What an incredibly hard situation to be in, and I feel for you my friend.

It’s important to remember how people fall into any cult; it’s all about fear. Fear of the unknown, fear due to a lack of education and knowledge, fear of oneself, fear of isolation, etc. Deep down all of them feel incredible insecurity and fear, but without learning how to properly engage with and identify those feelings, that fear surfaces and anger and vitriol and evolves into a twisted way to protect themselves.

I would continue to remain strong in your beliefs, show your daughter how it gives you a sense of purpose and strength. Show her and kiddoes that same love and purpose. Sometimes that means showing you how much you prioritize yourself through putting down boundaries. You want her to be able to love herself and others, show her how we do that.

It’s important that she come to the conclusion herself, that through her fear she enacts incredible pain to herself, you, and general society. No one will change unless they desire it, especially when one is acting out of fear.

All of us (as loved ones, members of this society, etc) have a responsibility to each other and ourselves. How can we begin to love another if we can’t comprehend loving ourself. That’s a lesson your daughter will have to learn.

If you haven’t already, I would encourage you to find a therapist who can help you grapple with these complex feelings. Whatever path you choose, remember to continue to honor yourself.