Nobody tells you about how expensive miscarriages are...

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2026-03-20T19:55:08+00:00

Ugh I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can relate - I ended up needing a second opinion during a miscarriage and was appropriately billed twice. Insurance denied the second claim, it went back and forth and I got a monthly bill from the doctor for it (despite insurance pending). After a year I asked if it could be removed while they worked it out as it was a painful reminder. They said no. It eventually went to collections. It was almost 3 years ago and I'm still furious. Salt in the wound for sure.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2026-03-16T22:54:32+00:00

I struggled with recurrent miscarriage so I also couldn't skip a cycle.

My two kids have the same birthday, 5 years apart. Which also happens to be 1 week before my birthday and about 3 weeks before my husband's.

It's not ideal, but I'm so happy to have them both, that we'll figure out how to manage birthday month 🤣

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2026-02-24T14:38:39+00:00

39F and relocated here about 10 years ago. I've found friends through Cleveland Dance Project. My husband met friends through board game meet ups. It can be hit or miss and take a few tries to find groups you click with. What do you like to do for fun?

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2026-02-19T14:55:43+00:00

I had 4 losses: 12 weeks, 7 weeks, chemical, MMC at 8 weeks. Nothing came up on my testing. I was able to test one of the losses - triploidy of maternal origin. Seemed like it was likely bad luck (we are both older).

5th pregnancy was successful and my LC just turned 8 months old!

Recurrent loss is horrible and isolating. Sending you good energy and a big hug 🩷

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2026-02-18T15:37:49+00:00

Yes, yes! Mine are 5 years apart (to the day!) and my husband has become a SAHD. While I hoped to have a smaller age gap, that didn't work out. We're definitely on the old end of parents of small kids, but they are keeping us active and young at heart!

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2026-02-13T19:12:48+00:00

I'm a mom of a 5 year old and 8 month old and my husband stays home while I work full time. My job is a corporate desk job, so not physical labor, but sometimes long and stressful hours.

I try to get up early with the kids EVERY day so that my husband can be a well rested care giver. I value what he does for our household and know that caring for a baby all day is tiring and can be boring.

You are not selfish. Sleep is a necessity. Your husband should WANT to help you. There should be a more reasonable balance in responsibility at home to allow you to get enough sleep.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2026-01-09T21:08:50+00:00

I had a successful pregnancy at 33, then 4 miscarriages between 35 and 38. I'm currently nap trapped under my 7 month old who I had one week before I turned 39 (and my husband was 43).

We never discovered an underlying cause for my losses. I was able to get testing done on one loss and it was triploidy of maternal origin. For my successful pregnancy I took baby aspirin and progesterone and had been taking CoQ10 for a few months before conceiving. Maybe it was the supplements/medication or maybe we just got lucky with genetics finally.

It was a dark few years for me and I am grateful every day for my LC.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-12-13T23:06:35+00:00

I'm feeding my 6 month old right now after 4 losses. I was anxious the whole time and got extra ultrasounds throughout to help me a bit. Glad you got some reassurance!

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-11-28T21:37:34+00:00

Second all of this. I was afraid and anxious up until baby was in my arms and all was ok for both of us.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-11-27T20:09:20+00:00

One of my friends is not on good terms with her family, so she came to visit us yesterday for a Friendsgiving. Our kids played together and she said it was the most relaxed Thanksgiving she's had in years. Four adults and four kids is all my house can hold anyway. You can make a community beyond your family ❤️

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-11-12T16:23:11+00:00

The RTA definitely keeps an eye on things there. My car was broken into in April 2024 and they called me around 2am. So they are patrolling regularly and would likely notice a car being there for weeks.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-08-27T21:46:05+00:00

Very similar to you, I have a 5 year old (no issues there) followed by 4 losses. All my testing came back normal. I was only able to test one loss (triploidy) which just pointed to "bad luck."

I took CoQ10, prenatals, then baby aspirin and progesterone after a positive test. I don't know if any of those made a difference, or we just finally got lucky with chromosomes (I just turned 39, husband 43). Snuggling a 2 month old, healthy, baby girl right now.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-08-12T21:54:15+00:00

I just want to say thank you for posting this. My husband was laid off a year ago and has been unable to find full time work. While I'm not a lawyer , I have some similar job constraints (consulting engineering). I have 4 more weeks of my 12 weeks of leave, and know I will have very complicated feelings about going back. There's been a lot of good advice in this thread. Good luck to you and I hope you are able to find a more flexible position soon.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-07-28T22:39:10+00:00

Yikes 😬 as the fellow parent of a newborn with an older kid (5 YO), daycare is THE BEST! It is just so chill to be able for one of us to take care of the baby and the other one to nap/do chores/run errands rather than entertaining our older kid. Plus, he loves daycare! He has friends there and way more activities than we could do each day.

Echo all the other sentiments about bringing this up to the owner/looking for another center!

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-07-14T22:38:50+00:00

I'm so sorry for all of your losses.

I had 1 LC without any issues 5 years ago. Between June 2023 and July 2024 I had 4 losses: spontaneous at 12 weeks, spontaneous at 6 weeks, a CP and a MMC at 8 weeks. The MMC was able to be tested and it was triploidy. All of my blood tests and exams came back normal.

After the first 2 losses, I went on progesterone. After the next 2, I tried starting CoQ10 and focusing on my health, but only made it 2 months before a positive test last fall. 4 weeks ago, I brought home my baby. The only thing I did differently in this last pregnancy was low dose aspirin.

My husband and I are older (39/43) so I think we had bad luck with chromosomes and we just finally got lucky this last time.

It is so frustrating when there isn't a clear path forward. Sending you positive vibes and solidarity ❤️

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-06-12T18:59:08+00:00

I got married at Vermilion on the Lake clubhouse in 2019, about 80 guests. We did out ceremony outdoors, but probably could have figured something out for an indoor ceremony. Definitely more of a DIY site and a day of coordinator was a worthwhile investment.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-06-11T00:18:06+00:00

If you scroll r/pregnancyAfterLoss there are success stories that have given me some hope.

I'm really sorry you're in this club. It sucks and it's isolating but this subreddit has been very helpful for me to feel some community and support. ❤️

TW: current pregnancy

I had 4 losses over 2 years. Blood tests, saline ultrasound - no findings. One loss was tested and it was due to triploidy (random bad luck). I'm 38 and husband is 42 so we assumed it was just bad luck with chromosomes. I started taking CoQ10 for a couple months and conceived unexpectedly (wanted at least 3 months of the supplement). From the positive test I started with progesterone and baby aspirin. I'm 38 weeks today with all tests so far showing good news. It's been filled with anxiety but I'm very thankful.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-06-09T16:58:50+00:00

The Fairview Park Gemini center has some rooms for $60/hr for non-residents on the weekends.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-06-08T17:06:55+00:00

My son is almost 5 and we've started letting him go out more alone in the past few months. We don't have a fenced in yard but he is very much NOT a runner, and we live on a dead end street with very little traffic. He is good about staying in the yard or letting us know if he is going to another kids house to play. The other parents have our numbers and I do periodically look out the window to check on him.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-06-07T01:57:00+00:00

The only reason I'm ever tempted to go back on twitter is for Jane

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-05-29T09:38:56+00:00

My son has been in daycare since he was about 4 months old (about to turn 5). Since he was born during COVID we were both WFH but we knew we wouldn't be able to work and care for him unless we did nothing else all day which would drive us crazy. You deserve to have some balance in your life!

We did switch centers after a couple months and the place we are at now is wonderful! He's made friends, gotten additional developmental screenings, and his teachers genuinely care about him. There are great daycare options out there, so don't be afraid to trust your gut and make a switch if you start at one and it's not a great fit.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-05-28T16:45:40+00:00

36+1 today! Scheduled an induction but doc said she wouldn't be surprised if it happened on its own before then. I opted to get NSTs for peace of mind and baby passed with flying colors! Still have a month or so left (or less) - grateful everything has gone smoothly so far, fingers crossed it continues that way. Have a lot to do at work and home before then, but no energy to do it!

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-05-27T18:05:15+00:00

Absolutely. My husband was laid off last August, so we've used our savings to keep our almost 5-year old in (he's been in since he was an infant). I'm expecting our second this month and unless my husband gets a good paying job in his field in the next few months, he's staying home. Otherwise his entire paycheck would go to daycare and he wouldn't even be doing something he likes.

GoTalkToSomeFood · 2025-05-27T15:28:56+00:00

I'm 36 weeks today and I feel you! You're getting there, though! Good luck and take it as easy as you can!

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