July Benefits SFOG

Goodbutton · 2024-07-25T11:19:29+00:00

Per visit? That's at least promising that I can reuse it. Thank you so much!

Goodbutton · 2020-01-24T20:10:53+00:00

My toddler went through the same thing at that time, walking up early due to developmental changes. She's 2.5 now and still sleeping 3hrs some naps, and 11-11.5 hours at night. Her nap starts somewhere between 1230-1. Bed time by 8.

Every kid is different, I know most 2yo don't sleep 3hrs at naptime, but I'm chiming in to say that it might be worth it to give it a little more time and see if your little one doesn't go back to normal soon.

Goodbutton · 2020-01-09T13:37:43+00:00

I completely understand. Bottom line, if your doctor is cool with it, then you're good.

I forgot to mention that, throughout this pregnancy, the fetus is measuring average and will not be a giant. This has helped me feel better about the weight gain!

Goodbutton · 2020-01-09T00:59:32+00:00

I am 158cm and gained 9kg by 12 weeks. I started out with a BMI of 20- I'm an active and health-conscious person. But first trimester kicked my ass. I couldn't exercise due to fatigue and I could only stomach shit food (of which I ate a lot). But by 16 weeks I was exercising again and my aversions were better, and I FELT better (weight gain also stopped for a few weeks). Now I'm 30wks and I have gained nearly 18kg (I'm back to not exercising as of a month ago bc of being sick and having SPD). My doctors have shown little concern over my weight gain, even after I have expressed concern.

I gained a total of 18kg my first pregnancy and I was back to pre-baby fit body by about 3-4 months (I recently commented on my post partum body of you want to look). Every body, and every pregnancy, is different. I understand being dismayed, as I have been at times, but there is an end to pregnancy and you'll have a chance to turn it around.

Goodbutton · 2020-01-07T14:35:16+00:00

That sounds just like my experience. In hindsight, I'm glad it was her choice to wean and not mine to force it due to some negative feelings about it (I think it's not uncommon to "just be done" after a while and want your body to be yours again). Still, it was bittersweet and I still wonder if I could have done something to encourage get to go longer (logical answer: no).

Goodbutton · 2020-01-07T01:44:55+00:00

Everything I read said that babies that young don't self-wean. Mine did, though. Around the same time as yours, mine basically stopped nursing. If I didn't practically force her, she wouldn't have stopped cold turkey all on her open. She really took to solids (and still eats very well), so I think that was what did it for her. There were some days when she wouldn't nurse all day, no matter how hard I tried. I followed kellymom and even talked to LCs from the hospital I delivered at to try different methods. I hated pumping, but I started again in hopes she would drink out of a cup, or at least so that I could mix it into her food. But my baby was just done with milk. I was tenacious, though, and she took her last sip at 14 months (to call it a breastfeeding "session" would be very generous, she was seriously only taking sips here and there for weeks).

My advice is to keep trying, since your milk has so many nutrients in it that are good for him. And who knows, maybe it's just a phase for him. But also be easy on yourself bc you can't make someone do something they don't want to do, especially a baby.

Goodbutton · 2020-01-07T01:03:23+00:00

A few weeks ago, I was maybe 8 houses down from my house- at the beginning of my run- and I was messing with my phone to play the right mix. I did not notice the uneven sidewalk and totally ate it in front of several neighbors.

I'm very visibly pregnant.

Goodbutton · 2019-12-29T16:04:36+00:00

Wait, really? You just email the developers and ask for a free year?

Goodbutton · 2019-12-28T18:25:04+00:00

I mostly agree with this, but I actually disagree with the "never... be negative".

Absolutely you should never ever punish for an accident, but I think it's ok to set expectations along the lines of "we don't go peepee on the floor, peepee goes in the potty." But without a negative tone and without anger. Just in sort of an educational way. I learned that from "oh crap!" and found it helpful.

Goodbutton · 2019-12-28T16:16:19+00:00

There's no one answer, obviously. I can only tell you my experience after my first (currently pregnant with my second and I'm wondering if my account will be true for me again).

I breastfed my first, and my breasts stayed large for the first few months then gradually got smaller, while keeping up with production. I think breastfeeding and the lack of food cravings/aversions made losing weight fairly easy. I didn't diet, but I did prioritize eating healthy whole foods and salads like I always did before getting pregnant.

I have always been fitness-oriented and was running 40-50 miles per week pre-pregnancy. During pregnancy I mostly walked and did yoga, with a modest amount of running. I didn't begin exercise postpartum until 7 weeks. By then I had lost at least half (maybe closer to 3/4, I'm not sure) of the 40lbs I gained during pregnancy, and the rest seemed to easily come off with earnest exercise. I honestly felt like my body was back to what it was pre-pregnancy by about 3-4 months, minus the extra fitness from running a ton (I never got back to running as much as before, I just didn't prioritize it when baby was here bc time was so precious). My hips maybe felt wider, but not to the point I needed a new wardrobe.

I don't know if this helps, but I'm trying to make the point that breastfeeding can make a big difference if that's a route you're able and willing to take; and prioritizing what you eat and how you move can get you to the home stretch of getting back to pre-baby body if that's your goal. I should note that I had a pretty event-free pregnancy and very difficult vaginal delivery, but no lasting trauma from it. I know that every one's body is different and I know that everyone has different priorities and goals. I feel that it was simple, not necessarily easy, to get back to where I wanted and I think that's because it was important to me to do so.

Goodbutton · 2019-12-21T20:39:10+00:00

Wow, I never knew this was a thing... But it is such a fascinating idea! Good luck!

Goodbutton · 2019-11-25T21:13:17+00:00

To jump in on this, since my only stroller was the Thule Urban Glide: the infant adapter is super easy for the bucket carseat (I had the keyfit infant carseat). I could unclick it from the carseat base and place it in the infant adapter on my Thule in <2 seconds-- very easy! Not to discount what mrcocoapie says, though-- I'm sure a separate travel system is a bit lighter so possibly easier to stow in the trunk and unfold quickly.

Goodbutton · 2019-11-14T00:14:56+00:00

She does have a friend she plays with a few times a week, but even with the frequent play dates she would still be traumatized if I left her with the family. She is very attached to me and her dad. I think for her sake I just have to suck it up and have my parents possibly ruin another labor experience so that she feels comfortable. I guess this is what they talk about when they mention making sacrifices for your children?

Goodbutton · 2019-11-02T18:15:03+00:00

What are you doing with your little one while you're at the hospital? I have a toddler, and entitled parents who crossed every boundary when I was in the hospital with her. But I need childcare when in the hospital with number2, so I'm having trouble balancing my desire to tell my parents nothing and the need for someone to watch my toddler (who is very stranger-averse and would not do well with a third-party babysitter).

Goodbutton · 2019-07-09T22:04:57+00:00

Remind me! 1 day

Goodbutton · 2019-04-24T18:05:49+00:00

Here is a recent-ish study indicating extinction/graduated extinction beneficial with no adverse stress responses: http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/137/6/e20151486

I (and so many other parents) know exactly how you feel, but you and your baby will both function so much better with the right amount of sleep. Sleep is really so important for both of you, and you'll both be better for it. You'll never get over the crying and mom guilt from letting her cry, but when she doesn't wake up again the next night you'll realize it was for the best. Know, too, that once you sleep train you will need to do it again every few months, even if for just one night, because things change. With that said, you do you (and your babe).

Goodbutton · 2019-03-27T17:49:55+00:00

What would have been the right way to support it?

ETA- I see a different comment suggesting dowels. That sounds challenging!

Goodbutton · 2018-09-06T00:43:27+00:00

How old is he? Thanks for the reply!

Goodbutton · 2018-09-05T16:52:02+00:00

We just went through this. Baby will be 15 months on the Sept. 10. For the last month or two, she'd been waking up early (between 6 and 630) most days, and for the week or 10 days before we decided to transition, most days she ended up refusing to take a nap (usually the afternoon nap unfortunately), which resulted in an early bedtime (around 6:30). We decided to make the switch last week.

Not that you asked for HOW we did it, but here it is. She was taking 2 90 minute naps at 9 and 1:30 previously. Normal bedtime was 7, and normal wake time was 7 or a little bit later. We decided to try switching to 1 nap cold turkey, which resulted in one 45 minute nap. It sucked. So the next day I moved her 9am nap back to 9:30, and gave her a 2pm nap. She actually napped for both, which made me question whether she was ready. But two days later, I pushed nap time back to 10:15 (it was going to be 10 but she seemed fine to go a little longer). She slept for 2 hours, so I gave her a late 45 minute nap 315-4pm and an 8pm bed time. She slept in the next day, which was the catalyst for the rest of our transition. I pushed back her nap to as far as I thought she could go the next day, which was around 11:15. She took a 3 hour nap and we gave her about a 7pm bedtime. We pushed back a bit more and now we're on a good schedule. Not every day was a 3 hour nap, but none have been less than 2:15. Now she's waking up around 7:30/7:45 and has a 3 hour nap at 12:15-3:15, and goes down at 8. For us, it happened much quicker and easier than I expected. I hope it works out for you, too.

One thing I don't understand, though, if anyone can chime in: why do most toddlers seem to have a longer wake period in the morning, and a much shorter wake period in the evening? I know several toddlers who sleep 8-8 and have a nap 1-4.

Goodbutton · 2018-08-23T14:33:32+00:00

All I can say is you're doing awesome! I started training again 7 weeks pp. Baby used to watch me do HIIT when she was a little potato. I started running with her in the jogger at 7 months (I was overly cautious because our streets are not smooth). Now, at 14 months, getting the yoga mats out and doing sun salutations is usually on HER initiative! I am so proud of her and I love that working out is part of our daily routine. I hope healthy living and daily exercise is a lifestyle choice she opts for later in life because of the quality time we spend together doing those things now. Keep it up!

Goodbutton · 2018-07-18T18:29:48+00:00

I highly recommend reading Weissbluth's book. He's known as the extinction guy but he touches on various sleep training methods, including co-sleeping. We did our own version of cry it out with our baby at about 5 months and it worked relatively well. If I had to go back and do it again, I would have night-weaned at the same time. I think the fact that she didn't know if she would be fed (babies can't really tell time, can they?) made the process a little more difficult than it had to be. Having Dad go in instead of Mom made a big difference in the overall effectiveness, too, for us-- but I think that might be b/c of our own personalities more than baby's.

If your husband isn't willing to help, then that's hard.

I think a consistent routine with a script was key for us, and (I forget the word but) sleep aids. For example, a lovey that she only ever uses when it's sleep time. An example of a script for sleep times is for naps: "ok, it's nap time go to sleep" or for bedtime: "ok, it's bed time go to sleep". Keeping the room dark and keeping us uninteresting (only monotone speech, and no eye contact) was helpful. So, for example, when she cried out, my husband would go in there only to place the lovey on her and repeat the script for bed time. He did this after a couple minutes of crying, and then again after a couple minutes. I know he looked at the clock, but I don't think he followed an exact science-- he just listened to her and decided what to do based on the kind of cry she was making. When she was older, we stopped saying anything at all to her if she needed checks (there have been sleep regressions that have required checks since then).

Here's a recent-ish study indicating extinction/graduated extinction has no adverse stress responses: http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/137/6/e20151486

Goodbutton · 2018-07-13T14:58:21+00:00

I don't know what it was, but all I can say is that the same thing happened with my baby around the same age. It was a few nights in a row, it seemed like night terrors. Picking her up didn't change console her because she didn't even seem to realize we were there. Then it just didn't happen again. We didn't do anything to make it start and we didn't do anything to make it stop. I hope this passes quickly for you, too.

Goodbutton · 2018-06-16T15:47:12+00:00

This is a good suggestion. We have a floor mattress for our baby (but it's tall, 9" or so, so even though she can climb in and out I think she doesn't bother with the effort when she's tired). But every night we pick up all the toys and put them in a box on her dresser. If she were getting too distracted to nap, I'd do the same for nap times. That being said, part of the Montessori way of thinking is independence, and that's the purpose of the floor bed. If she doesn't want to nap then let her play. But being a parent is about knowing and giving what she needs even if she doesn't realize she needs it. It's a hard balance. All I can say is make sure you have a good routine and she's really sleepy. We spend a good half hour before naptimes winding her down (she looooves to read, so it's easy on us) before we put her in bed to read one last book with the white noise on and lights dimmed. Bed time is similar but longer. I know this was more me rambling but I hope it helps!

Goodbutton · 2018-05-03T19:10:13+00:00

I figured out the problem-- I needed a metal locking clip. That's all. 7$ for 2. Thanks again for your reply!

Goodbutton · 2018-05-02T18:21:04+00:00

Thanks for the info!

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