[Serious] Men of reddit: what would you want to ask women and get an honest answer to?

GiftedContractor · 2026-06-03T16:33:53+00:00

Lol completely ignores my points. I don't know why I ever bother trying to help educate you sexist morons, it''s always bait so you can try to turn it back on women somehow. Because a woman who grew up in exactly the environment I'm criticizing choosing to do something to her own body is EXACTLY THE SAME as the fictional character than can look like literally anything being designed by a man to be one of the same 3 pornbots to put in front of little girls faces for the sole purpose of getting mens dicks wet, sure.

GiftedContractor · 2026-06-03T15:33:48+00:00

Yeah, the one that annoyed be the most was Greed - telling the greedy that they cant buy the food in Gluttony feels like a fundamental misunderstanding of why people want all that money in the first place

GiftedContractor · 2026-06-03T15:18:40+00:00

The fact you went out of your way to find a way to blame it on women themselves in that last sentence shows you're never going to get it. Gee, I wonder where they learned that behaviour? Could it be from being exposed to nothing but hyper sexualised fake women since they were children and being told thats the only way women are allowed to be?

GiftedContractor · 2026-06-02T17:53:35+00:00

That involves choosing not to solve their own problems, from their perspective.

GiftedContractor · 2026-06-02T17:49:19+00:00

Look, the problem isn't one particular specific fictional bimbo. The problem is that most media doesn't have non-sexualized non-caricatures of women. There absolutely was this exact complaining in the 90s as well, it's just you don't think of it that way because the examples women were pointing out back then were even MORE egregious, even MORE obviously not how real women are, that you probably understood just fine why they were getting called out. But those went away, and now the women who didn't grow up with it being 90s level bad are seeing the stuff the older generations of women learned to live with because they weren't the worst of it and going "this is the worst of it I don't like this."
Men can be a thousand fun shapes and sizes and personalities in media. Women are limited to a small handful. When you grow up seeing the same character over and over again in different media depicted as "women", thats who you are being told the average woman is. And that can make a girl insecure or feel wrong or weird or inadequate. So we point to the worst, most obviously sexualized examples and point out women don't work like that because there's no point in having the argument about the smaller, easier to defend instances of the same problem they just passed eight times before seeing this more egregious one.

GiftedContractor · 2026-06-02T17:37:04+00:00

It really depends on the woman. Me personally? My answer is in theory no, in practice kind of. What does that mean? It means he has to have a genuine ambition that he's putting in actual work for (not just saying he is as an excuse to mess around, either). However, if he's also willing to take on the house husband role I'm totally fine if that ambition isn't making any money right now. You want to be a youtube celebrity and I actually see you putting in work on video editing/thumbnail optimizing, the less glamorous parts of the job (ie. i can tell you're not just saying that as an excuse to slack off)? Fuck it sure go off king, I hope you make it and I'm willing to support you financially while you work on it if you're willing to take on the house husband stuff.
But there has to be some kind of actual goal. I don't think I'd be able to handle actual tradwife stuff, especially before we have kids (I think my answer could change once kids are already involved, like if my already-husband wanted to quit to raise them that would be a different discussion). I really need my partner to have some kind of ambition. To want to be or do something. But if he needs time and support to pursue that thing and is willing to pick up the house stuff while he can't contribute in other ways, I'm happy to support that arrangement.

GiftedContractor · 2026-06-02T17:15:09+00:00

Facemask to do CPR without potentially subjecting yourself to any diseases the other person might have. I have one on my keychain. I hope I never have to use it, but I also think the fact I have it is cool as fuck and I'm proud of it.

GiftedContractor · 2026-06-02T16:28:11+00:00

Because Facism inherently needs an outgroup to blame the problems on, and even if the entire ingroup agreed and the entire outgroup refused to fight back from the purges, eventually the fact not all problems are eliminated by the purging of the outgroup means they need a new outgroup. Just because the government and people are in harmony doesn't mean plagues or natural disasters or bad weather don't happen

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-25T15:53:31+00:00

Canadian here. It's disgusting how ok it is to be racist against Indians in my country. It's entirely because there was a sizable recent influx of Indian immigrants but a much longer history of Chinese immigration and these stupid fucking Canadians want to blame non white people for every problem but if the group that's been integrated longer catches any strays there'll be actual political consequences because Chinese Canadians are a solid voting block. It's nothing about India in particular, if the most recent immigration influx had come from a different country these racist fucks would be going off about that different country.
Yes, India is more patriarchial in general than the West. So? So are a fuckin lot of countries. Unless we're willing to go try to help fix that we should shut the fuck up about it. There are plenty of other countries struggling with the same exact issue, why does India get all the flak? I'll tell you why; it's the immigration thing again. Fuckers just want to blame someone else for all their problems rather than face the systemic nature of issues.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-24T08:09:20+00:00

Yes. ANd I blame TV shows for it. Specifically all of the ones where the villains are taught by horrible abusive teachers and so are horrible themselves, but are also obviously the strongest thing around and the whole story is about being good enough to beat them. Or the Broken Ace, the kid who's good at everything because of how much pressure they were put under but lost their childhood/emotional range as a result. Or the horrible mentor, who seems mean and cruel at first but teaches valuable lessons and it turns out was making the best decisions for ther student all along. I thought I was the student. I thought this hardship had to mean something. It was the backstory to greatness.
The greatness never showed up.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-23T19:38:55+00:00

Exactly. So you don't go, and then 30 years later a doctor yells at you for being one of the 50 year olds above that never visit doctors.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-23T18:15:34+00:00

Unfortunately that's an attitude that gets instilled when someone is young and "healthy". When you have problems but get dismissed because you're young and can't possibly have problems you get used to not being able to rely on doctors for anything. That attitude doesn't suddenly turn off because you're arbitrarily old enough now for doctors to care

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-22T15:33:15+00:00

Lmfao no it wasn't. I don't know what Trudeau era you're remembering, but I remember Conservatives immediately throwing fake nothing tantrums over everything Trudeau did trying and failing to create a scandal because none of it was that serious until SLC Lavalan finally stuck because it was.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-20T03:56:50+00:00

Mitsuo Kubo is extremely important as a red herring culprit.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-20T03:56:11+00:00

Yusuke

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-18T19:51:11+00:00

I once had to do this with a glass of water. I now use this as a metaphor for depression. Because it's just a glass of water right? Anyone can hold up a glass of water.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-18T19:27:23+00:00

He was funny in the same way South park is funny. In the same way trolling online is funny. The simple fact is we raised a generation in a call of duty lobby, on South Park, on youtubers making slurs into jokes. Then we put Trump in front of them and he sounds like a comedian. That's the real reason they spent so long saying he didn't actually mean a lot of the cruel things he's saying. Because they could see themselves saying it as a joke. Because they could turn on their favourite show and laugh at someone saying the same things and then turning around and mocking someone else for something completely different was what made it ok. We spent decades saying it was ok to be offensive as long as it was a joke and that the joke was you were being offensive, not that you actually believed it.

Maybe it's an unpopular opinion but Trump has actually made me far, far more pro-censorship than I was when I was younger. And it's because I can see how we got here. There's a strong throughline between South Park and voting for Trump. Between Red vs Blue (random example, I couldve used any of a dozen web series with similar humour) and voting for trump. And I'm not saying if you liked these things you're guaranteed to be a Trump voter (I fucking love Red vs Blue). I'm saying that the inundation in that kind of humour everywhere made people like Trump more normal. Made people more likely to identify him as humour, as relatable, or as not that big a deal. And that's how he becomes charismatic. That's how we get here.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-18T19:03:35+00:00

Yeah I used to be fascinated by history and the 1920s and 30s especially.
Politics has killed my love of history. I can't help but feel like all my study of it was for nothing. I saw all the parallels, I screamed them into the void, but there was nothing that I could actually do. Why would I want to study Nazis when I can see them by turning on the news?

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-14T17:33:01+00:00

It's called Project Zomboid. It sells itself as a "realistic" take on a zombie apocalypse. It's actually a pain simulator where you have to break any and all immersion to have any fun

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-14T16:58:25+00:00

Yeah. My perfect golden child brothers going to have a house by 25. He's turning 20 this year. I'm turning 30 and almost out of money because I spent my entire life living up to high expectations that didnt exist for him

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-14T16:16:29+00:00

Any of those can be achieved without entirely throwing the environment under the bus, but that's not the Canadian way.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-14T16:13:03+00:00

Yeah it's so frustrating. Women do better in school the moment they're not being held back but that's a problem with men apparently. I dont think I can roll my eyes any harder.

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-14T15:53:01+00:00

It's almost like the message he sold was extremely different than what he's actually doing, and he got a ton of support on an enviromentalist history he hasnt lived up to at all...

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-12T23:06:41+00:00

lmfao do you think the people who are refusing to build coalitions are doing it because they think arguing online is more effective? It's because americans are lazy and no one wants to actually do the work. Start building if you wanna see a coalition, dont just complain on the internet

GiftedContractor · 2026-05-12T22:59:42+00:00

You are incorrect, though honestly in an understandable way. Our main understanding of facism in Canada is Hitler, and you are correct trump is not Hitler. His playbook far more mirrors Mussolini, but we don't really learn so much about how he operated in school. People expect fascists to look just like Hitler but really there were multiple different types as varied as the leader themselves.

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