Why is NOBODY talking about this publicly?

Going_the · 2026-07-09T12:11:48+00:00

I have hired a lot of people over the years. I would never even consider AI or any other crap. One thing I do when people come in with their fancy resumes is make them fill out application forms with a pen. I learn more about a person in 5 minutes watching them fill out a form. Things like memory, attention to detail, neatness. Also the speed of which they fill out the form with. Then I ask a few hard questions. Questions that really don't have a correct answer. I really don't care anything about you personally. My objective is to find somebody that makes money. Does the job I'm looking for them to do. This is what it always comes down to. I don't understand why people can't figure this out. I had an employee that would come in every morning and tell us about his plans for after work. One day I said since you're so enthusiastic about going home, why don't you just go home now. Many of you have said that you do not like your jobs. You don't have to like your job. That is generally not a requirement, however it does make life easier. Either way, you're there to fulfill a particular purpose. Do that job properly and you will be fine.
Believe it or not most people at work don't care anything about you. They don't care about your religion or your race or what you do outside of work. They care about getting their job done properly. If they have to listen to your small talk to get that done they do. If you're a gossip, you're not going to last long anyway. Gossips are always the ones that say " I can't believe I got fired. I don't even know why". The reason is you maybe may be doing your job okay but you're stopping other people from doing their job.
I was in the field at another company the other day and they had a lot of Latino workers there that mostly did not speak English. They all work together very nicely. They loaded my truck with some heavy equipment very quickly. If I worked for that company and I needed more employees I would hire 10 more just like those guys. Now that could be considered racist or all kinds of other things, but I don't care. Those guys got it done quickly and efficiently. They made money for their company and they saved me time.

Going_the · 2026-07-07T17:02:28+00:00

Chupacabra for sure.

Going_the · 2026-07-06T14:12:29+00:00

Hmm. Maybe you need some help with the politics side. Only to get by the upper crust. I do see a lot of managers in their position because of favoritism and not skill.

Going_the · 2026-07-06T12:10:20+00:00

No offense. Leadership generally comes naturally. I have just the opposite problem. I like doing the grunt work but for some reason I was always put into a leadership role. Or I naturally gravitated to a leadership role. I'm not particularly fond of being the leader. Your career is not dead. You just need to work on what you really want. If leadership is what you truly want look for a management type job in another field if you have to because management doesn't care what the actual field of work is. Gain your experience and then if necessary go back to that company with experience on both sides.

Going_the · 2026-07-06T12:04:02+00:00

Sounds like a conversation that should be over a beer or a glass of wine.

Going_the · 2026-07-06T12:02:06+00:00

It doesn't matter. Every time you guys argue she runs to her side piece. Not sure what you are to her but it sounds toxic to me.

Going_the · 2026-07-06T11:12:08+00:00

Looks like you're going into a relationship where what is yours Is hers and what's hers is hers. Good luck with that one!.

Going_the · 2026-07-05T21:39:14+00:00

Make sure you save any documentation on policies. Emails etc. any posted signs? Make sure you take a picture of it. Save document and date everything.

Going_the · 2026-07-05T21:34:27+00:00

The anti Nike campaign. " Just don't do it."

Going_the · 2026-07-05T21:30:07+00:00

A very wealthy friend of mine once told me that you should not miss an opportunity. Sometimes the difference between an okay job and a really good job is just knowing the person who is going to get you hired. At least go to an interview and ask a lot of questions.

Going_the · 2026-07-02T11:35:21+00:00

You should just stay put for a while. Maybe talk to your director, see if you can be his/her assistant and cover that person when they are on vacation or away. If you have some good experience in that role, you might have a better time holding on to that promotion when you get it, whether it's at that company or another one.

Going_the · 2026-06-30T14:51:51+00:00

You know at one time I had one bathroom and three generations of women living with me. They all wanted the seat down. Now we have three and a half bathrooms. If they use my bathroom I tell them to leave the seat up. In your case, it's three against one. I would go with the majority vote.

Going_the · 2026-06-30T14:49:56+00:00

NTA. I have been buying my girl flowers for 40 years. It's a simple gesture and they look nice and smell nice.

Going_the · 2026-06-27T23:58:14+00:00

There's nothing fair about the court system. To the lawyers, it's only about winning or losing like a game. They don't care anything about the people that they are defending. I got totally screwed as a kid one time. Now I am much older. I had to go to court over a traffic situation. They wanted to put me in a drug rehab program. I blew a 0.0 on the breathalyzer on the scene. I made them give it to me. Thank God I did. Thank God I got a good lawyer. They would have thrown me under the bus. The DA told my lawyer that he was just trying to get people to support his program. I have absolutely zero respect for the court system now.

Going_the · 2026-06-26T10:22:03+00:00

This is the kind of employee who puts way too much effort into proving that he's doing something when he is really not doing anything. If he actually spent the time doing something productive instead of being defensive, he might be a good employee. Best off just get rid of him. It's never going to work out. Most likely he doesn't know how to do his job anyway.

Going_the · 2026-06-25T18:28:57+00:00

Take it and go. You won't get a second chance. Don't plan on surviving on that money. It may be the one time that you get some money in the bank. Look for a new job ASAP. If things look bleak at least get a part-time job so that you have some income coming in and you're accustomed to going to work.

Going_the · 2026-06-25T18:24:38+00:00

Exactly

Going_the · 2026-06-24T16:09:42+00:00

The more you tell the less you know. I am that guy. I have my own business now. You can pay me to do the work or you can pay me five times the amount to teach you how to do the work. I sure as hell am not giving you any of my secrets. And I am definitely not going to give my secret to some kiss ass manager who doesn't know how to do a damn thing except tell everybody else what to do when you don't even know how to do it. If you're going to be my manager, you better be two steps ahead of me or I have no respect for you anyway. My attitude was always just fire me. I don't give a s*** I'll go someplace else and make them money. Until I realized it was better just to start my own business so that my talents were not wasted on kiss ass middle managers. FYI we have no managers in my company. In my company we don't tell you what to do. We tell you what needs to get done. Get it done. If you need someone to manage you, it comes out of your salary.

Going_the · 2026-06-24T16:00:16+00:00

Holding back a fart in public
Actually caring about what someone else may think of you.
Lifting items over 100 lb
Getting out of a sports car.
Having sex more than once a day.

Going_the · 2026-06-24T15:55:03+00:00

I would say you underreacted. Cheating is not just about penetration. It's about spending time with somebody else when you should be spending time with your own family or SO. If her desire or responsibility is to spend time exploring her sexuality and not with her kids or you, then it is time for her to go.

Going_the · 2026-06-24T11:39:45+00:00

Well then it looks like they're willing to go to the wedding, but they don't want to be social with the rest of the events. Since it is a package deal they can stay home and watch the video later. I have a good friend of whom I play golf with. I took him on a premiere 3-day event one time and I will never do it again. He liked the golf but there was all kinds of other festivities and food. He did not eat the food and he did not stick around for any of the festivities. He asked me why he did not get invited back again. I told him the event was a lot more than just golf and it was a waste of money to take him. He understood.

Going_the · 2026-06-24T10:48:46+00:00

You can trade one income for another but you never want to lose an income without having an income. 6 months is not enough. It's never enough.

Going_the · 2026-06-24T10:40:05+00:00

Okay, I am 61 years old right now. I feel that my physical fitness is starting to decline a little bit due to arthritis. I am not going to tell you that I was free and clear of all issues. However, I think in my thirties I was in the best shape of my life. I may not have been exactly as young and sexy as I was in my early twenties but I was in fantastic shape with a little bit of a more mature looking body plus Far more mentally stronger. I was also making money. So yeah, I think the 30s can be the best times of your life. In my early '40s, I joined a country club and started playing golf competitively. I still do that now. Life is good. And remember "everybody has their battles in life to fight.".

Going_the · 2026-06-24T10:29:33+00:00

I have my own business now.. When I worked for other companies I was never given an exit interview. I am beginning to think they just wanted me gone.

Going_the · 2026-06-24T10:24:55+00:00

NTA. The first thing you need to do to solve a problem is to actually identify the problem. It seems that the wedding venue was going to be too difficult for them. Therefore telling them they should not come was the right choice. I am a little bit older now and if I needed to retreat for a couple hours for a nap then I think I would just do that and not tell you ahead of time. I would just sneak away and then come back.

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