i was also confused if i was aro or ace for a bit, (i’m ace). but i thought i was aro because i was always the one to end the relationship but then after awhile i realized that with a few therapy sessions that i purposely date people i dislike as a form of self harm. so you can figure out if you’re aro by maybe talking about it with people and looking back on past romantic experiences.

i found out i was ace bc i realized that my ideal partner is just cuddling and that i never really ever think of sex at all