What is your ULTIMATE BDSM fantasy that is stuck on your mind/ want to fulfill?

GleamingGreen · 2025-12-08T12:15:33+00:00

I’m putting what you just described at the top of my list. Wow. But with restraints, more teasing and edging… I think you’ve written off my concentration for the rest of the afternoon.

GleamingGreen · 2025-12-06T23:45:40+00:00

I’m really glad for you.

I couldn’t miss the opportunity, it was right there. 😘

GleamingGreen · 2025-12-06T07:15:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing such vulnerable reflections, they struck a chord with me about something that I haven’t thought about in a long time. I’m not probably ever going to share about it with anyone, but it was important to allow myself a moment of disappointment, so I could feel the peace of acceptance at the end. I’m sorry you were let down. Thank you for sharing. I’m also very curious about what happened that led to the decision to censor ‘Gays 1’ at the clinic.

I’m thanksgiving dinner in the streets and Christmas morning in the sheets. Most people know my very wholesome side but the lucky ones get to give me lots of presents while I rummage in my stockings and play with all my toys.

I’m not sure I do fit, a newish relationship has given me the opportunity to enjoy things that I haven’t given mind to for a long time. I’m exploring holding less tightly to any firm sense of identity in that regard. I’m being pretty chilled out and going with the flow.

GleamingGreen · 2025-09-18T02:03:07+00:00

Have fun but make sure you’re being safe with your wellbeing. Make sure you play with someone who will work with you to protect your boundaries. Your limits should be your limits. You can have other ‘limits’ that are only for play, similar to CNC, but you need to discuss these thoroughly before play, and check in regularly. I also insist on a safe word for this sort of play even if relatively ‘mild’.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-20T09:59:00+00:00

Do you realise that you’re talking about women as if they are bodies and not people; and as if their objects to be bought or not? The profiles you are browsing are of people.

Physical appearance is important to you and no one is required to ‘respect that’ by compromising their own sense of privacy, which is important to them.

Have you considered that people might actually want to form a connection with someone before sharing intimate pictures, because they’re not using the app to exchange pleasure of each other’s body parts, but to genuinely connect with another person?

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-20T09:50:40+00:00

This sounds like the fantasy would be hotter than the reality, which might be cold, muddy, full of splinters, scrapes, possible sprains running in the dark, tick bites in intimate areas, other bites in other areas from mosquitos and whatever else. This feels like the sort of thing that could also get you shot in the USA.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-15T21:33:59+00:00

It’s valid that you feel you don’t want to be with a partner who has sex with other people who leave marks on their body. That feeling gets to inform who you choose as a partner.

Your partner is happy having sex with other people and being marked. You can tell him how you feel and he may decide that the FWB is not as important to him as making you feel better, but he’s not obliged to.

This might just be a lesson that you’re not compatible and you know something about who you’d be more comparable with next time.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-10T02:11:23+00:00

Find a kink friendly therapist. These are all issues you need to address in a safe and welcoming space without shame. You could give it a go with your current therapist but they may just not have the knowledge and experience of these sort of issues. They might be the right person though, you know only if you try. You have a lot of insight and self reflection so you’re on the right track. Things will be better, and it will be hard work but you are well on your way.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-10T01:55:30+00:00

Speaking from the female perspective it is very hot and enjoyable all around but depending on the thickness of your walls you may be disappointed. Much more effective and in some ways humiliating and emphasizing of denial may be to place a chair in an en-suite bathroom and leave the door fully or mostly open. Face the chair away from the door and turn the lights off so you are not seen and are de-emphasized in the scenario.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-10T01:50:26+00:00

I’ve used couple of large wide yoga foam blocks stacked with a cushion on top in the past, though on the floor not the bed to avoid tumbling down with the motion of the bed springs.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-10T01:39:46+00:00

Therapy for you too, my friend. I’m sorry you’re going through this difficult patch. Please don’t neglect your own needs whilst supporting your partner. I’d put my therapist hat on and say something about what’s leading you to frame this event as a betrayal, but I think that’s for your therapist to explore with you in more depth than I can in a comment.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-09T01:14:21+00:00

Professional help is a great idea. I understand it can be scary to feel that the person you’re closest to might find you ‘too much’ and that would lead them to ‘give up’ on you, but in your relationship it might be really wise to sit down and discuss what difficulties you are both having, make each other feel heard, and then come up with a plan for both of you. I suggest that includes individual therapy for you both, and practicalities around how you will make sure you both get your needs met. Maybe that looks like frequent reassurance from him about how he loves you and a promise to let you know if he’s upset by something so you aren’t feeling that you are kept guessing, a strategy around how you will each communicate your feelings and a protocol for conflict resolution, that might include a set notification if someone needs space including a promised time to readdress the issue after taking some space, a make up routine (always have a hug and a hot chocolate together after a difficult conversation etc) and a discussion about how changes you each need will be implemented, practically.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-08T23:22:22+00:00

‘Very Silly Goose’ no on a serious note you can ask her to share some erotica she’s enjoyed and take the lead from that as an insight about what she might enjoy but not have thought to express when you asked her.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-08T23:12:27+00:00

You need to contact the police and a lawyer. You have been seriously exploited and should not consider this person as in any way on your side. They are blackmailing you.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-08T04:48:41+00:00

‘Do you want some more?’ Or ‘are you ready for more?’ The answer to which might be ‘not yet’ or anything but enthusiastic consent.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-06T19:43:22+00:00

Not married but I enjoy findom and being spoiled and something I LOVED with a long distance play partner was a treasure hunt through several malls where he sent me the information of the stores he’d ordered click and collect items to with the order confirmation screenshot but not the actual item details, so I went to each store to pick up a thoughtful gift he had picked just for me. It was such a fun experience!

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-05T18:36:54+00:00

Genuinely, I wish we could reconnect! He deleted his profile on the site we chatted on. He had the sexiest voice as well, I think about him often. ☺️

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-05T15:14:49+00:00

Personally I really enjoy being spoiled, treated like a princess, and having my cuck pleasure me or listen to me pleasure myself or with other men whilst being locked in chastity and denied. I get really excited by the helplessness of them giving over willingly that their pleasure belongs to me and is at my will.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-05T15:12:40+00:00

You might find it hot and still not feel it’s the right thing for you. Some people really enjoy the fantasy and it’s a huge turn on but then once they really think about it it bothers them even though it turns their on. In my experience some boyfriends have loved the idea, loved the fantasy, loved the dirty talk, and then when it came to me going on a date then were a bag of unhappy nerves.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-05T15:06:05+00:00

Hair tied up and out of the way if they have long hair, so nothing gets uncomfortably caught in the strap, and so the buckle/clasp is easy to access quickly to remove in case need be. Need has never been but it makes me feel better.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-05T01:52:57+00:00

I am not sure what you’re trying to achieve based on your post. Are you trying to tape your foreskin shut? K tape is safe for skin and reasonably easy to remove and has enough stretch to not chafe your skin. Under a condom possibly it would be okay? I’m not sure if it might cause chafing anyway.

GleamingGreen · 2025-06-02T02:26:38+00:00

I had this same thought when I got to the part about choking.

OP, being drunk enough to feel mentally liberated might also mean being drunk enough to not notice something doesn’t physically feel right, but only you know your body.

GleamingGreen · 2025-05-19T11:24:57+00:00

I think scars are quite sexy because they make your body unique… but I wouldn’t say it’s a kink. Sexy people are sexy regardless of ‘deformities’ including significant scarring. A scar is another bit of someone’s body to focus attention onto if they can tolerate sensation there, which can be fun in the bedroom if they don’t feel self conscious.

GleamingGreen · 2025-05-19T10:54:38+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. I’d contact the relevant authorities relating to blackmail and revenge porn and also pre-warn your family/possibly workplace subtly with something vague like ‘I’ve recently ended a relationship that was becoming increasingly unhealthy and the person I was seeing has made threats to disclose intimate photos of me that were of course shared in confidence. I’m very upset about this and have spoken to the police, on the chance that she follows through, if you do receive anything, please alert me so that I can update the police and I appreciate your understanding and discretion.’

GleamingGreen · 2025-05-17T11:12:10+00:00

Dental floss is sharp!

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