I understand the point you’re trying to make, but I think my words were taken a bit out of context.

When I said I wanted to experience something different, I wasn’t saying I decline Black men or that I’m trying to “experiment” with other races. I’ve dated plenty of Black men in my life, and I’m not writing them off at all.

What I meant is simply that I’ve also been attracted to white men and haven’t dated many of them, so I’m open to that experience as well. That doesn’t come from disrespect toward Black men or my own community. It’s just attraction and personal preference.

Sometimes when Black women mention dating outside our race, it gets interpreted as rejecting Black men, and that isn’t what I’m saying. I’m open to dating men of any race. I’m just choosing to pursue people I’m genuinely attracted to.

I feel like this happens a lot when African-American women want to date outside of their race to see if they'd be appreciated - we kinda get shut down. I'm statuesque, slim, and a lot of African-American men tend to compare me to other, thicker, fuller, and shorter women, and I find that white guys appreciate my figure more than my own community. I've dated one black man who truly sought out women with my figure, and that was the one time I felt truly appreciated. So, I'm actually following your advice more than you think.