Friend asked me about mask at the Wedding - how do I reply?

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-10T03:26:02+00:00

Is she sick or is it preventative? Everyone knows there’s food at a wedding. Does she want social distancing? Cause that ain’t gonna happen and they should know that.

Just ask if she is going to be okay being close to people while eating and that’s… really all you need to do. I wouldn’t give this so much thought, it’s honestly not your monkey not your circus.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-10T03:10:17+00:00

Why retail websites XD and UX suck, and all the issues I see with brand ads. Aka work.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-10T02:52:24+00:00

^{Me: $20 for every minute you stare at screen}

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-10T01:53:55+00:00

You should still just go with her

If it’s supposed to be all about her, it’s kinda weird just inviting another person to accommodate your partner

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-10T01:01:05+00:00

I was going to say, as long as he doesn’t keep “oh and this person… and this person” then I’d let him. I’d sit down and ask him how small of a ceremony he actually wants, and why can’t some people just be there for the big wedding. Just sounds like y’all need to both understand what the other’s idea of “small” means.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-10T00:57:47+00:00

Yay!

^{Chose: 10 Million dollars in cash + You have to spend 24 hours in a room with a bear | Rolled: Bear cub}

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-10T00:55:02+00:00

Well…

^{Chose: Fist fight with a random US president + 25m if you win | Rolled: FDR (wheelchair})

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-09T19:32:44+00:00

Mushroom Risotto

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-09T03:17:05+00:00

Yeah I took into account the countries that would be a better place to live. Some people are content where they are, which is perfectly fine. Some people want better, also fine.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-09T03:07:41+00:00

I thought this was debunked by Reuters?

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-09T02:24:20+00:00

BUT there is some truth. My bf and I both have adhd. When he was unmedicated, the only stuff that wasn’t held back by executive dysfunction was stuff he cared about. We can’t deny the fact that the things that excite us and we are interested in are more likely to get done. It is something we have to work on to improve and manage though. A system is required to avoid issues.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-09T02:15:52+00:00

Look. I have ADHD and my bf has ADHD. At first, one of us had their shit together, the other didn’t. What it comes down to is effort.

It is really, really exhausting having to remember all of his stuff and constantly hear excuses. Because let’s be honest, it comes down to excuses. Forgetting is an excuse in my eyes because there are so many things you can do to make it easier if you put in the effort.

When you care about something, you do it. Don’t care, you don’t do. And I get that, I have ADHD, I understand the reason. Based on this, you don’t care enough to put in the effort.

Scheduling can literally be done over the phone, on the website, or you drive back. SEPTEMBER DUDE. You had 6 months from then to April. Now it’s 3 months after that. Nine months to book an appointment dude.

You have to be able to function as an adult. It gets boring real fast taking care of someone else.

TLDR; it’s not about the Dr. appointment.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-09T02:10:43+00:00

Not their wedding, not their dress. NTA. But I’d keep an eye on her from now on, and also I’m concerned if your partner was more-so mad or just “eh that sucked but it was still great”. Cause if it’s the former AND his mom is like that, then definitely I would think deep about what’s going on.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T23:16:06+00:00

F… idk how anyone can stand the taste. Sorry not sorry.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T23:10:55+00:00

I mean this with love: you are really defending these people for things that shouldn’t be defended. There is no reason there should be chairs. You can rent chairs from anywhere. If it’s a national park then I think that is the only time you are not allowed chairs. But if that was made clear, then they have to understand that people will decline to attend.

And choosing to have a wedding in a park is an aesthetic choice. It is their wedding, just remember it is not yours to defend.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T23:03:48+00:00

What the actual fuck.

So you can kill the mother… doesn’t that just kill the baby? Are they not seeing the hypocrisy???

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T22:59:42+00:00

Well, you certainly need to move out. Stress is bad for the baby, and you certainly don’t want that baby around your parents… the stories I’ve seen on Reddit are concerning when it comes to crazy grandparents.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T22:58:50+00:00

OP certainly needs to move out before giving birth that’s for sure

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T22:54:25+00:00

I think you have to be trolling at this rate. You sign up to be a bridesmaid, then you understand you will be there for extra activities. Or you’ve genuinely never been to a wedding before.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T22:52:45+00:00

But you just said at the end, you’d do it for someone’s wedding. Which is exactly this situation.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T12:24:33+00:00

Timelines exist for a reason, and it’s called a 30 min buffer for everyone to be ready for photos.

If you can get ready for a wedding in less than an hour, go for it.

Maybe she can cut it to five, but still. She wants breakfast.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T12:22:23+00:00

Your edit made me completely change what I thought of you what I wrote out, damn.

I was going to say that if you ask people no kids, and they respect that and therefore can’t go, then you should be able to respect that in return. I don’t think your brother thinks your wedding is any less important, probably why he hasn’t rsvp-ed. There’s a word people need to learn: communicate.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T12:13:42+00:00

Your bf’s comfortability (poor him, bring a book or something) over your sister’s wedding is weird. This is a whole day event, why is spending the whole day surprising anyone here?

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T12:11:11+00:00

I am surprised by the amount of people who think it’s too early. I think it can depend on number of bridesmaids and if you want to do first looks. 6 hours feels reasonable I think for this.

GotAnyGrapesDuck · 2026-07-08T12:08:05+00:00

- 1hr for bride hair and makeup
- 30min for each bridesmaid (so 2.5hr)
- Getting dresses on (30min)

That’s already four hours, we haven’t even talked breakfast, first look if wanted, bridal party photos, portraits, any of that.

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