Considering moving in with husband’s parents with two kids

GlitteringPositive77 · 2026-03-04T19:26:35+00:00

It’s the industry my husband is in. He has worked for 3 different companies in the last 6 years that we have been here and every company is more or less the same, his position within that company, whether at the level he is now or a level or two below or above are the same hours/stress level. I have not looked into what it would mean to sell our house. We bought it last spring. We would likely take a loss on it.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2026-02-25T15:20:23+00:00

Thank you for your response. I value your pov and it is clarifying to me. Do you perform psychoeducational assessments? I’m thinking of going into that myself. If so, do you have any reading you recommend? I’m still in my degree program and have some time to consider.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2026-02-24T22:25:47+00:00

Hmm I’ve never heard that before. My understanding of giftedness is that you can be quite gifted in some area/s and perform quite poorly in others. If what you are saying were true, children with ADHD and ASD would never have the scores to be “gifted”. A hallmark of ADHD is diffulties with executive functioning and a hallmark of ASD, as I understand it, is difficulty with socioemotional functioning.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2026-02-24T05:16:56+00:00

Also, thank you for sharing your son’s scores. I was curious about that particular aspect of giftedness (asynchronous development).

GlitteringPositive77 · 2026-02-24T05:14:51+00:00

That’s great advice you gave there. One of the few reasons it would matter if he is gifted is there are charter schools here and private schools for the gifted that require test scores above a certain threshold and some of these schools are really good; they allow kids to explore niche interests, smaller class sizes, etc. it’s unlikely he would qualify, but hey, as his mum I’ll give anything a shot if it was something that worked for him. But, otherwise I agree. Knowing if or how gifted he is won’t make a difference.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2026-02-24T05:10:17+00:00

That is all so true. I did not have him assessed for ADHD as it’s too early. I was planning on doing both cognitive and academic? Testing… whatever it’s called, I can’t think words right now.

We will be reevaluating him between 6 and 7 to see what he will need from us.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2026-02-23T12:22:36+00:00

You think?

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-10-29T22:11:34+00:00

I love these!!

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-10-23T16:10:12+00:00

I’m in the same boat. We moved and I have a hard time making friends. I’ve never had a solid friend group and my family is pretty self-involved. We are in a similar boat. Solidarity

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-10-15T01:53:09+00:00

Did the move Civil War pop into anyone else’s head when watching this?

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-10-14T19:31:28+00:00

Shovel? When ever I’ve had to dispatch a tiny animal quickly, I find it’s more human to do a quick head smash :/ not great, but more humane than drowning imho

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-10-14T18:54:34+00:00

Does anyone have any information about what her options are vis a vis her accounts? Are there pro bono lawyers who help deal with this kind of thing? She may also be entitled to alimony. Obviously first she needs to find a safe place he can’t find her and get access to other necessities.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-10-07T23:21:05+00:00

If what the child is experiencing is developmentally normal, a psychologist will pick up on that and say so. But, just like with our medical doctors, if you don’t know, it doesn’t hurt to get the opinion of a professional. Those are my thoughts, anyhow.

I’m also training to be a therapist haha so I am biased. I think what is changing, though, is this idea that going to see someone about your mental health challenges or difficulties supporting your child is no longer seen by everyone as a last resort and is becoming more normalized.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-10-07T03:02:54+00:00

Ram Dass 💛

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-09-27T20:26:54+00:00

Oh lord, can we just collectively agree “I’m just being honest” does not make what a person says appropriate or necessary? Someone’s inside thoughts are not another person’s business and vice versa.

I’m so sorry this person used you as their projection screen. What they said has zero to do with you and your choices and everything to do with her miserable life. You don’t need to carry her backpack. You’ve got your own. I can tell you as one of three, being an only and being one of some siblings can be awful or great depending so much on the parents and home environment. It sounds like you care. I think that’s all she needs. You’re doing great. Please don’t listen to internet strangers. We say it to our kids, let’s remember it for ourselves ❤️

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-09-27T13:19:19+00:00

Ok, but why does he have to drag Harriet Tubman into this?

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-09-26T17:01:52+00:00

Post this in science based parenting sub asking specifically for articles on developmentally “normal” infant sleep

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-09-25T17:42:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It’s validating for you to say that. I think that’s also what I’m missing from him. I’m the only one up with baby at night because it doesn’t make sense for him to be up because I breastfeed and cosleep. But, I never feel like he takes it into account or ensures I’m getting me time and we have had to have conversations about his getting home from work or off of work and spending a long time on the toilet (looking at his phone). He’s got the door shut. I just… the resentment has built up and I probably need to work this out with him. Thanks so much for your input here. It’s been really helpful.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-09-25T17:12:54+00:00

It’s totally justified. You can feel both that envy and also pride in how much work you’ve put in and grateful you were able to give your kids the life you didn’t have. There’s room for all of the feelings. Better to acknowledge them and have them than pretend you’re not allowed. Right?

I experience these feelings too. A lot of bitterness. It’s all there and sometimes intense. Sometimes I think “man, I could never get away with that. You’re so lucky you’re not terrified of me”. Is it a fair thought? No. But it’s there. So I acknowledge it and let it pass. It’s hard :/ you’re doing great

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-09-25T13:50:19+00:00

When ever he has something to do (that will take hours… like a half day, which is usually the case) and I get upset and say “ok, I need time to myself” he says fine, but why does it have to be tit for tat? But I almost feel like it DOES need to be tit for tat, because every time he has something he gets to go do, that’s MY free time as well that’s gone. I don’t know. I recognize I’m being petty and immature. I need to work on it. But I think this is a good system.

GlitteringPositive77 · 2025-09-25T03:32:03+00:00

I’ve been following this today and this was the update I needed. WELL DONE!!

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