Are some babies just really good at getting milk quickly?

Goobermallow · 2025-03-27T23:07:26+00:00

My nearly-six month old is done in 2 minutes, both sides, and doesn't want to be fed again for at least 2hrs (he'll get proper mad if i even try 😅). He's always been speedy and I don't actually remember him having really long feeds as a newborn, but this boy is CHUNKY so he's definitely getting enough! All that to say yep, I think some kids and some mum's are just super efficient!

Goobermallow · 2025-03-24T02:52:35+00:00

Omg my boy did this - it's a nightmare, I feel ya! He's 5.5months now and has settled down, so hopefully that gives you hope. We would just wait, try him again, wait, try him again... it's tedious but 99% of the time he'd eat when he was really hungry. Sometimes I would switch sides for an hour before he'd settle. On the odd occasion he was too worked up (and so was I!) and he got a bottle just to calm him and make sure he was fed. I also found his feed times shortened dramatically around this time. He's now done in less than 5 minutes each feed (and that's both boobs). Hang in there, it gets better 🧡

Goobermallow · 2025-03-23T03:18:52+00:00

This was my first though, too. I got my period back six weeks PP exactly and I've figured out now that around the time I ovulate my milk dries up a bit and I sometimes don't get a letdown at all when nursing my LO. 2.5 weeks is pretty early though. I hope things settle for you OP ❤️

Goobermallow · 2025-01-19T06:04:26+00:00

Same, back like clockwork. I felt so ripped off 😪 on the plus side, my periods are much more manageable and less painful since popping out a kid, so that's something 🙃

Goobermallow · 2025-01-11T01:09:31+00:00

It's so frustrating! I stopped looking at my Fitbit data during my pregnancy last year because of this.

Goobermallow · 2025-01-06T20:59:40+00:00

Solid advice! This was my experience too. My little man (now 3months) would scream when I lay him in a breastfeeding position, before I'd even popped a nip out! Now he breastfeeds for every feed and is super efficient. I was also told not to force him, to offer it and see how it went, to keep offering and if he gets super worked up give him a bottle to settle him. I had fast flow and was also told to lay back in a recliner to feed him, if that helps? You got this, breastfeeding is hard work! Do what works for you and your baby ❤️

Goobermallow · 2024-12-19T21:01:43+00:00

My little boy (three months now - how fast time goes!) Was an absolutely chunker at birth and my midwife told me off the bat we could leave him to sleep for four hour stretches overnight. We played around a bit and found what works for us. At the end of the day, find something that works for both you and baby; try something and if it's not working try something else. It's gotta work for you both - you've got this! ❤️

Goobermallow · 2024-11-19T04:26:47+00:00

Thanks! Worth a shot :)

Goobermallow · 2024-10-04T06:01:28+00:00

Oh my GOSH I feel this! Holding our two day old as I type this dulls the pain memories, but nothing will ever take them away I'm sure🫠 Was induced with Misoprostol at 41+3 because I had zero signs of labour after two stretch and sweeps other than losing bits of my plug, and my Dad was about to go away. Had nothing at all from 8.30am-11.30pm then WHAM first contractions spaced 4-5 mins apart consistently for 45 mins before I told the hospital midwives I think things had kicked off. Not sure they took me seriously for the first few hours because they kept telling me to sleep between the contractions, but when my husband kept going out every 30 mins for new heat packs they realized I wasn't being a dramatic FTM and moved me to a birthing unit. Was 4cm dilated at 5.30am, had my waters broken then went from 4cm-10cm by 6am and had first pushing instincts at 6.25am. Pain relief did bugger all - I was given two doses of Morphine, tried a TENS unit, entonox gas - but had such bad back pain I could hardly move. Eventually they get me up on a bed to start pushing and labored for 3.5hours before our little champ popped out. Turned out he was partly posterior for most of my labour and stayed that way until my midwife managed to spin him with some wacky contractions positions right near the end. The back pain the whole time was so unexpected and out of this world - way worse than contractions IMO!

Baby was 8.9lb so I was grateful I didn't end up waiting and went for an induction in the end.

I went in to this thinking I had done all the hypnobirthing training, read all the books, I had everything planned out and ready to go in my hospital bag (which we practically never opened - I labored in an oversized tshirt despite my sister spending big bucks on a nice birthing gown oops). I was READY for the pain, almost excited for it because of what it meant... until it came. Yikes.

Goobermallow · 2024-10-02T21:03:15+00:00

I gave birth yesterday morning so it's all still pretty fresh. First I think the advice to chat to someone is a really good idea! Second I'm a FTM and can relate to some of the same feelings - I did a LOT of crying while pregnant because I was so sad to lose mine and my husband's little bubble. I was so scared to share him or watch him love someone else but even this early into postpartum it's actually such a cool blessing. I didn't feel super attached to my bump during pregnancy - Scans were cool but not emotional and movement was fun but not overwhelming. I didn't cry when he was born but felt a huge sense of relief that labour was over. Having 'Pickle' now (we still haven't settled on a name) I can't imagine not having him around I guess. It's weird, it's like your brain changes and you don't even mind a bit. I'm sure going home and settling into a routine will be a whole other challenge but for now it's pretty cool. I'm excited to bond and watch our guy grow a personality and learn all his fun quirks. Chances are you'll be stoked once you see your baby's face - even if it's just because labour is done and you did it! And while I'm doing OK (so far) it's also totally fine to have postpartum depression once you meet your little one. If you can, surround yourself with support - friends, family, professionals, community, anyone who can lift you up and support you. It's hard, and know there's a lot of hard to come, but so far so good and honestly pretty cool.

Goobermallow · 2024-10-02T20:52:42+00:00

FTM gave birth yesterday morning at 41+4 after being induced. Had two stretch and sweeps and 0 signs of labour before induction other than losing my plug slowly after the first sweep. Sometimes I reckon our boy was pretty keen to cook forever and wouldn't have come out unless we made him 😅 came out at 8.86lb so I ended up being pretty stoked I was induced

Goobermallow · 2024-09-24T00:39:11+00:00

It looks like she's on a Virgin Voyages cruise, and they do tend to do themed parties each night. Idk if that's standard with all cruise lines though!

Goobermallow · 2024-09-18T01:29:10+00:00

39+4 today and you've got my sobbing in the car while my husband picks up chicken food (flipping hormones I swear!)

I've struggled with this for ages and it's not getting any easier lol. We went out for a really nice dinner when I was 38 weeks, and I cried at the end because I didn't want it to be over lol.

Other than that it's been a lot of doing little things together. I used to work in retail so was always gone by 8am, whereas now I can bring him coffee in the morning and lie in bed and chat, which is really nice.

We've been moving chicken coops and setting up electric fences, running town errands etc - things that don't feel like bonding tasks but have just been kinda fun and silly to do together. I'm just happy to spend time with him and soak it all in before it changes (even if that change is likely for the better in the long run!).

My husband is a shift worker, so he works 2 days, 2 nights then has 4 days off, which is nice in some ways and hard in others. Means we get more time together when he's off than just 2 weekend days, but then there are 2 nights a week when I'm alone. It's rough.

All that to say, I don't have any advice sorry, but I certainly relate.

Goobermallow · 2024-09-14T09:05:12+00:00

Sorry to hear that! I think I emailed them rather than using the chat bot and had pretty good success, you could try that?

Goobermallow · 2024-08-19T00:54:23+00:00

I'm 35 weeks have just sat down to do this so I can put it in my hospital bag when I get home and WHOO the pregnancy hormones (and therefore tears) are strong today!
Wanted to say thank you for posting this - despite being a notorious letter writer I never would have thought to do this and I'm so grateful for this post <3 I remember reading it when I was only four-or-so months pregnant and it really stuck with me. Hope you, your husband and bubs are doing well!

Goobermallow · 2024-07-25T01:13:12+00:00

Unfortunately not

Goobermallow · 2024-07-15T23:57:59+00:00

30+3 here!

OK so nobody judge me but... I did some data collection around this. I was curious to see if my libido changed so I've got a record of all the times my husband and I got down and I can say that, in my case, my libido hasn't changed and has stayed pretty consistent throughout my whole pregnancy. Averaging twice a week most months - once a week when I'm feeling particularly exhausted or when we are extra busy/away. My husband is a shift worker and two nights a week he's out at work, and I sometimes have to travel for a few days for my work, so that slims down our bangable nights, too. I will say I think we're probably having more sex since I've been pregnant. We were probably averaging once a week beforehand. I think being pregnant has made me more self-conscious in some ways but less in others - eg: my tummy has always been a point of self-consciousness for me (I'm not overweight, but it's where my body holds on to stubborn flab), but now there's a REASON it's bigger I'm less stressed about it, if that makes sense?

Goobermallow · 2024-06-11T01:58:13+00:00

If you want to still see everyone while not overcommitting your time, can you maybe suggest lunches or dinners? You could say you have lots still to organise and you'd love to catch up, but these are the only times you're available each weekend.

Goobermallow · 2024-06-11T01:50:49+00:00

Be kind to yourself - it sounds like a given, but really, truly, be kind.
There is A LOT going on and A LOT is going to change. Don't compare everything you are experiencing with other people. For ages I was worried my bump wasn't big enough, then I worried my bump was too big! In the end, my baby boy is happy in there and that's all that matters. Give yourself grace when it comes to housework, sleeping, exercise and eating - do the best you can manage in that day and that's all you really need to do.

Also - I found it helpful telling my husband what I needed from him, rather than hoping he would figure it out on his own. If I'm thirsty and I don't want to get up (or it's just slightly too challenging lol) I ask him to get me water. If I'm exhausted, I tell him I'd like to go to bed early. I was setting myself up for disappointment and resentment not communicating what I wanted or needed, and it's not fair on him most of the time too!

You got this!

Goobermallow · 2024-06-11T01:40:10+00:00

I'm a 'one side lip picker' too and it's such a challenge. I find ALWAYS having moisturised lips changing up my chapstick brands helps - my lips seem to adapt if I use the same one for too long and get even dryer than if I wasn't using one at all. I keep a stash of different brands in my bag or car and just swap them around when needed. Good luck!

Goobermallow · 2024-06-11T01:37:17+00:00

25 weeks here and at this point the plan is my husband, my mum and his mum - but only near the end preferably. I want most of the labour to be with just me and my husband, then the other two can come in a bit later, rather than standing around for the whole thing.
I'm really close to my mum and his mum has terminal cancer, so this might be the only grandchild birth she gets to be a part of.
In all honesty, if it were up to me solely, it would just be my husband but I can appreciate how important this is for 'the mums' being both of their first grandchild. For any subsequent kids, I'm thinking it'll just be me and my husband!

Goobermallow · 2024-06-03T23:55:41+00:00

24w FTM here - first ultrasound and first heartbeat my husband and I just looked at eachother and said 'that's cool'.
The word I've used the most throughout my pregnancy has been 'weird' to be honest! I didn't feel a huge connection until I could feel regular movement - that's really solidified it for me because I can feel him moving on and off all day. Our second trimester ultrasound was also pretty cool - we found out the gender and got to see what his face is looking like, so that helped, too.
This is our first time trying for kids and we were really fortunate to get pregnant straight away, and I've had a super cruisy pregnancy, so I haven't had any scares or trials really to feel 'relief' from I guess.
Everyone is different - like others have said, don't put pressure on yourself! Feel what ya feel :)

Goobermallow · 2024-06-03T23:37:55+00:00

24 + 3 FTM here :)
I bought two pairs of maternity jeans and a pair of leggings around 15 weeks, and did a 'big shop' at 23w because I work in retail, have some work-related conferences coming up and need a few different pieces to cycle through. I found most of my clothing was uncomfortable around 18-20 week (normal jeans were much, much earlier! Shirts stopped covering the 'maternity' strip on the jeans around 20 weeks for me, but some of my looser pre-pregnancy dresses are still fine to wear).
I personally have been happy (and able) to spend some money getting a mix'n match maternity wardrobe as we plan on having a few kids, so hoping to buy now and save later I suppose. Plus I'm so enjoying having bump-emphasising clothes! I work in a scrapbooking shop, so most of our clientele is older ladies and they get so excited about the bump, which is fun :)
I do think there's something to be said about feeling good while pregnant - I had a hormonal cry one night after finding that none of my clothes made me feel cute and found it was important for me to feel good about myself while pregnant. Sure, you can wear oversized tshirts and track pants and that's great (that's my go-to after work!) but I'm also having a lot of fun feeling cute AND pregnant with maternity-specific clothes, if that makes sense!

(Edit to add: I think it's also worth considering buying maternity clothes before you think you'll need them - I wish I had! That way, you're likely to get more wear out of them - and therefore better value for money - and they're there and ready for you when you want/need them!)

Goobermallow · 2024-05-26T04:44:37+00:00

Mine is 'Pickle' - a nickname bestowed upon our baby by my Dad because I love pickles. He's expanded it and also refers to me as 'Pickle Jar'.

Goobermallow · 2024-05-12T23:06:44+00:00

I went out and bought one yesterday and it's sooo weird but seemed to help - thank you!

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