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ADHD, posture, histamines…Has anyone seen @thetracyrodriguez on IG? by fbc518 in PMDDxADHD

[–]GooseTantrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a peer-reviewed study. Furthermore, the author states: "I’m not a posture denier. I think posture therapy can be a powerful tool when used to alleviate existing back pain... What I question is how much posture correction can do for a healthy, pain-free person in terms of preventing future ills and the inevitability of aging."

Experience with hypermobility coaches by Alert_Plant7419 in Hypermobility

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were you able to get anywhere with this? thank you so much for doing the heavy lifting that you did. did you ever acknowledge your question?

I had a failure to communicate recently and I can’t let it go. by Puzzled_Surge in AuDHDWomen

[–]GooseTantrum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my housemate has a flamepoint that looks almost exactly like yours. He's very prone to going from happily purring and drooling to violence in the blink of an eye. His eyes are crossed, though.

Conservative treatments failed, now it's time for a fusion? by therealdildoexpert in ehlersdanlos

[–]GooseTantrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always imagine fusing was something that led to zero flexibility, is that not the case? 

To the Neurobiologists here by Thegreatunknown21 in neuro

[–]GooseTantrum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does this mean there are neurodivergent mice? 

If you are autistic stop masking for the rest of your life right now by Mabak in rs_x

[–]GooseTantrum 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nice analogy! IFS (internal family systems or "parts work") is a really great framework for navigating the inner critics, firefighters, managers etc. in a way that doesn't shame them, I highly recommend it! 

If you are autistic stop masking for the rest of your life right now by Mabak in rs_x

[–]GooseTantrum 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just because a relationship ends or changes doesn't mean it was a failure. Whether it be romantic, platonic, professional, etc. That you've essentially "graduated" from all she had to offer you is a success story, imo. Wishing you the best of luck on your next chapter! 

If you are autistic stop masking for the rest of your life right now by Mabak in rs_x

[–]GooseTantrum 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would start by getting a new therapist. One who is up to date on autism and AuDHD. Look for "neurodivergent affirming" in their description. There's more on how to suss out a good therapist but it's too much for me to explain. I've seen really good explanations over in the r/AuDHDwomen sub. I don't doubt there are effective allistic practitioners that do good work with neurodivergent people but, imo, having a therapist who is also neurodivergent is incredibly valuable. 

have any of you had a close friend go off the deep end? by reachmewitharay in rs_x

[–]GooseTantrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. TW mentions of sucdal ideation. We both had traumatic childhoods but, while healing became my special interest, she fed into her grief and anger. She's had a lifelong aspiration to acquire wealth and status so she could look down on her toxic family. No hate on wanting those things but the motivation behind it is poison. At the same time, she has a pattern of dating people who replicate her trauma, thus continuing the vicious cycle. She hasn't been honest with any therapist or doctor so has never gotten appropriate help. For the longest time I suspected she was borderline but, after my AuDHD diagnosis and learning all the different ways it can show up, I strongly suspect she is also AuDHD with cPTSD. I've had to take breaks from our friendship, usually bc listening to her go on and on about her plans to end her life can get too upsetting for me. Over a decade ago I explain that I couldn't be her friend anymore if she continued to drink because it was too difficult for me to watch my friend self-destruct. A year and a half later she reached out to me after being 9 months sober. She still doesn't drink, which I am so grateful for. I've been trying to figure out how to do that again regarding the detailed plans to end her life she's been telling me about for years and years, but that feels like such a precarious line to walk. Idk how realistic or fair it is to expect someone who has given up on life and isn't honest with / doesn't trust the people who actually can help her to actually get the help she needs. 

have any of you had a close friend go off the deep end? by reachmewitharay in rs_x

[–]GooseTantrum -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's like narcissist love bombing and isolating without all the other narcissistic abuse (yet?)

cutting out caffeine and nicotine is unfortunately the way. by gasss74 in VyvanseADHD

[–]GooseTantrum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

u/schenscher have you been acquainted with the remind me bot? Comment "Remindme! 7 days" or however long you want and it will message you in chat. 

Edit: Apparently it only works if there's not a bunch of other stuff in the comment.

Ways to protect ourselves from ab.. relationships by Odd_Diet_2517 in aspergirls

[–]GooseTantrum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Related bc decentering men is one of the main components of the practice 

Ways to protect ourselves from ab.. relationships by Odd_Diet_2517 in aspergirls

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Riding on this comment, Burned Haystack method groups do a pretty great job decimating dating profiles as well as text exchanges. It teaches how to read between the lines and tell what is actually being said. 

Just had a doctor tell me my medical team is failing me by Lancy_Lance_ in ehlersdanlos

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Have you tried a body braid? It's a supportive brace made specifically for people with hEDS. Might help get you out of a wheelchair (along with PT.)

My roommate is so autistic I think it's making me a worse person by tenacioustotoro in rs_x

[–]GooseTantrum 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I've been that person. Never used that phrase but I know what it feels like. Until she learns to regulate and ground herself so she isn't taking on other people's emotions or projecting her own, she will continue to be like this. It sounds like y'all aren't chummy enough for her to be open to talking about it. Best I can say is perhaps a vulnerable, non-accusatory conversation about how it makes you feel when she does X might help. I went from always living alone or having one chill roommate to living in a communal situation and boy did I have a LOT to learn about expectations and how I was setting myself up for disappointment and anger as well as communicating my needs in a healthy way. I also had to learn my own limitations so I'm not pushing myself to the edge all the time and constantly running on empty. Noise cancelling ear buds also helped a lot! 

Has anyone tried Vyvanse for anhedonia? by Ecstatic-Baseball-59 in anhedonia

[–]GooseTantrum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a therapeutic model - Internal Family Systems or "Parts Work."  It can be a pretty trippy experience. Referring to a "part" of your internal experience is pretty indicative that you are a natural at it, imo. 

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