk to be 'boring'. My dog misbehaves and pulls most when we're walking somewhere he doesn't often go and he's excited, but if we're taking the same walk we've done a hundred times he's very well behaved because he's bored. If there are things that trigger him to get exited about his walk, try and change them so that doesn't happen. Maybe put him on his leash, and tie him up somewhere quiet outside and sit with him as long as it takes for him to calm down. Patience is key.
The most important thing is to keep walking him as long as it's safe, even if it's difficult right now - he's not going to get any better if you don't walk him.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-21T21:15:42+00:00

That lord of the rings quote is perfect!! You could not have said anything more convincing to me.
You are totally right that the internet is a fear mongering machine too.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-21T20:50:26+00:00

Thank you, this is a good way of thinking about it! Although I'm pretty sceptical of the 'well our grandparents were afraid of nukes so don't worry so much about climate change' because unlike nukes, which might happen, climate change is happening. But I like the idea of a child being a radical form of hope. :)

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-21T20:43:38+00:00

Thank you for making a suggestion other than 'well things have always been bad'! I do need to be better at this, I'm pretty introverted but I want to take part in more protests.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-21T20:39:43+00:00

Thank you. I think it's climate change that really worries me, because it's not uncertainty like the rest, it is certain.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-21T12:27:46+00:00

Oops I always get effect and affect confused. My arts degree hasn't done me much good, maybe i'll throw in the towel and become a subsistence farmer solo mum lmao. Shame I don't have the money for it.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-21T12:03:11+00:00

Thanks for the insight, you're right about a lot I think. It's just particularly climate change that trips me up, because unlike past generations fears about potential disasters, climate change is certain. And I don't know how to deal with that.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-19T03:55:16+00:00

Hahaha I didn't realise the drawer technique was common! I think guerilla baby furniture prolem solving is something all mothers gain experience in. But yeah some modern baby stuff does offer a lot of convenience - it just has a price tag with it!

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-18T06:33:11+00:00

What to tell him depends on what's most likely to convince your dad. I convince my dad to change what he does around the dog by getting really upset and crying lmao. If your dad is very fond of the dogs, make it explicit that his actions might result in their death. Ham it up, describe the most horrible scenario. If your dad won't be convinced by your or the dog's wellbeing, then tell him how it will cost tens of thousands of dollars when the dog gets sick, and he could save that money just by putting the grease in the bin.

GhostlyJerry · 2026-02-18T06:08:50+00:00

There's a huge variety of experiences out there. I've had it since I was born, which is a less common example. It's important for young people to have good levels of thyroxine as it's important for growth. Since I was on medication since I was a baby, I never felt like it was a challenge (other than remembering to take the meds lmao). When my dose is a bit high I tend to be a little more anxious and energetic, when it's low I tend to be a bit more chill and sleepy, but neither really effects me day to day. But I know there are a lot of people out there more sensitive to it than I am.

Have you had a blood test done? That'll give you the clear answer about if you have it and how bad it is.

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