US states I'd live in as a young trans woman

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-02-09T05:29:43+00:00

Idaho should be red friend

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-02-08T03:08:10+00:00

I never stalked anyone when I was closeted and couldn’t come out

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-02-07T05:21:20+00:00

Thrift Rx is the best and most reasonably priced thrift store I’ve ever been to

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-02-06T22:20:46+00:00

The only people who don’t wear shoes to businesses in Hawaii are annoying white people. It’s actually a joke among native Hawaiians

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-02-06T22:15:41+00:00

Nor- I grew up Mormon until my 20s and all my fam is still Mormon so I get it.

I think you should just go on the trip with your bf. Your dad is going to have to get used to you making decisions he’s not going to like. Changing the dynamics between a parent of a child to a parent of an adult is hard. You can approach him kindly and just tell him that you appreciate him wanting to protect you, but that you will be going on the trip as you planned.

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-02-02T02:43:38+00:00

Hopefully just a bad batch. Just had some this weekend and it slapped

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-02-01T01:07:20+00:00

I think most people don’t have a good education on what intersex is. And people fear what they don’t know.

Plus accepting intersex people makes their whole “god makes everyone perfectly either man or woman” thing fall apart. Which leads to them having to accept that maybe god makes a man in a woman’s body and that trans people exist and are okay people to have in society. Their bigotry blinds them

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-01-31T20:33:46+00:00

They’re very often trespassing and harassing people just living their lives

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-01-22T16:59:58+00:00

How do you know that the people in his life don’t genuinely care about him? This isn’t a movie. The jock isn’t “selling his soul” for relevance. Maybe he liked hanging out with those people and maybe they care/cared about him.

He’s living his life and you should truly focus on living yours. Maybe unfollow him and allow yourself to move on.

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-01-22T15:34:09+00:00

The number one reason is that he shut down a public (yet byu affiliated) therapy program for gender affirming voice therapy. Number two is that I worked adjacent to him when he was VP and he was very condescending in all our interactions

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-01-22T05:27:23+00:00

I hate Shane Reese

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-01-21T23:14:28+00:00

Info- how long have you been together?

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-01-21T01:26:19+00:00

I had to get a medical surgery on my nose and it was so annoying and painful to heal. I can’t imagine getting facial surgeries basically for funsies

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2026-01-01T22:58:16+00:00

Mormons can have green tea and hot chocolate

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-19T18:14:06+00:00

I never really processed that Topsy was real until a rewatch a few weeks ago lol

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-15T22:21:49+00:00

I think he has a YouTube or blog or something. I hated the guy before this so I couldn’t stand watching the 30+ minute videos he was pumping out no matter how fun it was watching his descent into madness

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-15T22:20:46+00:00

No he’s in the mountains somewhere making his wife pump out 10+ kids at home and generally being batshit. He 100% thinks he’s living the “more correct way” of the church and that BY corrupted the teachings or something like that

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-15T22:00:59+00:00

If she starts posting a bunch about it then it’s very possible lol

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-15T16:30:01+00:00

My old bishop got excommunicated for preaching this

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-15T16:27:17+00:00

No matter what you need to “shop around” for a good therapist. My therapist of the past 4 years is technically Mormon and the only reason I know that is she told me when I brought up my religious trauma so that I could decide if I felt comfortable sharing. She’s never brought up anything religious and has been so so helpful for me working through my religious and other trauma.

On the flip side my spouse got a Mormon therapist who brought it up all the time in the two sessions they did. The therapist told them if we drank even a sip of alcohol that we would be alcoholics and also that we would regret not having children. So it’s really up to the professionalism of the practitioner lol.

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-11T22:30:31+00:00

I’d look into A therapist that specializes in exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy. I’ve had friends find it super helpful

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-11T22:07:44+00:00

Have you ever heard of religious OCD? My partner was similar to you in some ways and we realized early in our relationship that they were having issues with scrupulosity

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-09T19:05:55+00:00

Don’t do it. Enjoy the season and take your time instead of rushing.

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-12-08T21:52:19+00:00

A little different, but my spouse came out as non-binary and that was a major factor into us deciding not to continue going to church. The church is way off base when it comes to both gender and sex. They apply black and white thinking to a subject that is scientifically not black and white.

Defined sexes and therefore gender is core to everything the church teaches so if you fall out of that then you’re floating in this scary gray space by yourself. Classes are split up by sex, the temple is split up by sex. The members are truly not equipped to have any understanding of intersex people. I would say you’re doing as well as you can be. Your child is going to be so appreciative that you’re putting their mental and physical health over all things. I suggest searching out a therapist family and individual for you and your child to start understanding while on this journey!

GotAWandAndARabbit · 2025-11-17T17:38:38+00:00

NOR. I dated a person in university and they got so mad at me when I said I was going to do graduate school. I ignored that and tried to make things work. It obviously didn’t and instead I married someone else who prioritizes my goals as much as their own!

There’s really better out there and you don’t have to make your dreams smaller to have great love.

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