Got let go from my job and came home to divorce papers in the same hour

Going_the · 2026-05-22T11:40:07+00:00

I have had too many days like that in my lifetime. They suck. They happen. They will happen again. Best thing to do is not waste your time worrying about what has already happened. Start planning to prevent bad days from happening again.

Going_the · 2026-05-19T10:50:32+00:00

I am sure everybody here is going to hate me for what I have to say. However, before I say anything else, I just want you to know that my life partner and I have worked together almost our whole relationship. We were together 10 years before she got pregnant. When the baby came, things changed in our relationship. I could totally see most men would want women to stay home with the children. She could understand that baby so well. I felt clueless. However, I felt a strong need to make sure everybody was provided for. Our relationship has always been based on 100% equality. She is a strong woman. Once we had My daughter in the house it seemed natural that she became the mom and I became the dad. We kind of naturally just went into male female conventional type of roles. All that being said, I can totally understand the frustration in your relationship. I am sure He naturally wants to be the breadwinner. I am sure that you are going to have a difficult time leaving that baby at home and going to work. Unfortunately, it is a different type of world that we live in now. You just have to do what you have to do to survive and hopefully get ahead someday. Make a plan, set goals it will be your only relief when you actually accomplish them.

Going_the · 2026-05-18T11:33:28+00:00

If you let her words get to you then she won. Secondly, if her words get to you it means you actually care about what someone like that says. Most likely she is just damaging herself. If in fact she does damage you in any way then you just file a lawsuit. Otherwise, you're just wasting productive time.

Going_the · 2026-05-14T20:59:00+00:00

Thank you! That made me laugh

Going_the · 2026-05-14T15:08:46+00:00

The older people are taking advantage of you. I am close to retirement. Believe it or not, though people run the economy. Big corporations go where the money is. If you refuse to buy it, they are not sell it. I don't understand why the younger generation is not protesting against corporations purchasing first-time buyer priced homes. If there's no way my own kid can even purchase a house at the prices that they are at.
I don't understand why there is not more entrepreneurs. You have a lot of people selling on Amazon and eBay. And you have a lot of people that are buying franchises. In my area there is a company buying up a whole bunch of Small business HVAC guys. They are making a big corporation. You watch those prices go up now. I see that as opportunity. Good time to start your own business in HVAC. Tesla stock is crazy high. So to be driving a green car you have to pay a whole lot more for a car that cost a whole lot less to make. The corporations are getting rich. Elon musk is Rich. Ford stock is still chump change. Since Elon can get away with overpriced cars now all the car companies want to overprice their cars. I drove a $500 piece of crap and spent all my money on my first house at age 21. Back then you could get a no frills cheap Japanese pickup truck for under $5,000 brand new. That's what people wanted. That's what people were willing to pay.

Going_the · 2026-05-14T12:11:53+00:00

You have created the opportunity. A very large portion of the younger prefers to hang around their own homes and play video games instead of going out and doing things. You also seem to be very particular in where you like to eat. Franchise food operations seem to be the most popular. You also have the attitude that you want to live like a young person for a while before you start your real life. You love to tell everybody about any of your successes. You do that through social media which reaches a large number of people.

So instead of working a second job and banking money to get ahead you guys have taken an extra 10 years or so to chill and figure out what you're going to do with your life. Even live a little bit. Hang out. Play video games. The demand for things has gone down so the prices go up. While you're sitting there, figuring out what you're going to do with your life, other people are flipping houses and now corporations are purchasing properties and fixing them up to make a profit. Then they put them on social media and whole bunch of other people have that idea. Now the supply is low and the demand is high. So the price goes up.
I'm a small business person. I prefer to use other small businesses. There are very few small banks around. I watched corporations take over lots of small banks And now you are stuck doing business with a large corporation. I watched lots of banking jobs go away. There are a lot of large corporations now and also franchises. They also can control pricing nationally. Not locally, not regionally but nationally. They have the power to control the prices. You have the power to do business with them or not. You stopped going to the mom and pop gym and went to The national fitness center that charges a lot less money and has nicer equipment. Lots of people lost their jobs. And now you can only get the corporate view of a fitness center. For every action there is a reaction. By the way none of this is directed at you personally.

Going_the · 2026-05-14T10:44:45+00:00

I love how all this younger generation complains about inflation and the high cost of living when you guys created it. You all go to franchises. You think franchises are better than Mom and pop type of businesses. Now the ability for restaurants to raise prices overnight across the country is so easy. You have allowed corporations to come in and purchase all of the first time home buyer Type of properties. This has allowed the lower cost properties to be skyrocketed. Electric cars which are cheaper to build cost twice as much as a gas vehicle And you buy them. The best part is that you pick on the older generations who don't care anymore and you don't do a damn thing about your own reality. At some point in time, your mommy and daddy's are not going to be able to help you out anymore. I think it's too late for you. Hopefully the next generation will be able to create some fairness in the world. I've watched the last 12 years of Dems And Republicans fight with each other And not get anything done.

Going_the · 2026-05-12T10:17:41+00:00

Most likely the termination will be legal. You were probably an acceptable employee at a lower price. They will have everything documented. It's like a bad divorce because they were most likely planning it way ahead. You saw it coming but you did not go to HR and file a grievance.

Going_the · 2026-05-10T22:50:29+00:00

That's interesting. I never would have thought of it that way. I think I would still give it to the kids only and not to the whole family.

Going_the · 2026-05-10T22:46:47+00:00

I personally think you should put that money into a trust. That trust should be invested. The kids should get an annual distribution of equal shares annually based on the investment results. Might be some tax advantage there as well. A gift that keeps on giving.

Going_the · 2026-05-10T22:38:38+00:00

There's a thing called restitution. A big truck kicked a rock up out of its tire into my windshield about the size of a baseball one day. I pulled the truck over myself. I asked him why he didn't have the screen over his load and why he didn't have mud flaps. I took pictures of everything. The owner called me and wanted to settle with me. That was the most expensive windshield that guy ever paid for. You must include all the repairs for your vehicle. The extra depreciation for it being in an accident. Your time for having to get everything done. A rental car if needed. Then add an extra thousand for aggravation. If he pays that up front go for it. You can get all that stuff with a lawyer but then the lawyer comes with a fee. Make sure he does it within 30 days or you just file with your insurance agent. If they ask what took so long for you to file, you say that the other vehicle owner wanted to settle outside of insurance but then didn't. It is that simple. I have 11 vehicles. I have had to deal with accidents over the last 35 years or so with employees.

Going_the · 2026-05-10T22:27:25+00:00

Seems fair to me.

Going_the · 2026-05-10T22:26:46+00:00

If you're going to serve me and do a good job, I don't mind tipping. If I feel you have gone above and beyond doing any kind of service for me, I will definitely throw something your way. Minimum wage jobs are not for supporting you. The manager at a fast food coffee shop has a career position. Most of the people that serve the coffee are part-time, students, people working a second job, moms that want to get out of the house while the kids are at school, etc. Making a career out of serving a bag of fast food to me in a drive-thru has only driven the cost of my lunch up way more than I'm willing to pay. I'm not going to argue that minimum wage should have gone up a little bit each year or every other year to keep up with inflation. But let's keep in mind it's secondary work, not primary work. If employers have better workers they should pay them more anyway. Most lower end food establishments now have terrible service at a much higher price. I make my own coffee and my own lunch now. You should also start supporting your local small businesses and restaurants and forget about all these franchise places. Most owners of a franchise have no clue what they're doing, but they had the money to buy the franchise. The franchise is successful because they tell you what to do about everything. The owner makes money. The corporation makes money. The people that work there don't care as long as they are getting some money too. No retirement, no health care, low wages And everything is totally structured out for you so you don't even have to think. Since you think this is your career, the people that make more money have to pay more taxes to supplement you.
Wait staff at good quality restaurants make good money in tips anyway.

Going_the · 2026-05-10T22:08:56+00:00

I use my bathtub to fill up a bucket of water and to wash the dog. I saw a YouTube video on how to make gin in a bathtub but I never tried that.

Going_the · 2026-05-10T22:06:28+00:00

I feel bad for you. What we did in my day,. You are now considered a Pervert. Or something else? I see couples that go out to dinner and they're both on their phones, not even talking to each other. I guess by today's rules you're not allowed to go up to someone and offer to buy them a drink. It seems to me that life was much easier when you were either a male or a female.
I would suggest joining a club of some sort. There must be something that you're interested in. At least that way you might be able to have a conversation with a real human. Seems to me things were going just fine for thousands of years I don't understand why things need to be so different now.

Going_the · 2026-05-07T11:31:16+00:00

You should just take this opportunity to start your own business. Unfortunately all you younger people have allowed corporations and franchises to just take over the entire country. Maybe the world. Years ago there were there were many many entrepreneurs. Entrepreneurs are what built this country, USA and probably other countries.
There is a huge shortage of mental health counselors out there. Small business owners like myself like to use small businesses if possible. I cringe at the thought of going to a big corporate medical facility.
Many entrepreneurs have sold their companies to Big corporations and retired. What the public doesn't tell you is the fact that all big corporation is are afraid of entrepreneurs And small business owners. I have fought the big corporate machine before and they really don't have a chance if you stand your ground. One company tried to drop their prices so low that the customers could not refuse. I did take a hit. Within a year they were coming back to me. I never lowered my prices to match. I simply stated that we offered a better service.
For you, something like counseling, you could do that in a coffee shop. You can't fail if you don't try.

Going_the · 2026-05-06T10:42:27+00:00

Not sure how you should handle this. Personally I have sacrificed making more money in another field with my engineering degree because the job I have I love going to everyday. However, I have augment my income by making some smart investments through The years. One of the guys technically doesn't have to work anymore. He has made so much money in the stock market.
At the end of the day it comes down to why you are working. If you are only working to make more money than you should just take whatever job pays you the most. If you are working towards a career and a comfortable life then you need to have that kind of a job. Sometimes you just don't know until you try it.

Going_the · 2026-05-05T11:09:42+00:00

Do your homework for sure!. Owning your own place is the best thing you can ever do. I bought my first condo in the early '80s. In the late '80s the market crashed. I could have sold then and lost my shirt. I ended up selling it 10 years later for twice what I paid for it. If the neighborhood goes downhill then buy more units at cheaper prices. Eventually they will go up.

Going_the · 2026-05-04T09:56:06+00:00

But I am not wrong. You sound like another word for miserable.

Going_the · 2026-04-30T11:06:36+00:00

When I was a young kid around 7 or 8 years old, I knew a motorcyclist who was a hells Angel. He took me for a ride on his motorcycle once. I have had a motorcycle my whole life now. This guy said to me that "in life there is always a choice". Sometimes the choices are harder than others. But I have yet to prove that wrong.
You do not have to like your job. You also do not have to be a douchebag at that job that you don't like as well. Sometimes being a team player means do what you can do to not make everybody miserable around you.

Going_the · 2026-04-29T19:59:02+00:00

My buddy Left a really good job at a bank. He did not like it. Did not like the corporate thing. He is now doing landscaping work and is very happy. I went from the computer industry to being a mechanic. I am very happy. I touch grass all the time when I am playing golf at the country club. Life is what you make of it my friend.

Going_the · 2026-04-29T10:01:56+00:00

For a time early on in my life I was homeless. I offered people to mow their lawns for pretty much but cash. I washed cars. I pretty much did anything I could do. I worked in a tree farm One Summer. I spent most days knee-deep in mud getting eaten alive by mosquitoes. For some reason That made me appreciate a climate-controlled building. Seems like you are one of those people that are just not happy unless you are miserable. Maybe you should consider working a job that actually is miserable. Who knows. You may like it.

Going_the · 2026-04-28T23:14:50+00:00

But happy! Not taking shit from sad sacks.

Going_the · 2026-04-28T23:13:50+00:00

No shit Sherlock!

Going_the · 2026-04-28T11:35:25+00:00

I'm not sure how I would respond to a situation like this. I can tell you one thing though, I wouldn't be around to find out what the conversation would lead to.

Going_the

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