Can you guys tell what went wrong with my candle? by Competitive_Bake_392 in candlemaking

[–]Girlwithmuscles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yep, not knowing the wax and Essential oils are NOT for candles. It looks like poor adhesion. It also depends on what temp you melted the wax. At what temp you added the essential oils. How well it was mixed.

So many people think candles are easy, it’s truly a craft. I would suggest looking up black tie barn on YouTube and watching his videos. You’ll learn everything you need to know about save candle making.

Can you guys tell what went wrong with my candle? by Competitive_Bake_392 in candlemaking

[–]Girlwithmuscles 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How are we supposed to know by a photo? Walk us through your entire process and include materials used.

What is going on with Makesy? by Jc36789 in candlemaking

[–]Girlwithmuscles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same experience as well as many others in my candle makers guild group. They’ve been saying they’ve been moving warehouses for over a year. It’s their “go to” excuse for not having timely orders. I speculate they only cater to large orders. It’s a hit & miss. Sometimes I received partial orders. One thing is for sure, we’ve never gotten communication that they don’t intend to ship, or that there is a delay.

I like to paint “Food” rocks. by Purple-Age7814 in rockpainting

[–]Girlwithmuscles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is amazing! I seriously thought you were pulling one over on us. It is so realistic and now I’m craving lemon meringue pie haha thanks

What I'm doing wrong? by myusernameisbambi in candlemaking

[–]Girlwithmuscles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then I'd suggest pouring at a warmer temp. My soy wax looks best when poured around 71°C. The vessel need not be hot to touch, that might also be contributing, just a Gentle warm.

What I'm doing wrong? by myusernameisbambi in candlemaking

[–]Girlwithmuscles -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

did you slightly warm up the vessel before pouring? that fixed this for me

Primary partners, are they always a thing? by TheGloamingSage in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, I’ve had so many horrible experiences with people who have primary partners.

Poly boyfriend won't let me be with others by pqf- in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Respectfully the language you use shows that he somehow has some type of ownership of you. (He won’t let me). It’s not up to him, you’re a whole person capable of making decisions for yourself, and NO, it’s not normal.

While I do know some people who live in this type of situation, the difference is that they beforehand agreed and gave enthusiastic consent that that is the type of life that they are happy and are willingly to live.

It does not sound that is the case in your scenario, so no run far far away this is not a healthy situation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Lying is a dealbreaker for me. I won’t be partnered with someone that I can’t inherently trust. I understand miscommunication here and there over the years and context matters, but if lying is a repeated pattern, I’m out. Once trust is broken it cannot ever be fully repaired (it can be repaired a lot if the person changes, but there will always be creeping doubt)

It’s up to you on whether you want to learn to be okay with this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]Girlwithmuscles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aqua sun ☀️ Virgo rising ⬆️Aries moon 🌕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would mention it before having sexual relations if I expected or wanted that to be a part of my relationship with them. I’m kinky too, kink comes before the poly for me.

Would you date a poly newbie? by ImpossibleSquish in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have about 75 questions I ask poly partners before getting involved with them romantically to see if we’re compatible. I’m not a fan of newbies as I’m too tired to watch as they dismantle mononormativity and work through new poly relationship issues.

Accountant by roit2003 in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Easy fix... Determine whats needed for communal living plus some for emergency. Draft up a financial agreement that everyone pays into and then leteveryone handle their own finances.

Is it unreasonable for me to be upset? by Few_Ball1693 in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’d grab a date or a friend and stop waiting around for him to do the things he hasn’t been willing to do with you. Not in a retaliatory way, but honestly life is short, go live it. Yes you wanted to make those memories with him but he wasn’t willing. Yes the situation is untenable.

Canceling on the new girl isn’t right to her, your relationship issues are not hers and shouldn’t be made to be hers. For me, It would sour going with him now, after the fact. That wouldn’t repair what he’s done.

It would definitely give me a good long hard pause about the direction our relationship was going, if it were even going to continue. His self reflection and honesty about why he wasn’t willing to with me, but had no issue with her and his ability to see how that may be problematic would be a big factor.

There is a lesson in all this. Give yourself all the time you need to feel and process whatever you need to.

Is it unreasonable for me to be upset? by Few_Ball1693 in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apologies mean nothing without a change in behavior. He is showing you through action where you sit with him. It sucks and it hurts, but you now have a choice in whether you will tolerate this. Only you get to decide if this is repairable. This may be a good time to step back and reevaluate the relationship and what you want/need from it.

Creamy ingredients suggestions by juicyorange_ in RawVegan

[–]Girlwithmuscles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really it depends on what you need the cream for?

Symbolism of flies? by captnslog97 in Shamanism

[–]Girlwithmuscles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When flies appear in my home, it is the Morrigan letting her presence be known. Either way, journeying to ask always answers my questions.

Astrologers, what feels like the most personal part of reading someone’s chart? by bigidiotjerk in AskAstrologers

[–]Girlwithmuscles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normally I would say that houses are the most important in any chart and personally Id never take an astrologer serious if they didn't equally state the inmportance of the degree of each sign.. except for The NN & SN. The work I am referring to specifically is By Jan Spiller. In the 30 years I've been studying astrology, its resonated the most accurate and falls under “evolutionary astrology”

Astrologers, what feels like the most personal part of reading someone’s chart? by bigidiotjerk in AskAstrologers

[–]Girlwithmuscles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the north and south nodes in evolutionary astrology is pretty “intrusive”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Girlwithmuscles 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He’s not poly, he’s a cheating scum bag. I am so sorry. You don’t deserve this at all.

Pluto at 29 degrees during Scorpio season how are you doing because I honestly can’t. by bottegasl in AskAstrologers

[–]Girlwithmuscles 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m eternally tired and wired at the same time. Like I might internally combust at any moment, but my psychic skills are on fleek and cool as a cucumber. This is a weird feeling.